Caged too long being counterproductive

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    We're working on longer lockups, I'm up to about 2/3 weeks on average. Month is goal. That said I feel like I was locked for too long and forgot how good a nut felt. That I'd lose motivation to be good to get out of cage. Has anyone been locked so long it quit having the desired results?
     
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    It's not about your nut. It's all about her, you need to thank her for the opportunity to nut if she gets you.
     
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    It's based on orgasm control. If you never orgasm again or it's been so long you forger what it feels like. I could see being in the cage too long quit having the same results.
     
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    For a while I found 6 weeks to be my sweet spot. Given the effect you're describing (body gets used to it) relative to the amount and intensity of teasing. But teasing has gone up and a more intense dynamic, which has kept me quite attentive and frustrated longer. At 4 weeks right now, we'll see how I am in a couple of weeks. Several ruins, some PIV, feeling into the intensity of her orgasms keeps me on a roller coaster of sexual intensity.

    I agree, though, too long of flatlined activity makes it more challenging to sustain sexual frustration.
     
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    In my recent experience it’s not just yourself who will get bored of lock-ups.
    We recently went two months without using the key at all, after that long even my wife became disheartened by the situation.
    Finding the right balance that works for your relationship is imperative rather than just aiming for an extension each time.
     
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    I’ve been without an orgasm for almost 7 months now. I’m still ruined on occasion (but only while caged) and I do get unlocked fairly often when my wife wants me inside her. While it’s difficult to remember what an actual orgasm feels like, or even what cumming while hard feels like for that matter, when I watch my wife orgasm it reminds me just how wonderful it could feel and that keeps me wanting my own. If we weren’t so involved there would probably be less motivating me but as it is now the desire is always there even if I know the opportunity isn’t.
     
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    I think some persistent teasing would put answer to that concern. For me, it's not about wanting to remember what it feels like to have a full orgasm out of the cage, but wanting to get out of the cage and knowing that's not gonna happen anytime soon and that's where the real thrill is. If she wants you locked up for longer, then just go with it. :+1:

    Maybe she could occasionally throw in a little "surprise" to catch you off guard and make things a little more interesting along the way. Just a thought. :cool:
     
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    It takes a lot longer than a month to forget what an O is like.
    As for desired results, it depends on your desire.
     
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    I'm aware but there's people caged indefinitely it seems like. Just wondering if it ever has an adverse result after extremely long times.
     
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    #10 Kiesela, Feb 1, 2024
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    I stopped getting proper hard erections which could be seen as advantageous or adverse depending on your desires..
    I do miss being able to get really unfettered hard but I don't miss nightime caged boners.
     
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    I wouldn’t compare yourself with them… You’re just looking to extend your sessions, not make it permanent. That’s like comparing apples to lemons.

    My suggestion is to experiment with longer times and find a sweet spot where you can stay locked up longer without losing your desire. You can only accomplish that with trial and error. So go progressively longer each session and make note how you feel and you can agree on a maximum session length. It’ll be downhill from there.
     
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    I have trouble getting erections since high blood pressure resulted in the need for medication. My wife still enjoys penetration from time to time and once I have access to a magic pill and some coaxing, I have no trouble satisfying her.

    Now to back up some, even before I take a magic pill and am caged, she can do or say something that has me wanting to throw her on the floor and have my way with her. Even when we sit in the hot tub and she get frisky and want to be pleased, I am there to bring her satisfaction even knowing I will remain locked. The good news is I still get some slight erections in the middle of the night that causes swelling against my cage. In the past that always presented some difficulty accepting, now I actually look forward to it.

    its safe to say, I enjoy it immensely and look forward when I have an orgasm.
     
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    I agree. I'm in the same boat.
     
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    Does your flaccidity a result of being locked full time?
    And is your cabin on a lower deck?
     
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    I've been locked for a few multi-month times, with the longest being 4 months. I don't cum in the cage and I don't do any of the milking things either. It's 10.5 months since I had an ejaculation or orgasm.

