When did your denial become long term?

Mistress and I started last fall without a device and was allowed to cum about once every 2-3 days. Then it turned into a week. Once we got a device a CB6000s then it turned into two weeks. We took a break for about a month and a half and we were having PIV and I'd cum at least 3-4 time a week. We decided to get serious and we got the BON4 which then it was a month then almost 2 months. Now she's telling me that it's going to be a lot longer this time. I suspect 3-4 months and sometimes she'll tell me I may never get to cum again. Exciting and scary at the same time...

 

We just kind of went into it blindly. Then she started really getting into and loving her control over me which I love as well.

 

mine got longer and longer and longer as well.

 

I have been denied for the longest 5 weeks and 5 days to which I then came. I have just brought a cage and I'm looking to go several months without coming coz I know my mistress loves the attention she gets from me when I'm all horny

 

After my Rikers arrived, I wore it for a few days before handing the keys over to my girlfriend. That was July of 2015 and she has held them since. My first lock up was 30 days right off the bat and that was difficult to take for a guy who's longest time without cumming was 8 days! From there we have gone as much as 60 days and as little as 2 weeks. She wants to work up to allowing me only 3 or 4 full orgasms per year. It just depends on what she wants and I'll will happily do whatever she decides.

 

Here is our (me & my KH wife) experience
Chastity has indeed reversed our temperaments by making me submissive and her dominant
Initially she used to release me 1-2 times a week for PIV sex, because I used to get too horny and I used to force her to release me
Gradually (with 6 months) she realized the power in controlling me by keeping me locked
She also noticed that longer lockup duration made me more submissive, caring, obedient and tamed husband
So my release frequency reduced to 1-2 times a month and later 1-2 times in 6 months
In the mean time she did not want to miss her pleasures, so we tried me giving her oral sex
I never imagined that this newly found 'oral sex' is going to lead me to permanent chastity!
You all know the rest of the story!

 

My chastity ticker is currently showing the longest ever period of denial I have ever experienced, approaching seven weeks. We started with chastity last October and I have been pushed further and further each time. I have just hit the stage where the level of feeling turned on has got to the point where I am begging to be allowed to cum, so it will be interesting to see what happens this weekend. Last night my Wife said no, the first time she has been so firm.

 

Since the wife started taking the key to my device, the times in which I am locked up have been getting longer. Last year she had me go for 2 months three times. The start of this year she had me locked for 2 1/2 months. What lies ahead only she knows, but I would venture to say longer times in chastity are in my cards. She tells me she loves how anxious I get in order to serve her the longer her cock is locked away.

 

For us it was not until year two. We wanted to see how far I could go. We reached 3 1/2 months before I had an orgasm. We kept my orgasms to one every few months. However, in year my orgasms were more like once every month or two. In year four it is mostly 2-3 weeks. I have found that I have better orgasm if I am denied for shorter periods of time. I reached the law of diminishing returns as far as my orgasms go. Too long and my semen is very thick with sperm so it short of comes out like a volcano with lava flowing down the sides of my penis. 3 weeks is my sweet spot because I have a powerful orgasm that shots so far that it often hits me in the face when I am laying down. I enjoy it more too.

By now we have left all the D/s stuff behind us and just do teasing and denial. My orgasms are not dependent on how good or bad I am. Of course, if I piss off my wife she will not want to have sex with me until she cools down but that is the same whether I am locked up or not. I no longer constantly talk about being locked up or want to touch my wife every chance I get. I know longer want to massage her feet to feel aroused. I just got used to being locked up 24/7 so that it feels normal to me now. I can even remain unlocked for up to two weeks before I feel the need to masturbate so that allows my aging skin to recover from being locked up all the time.

At my age I figure that I do not know if I will have another orgasm or not. My friends are here one day and gone the next, so I want more than 3-4 orgasms a year. I am more into S&M and have been for many decades. I got into chastity because the women who sexually dominated me is no longer around. My wife does not like to hurt me but that has changed in the last few months. She is beginning to enjoy inflicting some pain on me with her various whips. She especially l likes ball busting. Apparently my moans of pain turn her on.

This year was to be a play it by ear year. I did not even know if I wanted to keep wearing my cage every day. It is a royal pain to clean up after peeing and I stopped wearing it when I went out of the house. There is absolutely no reason to, since i am not going to masturbate when visiting friends or getting a haircut. We are more into the tease and denial aspect of chastity. It feeds my sexual masochist needs without pain. Even my wife wanted to do shorter denial periods. She enjoys the feeling of making me cum for her. We have tried just about every fetish out there and some have stuck with us while others ran their course until they were no longer enjoyable. 3 years seems to be our limit on our sex games except BDSM which is been my thing since i was 19 and a cuckold to a woman I lived with.

Like many here, I wanted to see how long I could l go and did. We even tried permanent orgasm denial but with no hope of an orgasm, it was no fun at all. After a few months I lost interest in sex. Just keep going one week longer each time until you reach your comfort zone. There are not rules or prizes for going the longest without an orgasm so do it for your own fun. For some, denial for a week is unbearable. For others it is a few months. Find your sweet spot and stick with it. You may also want to consider short breaks from chastity play as we are now doing. It keeps chastity play from becoming boring.

 

We started 4 Yeats ago a slowly it go more and more serious or strict would be a better word .last year I had two full orgasms only :-( and like you my wife had a low sex drive now also she cum alot with or with out me .i cum very little she now only unlocks me (apart from cleaning )to milk me with a ruined orgasm as she loves feeding it to me it turns her on...so now over time that's all I get unlocked ruined eat it it make her cum and locked back up I am just here to be used it seems in the bed very erotic and bloody frustrating haven't had an orgasm this year and she has hinted I won't be having one this year :-( lol
We are the happest we have ever been it's odd how things evolve I will be cooking her dinner tonight as usual
Love my mistress wife so much

 

I really would give anything for a woman to have my keys and make me wear it long term. No matter how much I begged she would just increase time and torture me because of it as well. Hopefully soon I can have a Mistress that would do that to me, personally I would go insane since I am pretty addicted to masturbating, I only been able to hold on for about two weeks.

 

Same story, firstly a couple of days, then weeks then months. We then got serious by getting a PA and ditching the ball trap devices. It has now been more than 2 years since my last release and it appears I may have had my last. It was all a natural progression as the benefits became more obvious to both of us and D became more confident in her role and enjoyed the control that came with it.

 

Hello LWL.

We have been at this just over 12 years. The first 7+ we both struggled with what we wanted enforced male chastity and orgasm denial to be for us. I wanted it to be everything I read about...the teasing, the denial, the edge play, contracts, pegging, me pegging her...the long list of associated kink. We had yet another loggerhead disagreement and out sex life ceased. I dug in and she dug in...for months. It sucked. It was as bad as it was after our sexlife was nearly destroyed by the manic necessities of conceiving our first child (fertility issues) which led me to spring the use of a chastity device upon her to revive our long lost mystery and spontaneity. Finally, I cracked. I asked her if she missed our sexlife. She said yes. I asked if she missed "the chastity thing". She said absolutely. I asked how we could make it work then. She said she would try again if I let go...if I would let her be in control at HER pace and HER comfort zone without the tantrums, whining, bitching and accessing the emergency key in a fit of temper or demanding my key in anger. I agreed. We hit the reset button as we were deciding to conceive our second child through a fertility specialist. It got very kinky...I was reduced to a stud supplying my seed then I would be relocked...au naturale with meds failed and we needed more dramatic intervention which meant trips to the clinic to produce my seed...plugged, wearing pantyhose and smelling her previous days sexy undies while releasing myself into the sample cup...finally we had a pregnancy...I was locked but released frequently as her hormones made her sex crazed...I became so into my Wife/Mistress/Keyholder and her growing belly and breasts....then the doctor cut us off due to high risk...and that was the beginning over 4 years ago. I had that last orgasm and I have had one since...only 2 in a 4 1/2 year span. There is more intimacy now than ever before...she has orgasms 3 to 5 times a week. No ruined orgasms...I just had my first anal/prostate orgasm...I honestly cannot see her permitting me to penetrate her or being taken orally by her. I asked her if I have had my "last" orgasm. She didnt say yes....but she did not say no either. There is so much more I could include, but hopefully this lets you know where I came from...we used to have intercourse and oral 4 to 7 days a week in our early days...and here we are in a far different dynamic yet incredibly happy. Crazy. It seems to work though.


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It appears from the above posts that most of us seem to enjoy staying locked up for longer duration!
Can we call it the success of this lifestyle?
At least in my case permanent chastity has brought in amazing changes in both of our life!

 

My present 62 day period of orgasm denial has become not just long term but permanent.
My wife has just told me how much better behaved I have been in my present period of orgasm denial and she sees no reason why things should change. She said that full sex with me is less important to her now as long as I am pleasuring her in other ways. She said that she may change her mind at some time in the future but for now I should consider it permanent.
She doesn't want me to pester her for sex she said that when she wants re!ief she will either ask me or do it herself whether I'm there or not.
I have been ordered never to remind her how long it's been since we !ast had sex or the last time I had an orgasm or say anything to make her feel guilty about it in any way.
It's put my mind in a complete spin.. On one hand I find the thought really daunting but on the other hand the thought is really hot!

 

Only been locked by my wife after I introduced her to male chastity on the 11 th March this year..

My first orgasm was a week later ( I'd not cum for two weeks prior to introducing her to chastity though). My behavior changed and she told me straight that she regretted letting me cum.

My next orgasm came 23 days later but I did get a ruined orgasm 9 days before my last release.

I'm now on day 7. My wife says I won't cum for at least 23 days as she wants me to beat my record. I'm guessing 30 is in her mind..

We only started in March. I've only orgasmed twice since.