    I have experienced some down moments, that have lasted a few days, but all the horniness soon comes back.

    Once, I was locked for a couple of months and I truly felt like the colour and flavour of everything had disappeared. She unlocked me and I had some free-range time. I believe I was experiencing dopamine withdrawal.

    Aside from that I have constantly felt insanely horny and deeply in lust with her.

    She is a big tease, practically every morning and every evening. That likely helps.
     
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    I’ll say that while I doubt I’ll ever forget what a full orgasm feels like… she does use the key often as she likes PIV and PIA with the real thing. That being said, my behavior and putting her first hasn’t waned as she now uses “getting out of the cage for a fuck” the motivation since orgasms are off the table for the foreseeable future.

    Plus I find the pleasure aspect of those sessions even more amazing than 10 sec of busting a nut, and while I still absolutely want to, that intense feeling that’s built over the time without of just feeling all the sensations of sex without the orgasm are enough to keep me motivated.

    So currently my time since last full O is about 263 days (she has a year goal in mind) and while there are some tough times, overall I wouldn’t change it at all. Not sure I’d tell her, but I’d be ok if she’d push things longer and longer. She does relieve the pressure some now and then with the Njoy wand on the prostate and that makes me dribble quite monumental amounts of fluid…plus it’s quite hot knowing she’s in full control.
     
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    So far it hasn't made me a sarcastic homophobe.

    The game changer with us is that she is turned on by me being caged and erection and orgasm free. It's not really about me any more. It's an in for a penny in for a pound situation. Reading comments on here make me think I'm in a rare and lucky situation so I've decided to go with it.
     
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    I used to experience very distinct stages in a denial cycle. First few days were pretty good, I was horny. About day 7, I got kinda irritable. Day 14ish was my zen "I never want to cum again" stage. A few days later I would get really horny again.

    I don't know if it is age, experience, or a change in our dynamic, but I tend to be in the zen stage a lot more now. I've learned what selflessness in this dynamic is like, and I like it. I have given my sexuality over to her and I like it that way. My orgasm isn't important anymore so it doesn't really matter if I remember what it feels like or not.

    ...and as an added curveball, my first orgasm after any longer than 2 weeks is super intense and painful, so a lot of times when she lets me cum, she limits me to that one.
     
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    #20 Muppet, Feb 1, 2024
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    It sounds as if what you want is to feel aroused and frustrated, then to have very pleasurable release; in other words, extremely prolonged edging. I certainly would imagine that long term lockup would not be compatible with this because beyond a certain point you’d effectively have withdrawn from the dopamine addiction you’ve cultivated. But that’s what my KH and I wanted - I have replaced my addiction to orgasms with an addiction to pleasing her in other ways. She doesn’t have to do anything for me at all, because my satisfaction is simply a derivative, a byproduct, of hers.
    It’s like with smoking: if you’re a smoker and you quit for 3 weeks, when you lapse and smoke, that cigarette will be so fantastic you might weep; but if you quit for a year and smoke, your first cig on lapsing will just make you feel a bit sick. At that point you’d have to work to get your habit back.

    In essence it seems you want to be lashed to a wheel of need and satisfaction; I want to be free of it.
    It’s horses for courses, as my former landlord Terry Carcass used to say.
     
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    I also get the irritables sometimes.
    Luckily I don't live with my Keyholder so I get to be irritable alone.
    She calls it precumstrual tension.

    Personally Ive found that being locked long term does get easier after the first 3 months ish.
     
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    What is the name of the medication that does this?
     
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    Who is it counterproductive for? If it is thee then you need to spend longer caged. Your erections and orgasms don't matter any more. You've had them, that time is over. It is the era of vagina worship and that will be the how you spend your last days on this earth.
     
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    We don't all do this the same way or for same reasons. I'll never permanently give up orgasms if others want to fine by me.
     
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    Whatever you're smoking, please share with the rest of us! :p
     
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