So No - vember I wrote up a simple contract to let her start taking control. No chastity at this time. That was a no go for her at this time. But she is open to her roll of being in control. ( she already was for the most part ) So now she is new to this roll and I need to help her on this path. What I am looking for is some non porn easy reading for a vanilla person explaining about tease and denial. Thank you for any help that you can bring for us.
Emma over at www.EvolvingYourMan.com has some good intro blogs on the subject. He passion for chastity does come through, but from the womans view.
A work that was "reasonably" well written: https://www.amazon.de/Ultimate-Guid...179VQBIM&revisionId=e1e4f2ba&format=1&depth=1 Otherwise, it is worth searching "women's sites" on the web: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/ruined-orgasms https://badgirlsbible.com/what-is-edging And of course blogs: https://worldblog.mysteryvibe.com/blogs/learn/beginners-guide-orgasm-denial https://www.bellesa.co/collective/450/edging-101-a-beginners-guide-to-orgasm-denial
I wonder if it might be worthwhile to get all these links put in a sticky threat at the top with the other two there, along with any more members can recommend, so there is a go to reference post for new members?
As often as you ask yourself this question, you might think it would be good to summarize it. Questions about cage measurement, A-ring circumference, FLR, orgamus refusal, etc. come up again and again. However, it is also difficult to find sites that provide the information in a static and reliable way.
I think you need to see where this evolves naturally. My wife and I were swingers and moved into bdsm with her as the bottom. Over time our roles switched and she locked control over me, punishments and denial. We stumbled across chastity and played around a bit. One day we moved from plastic cages which did nothing for her and into metal. At the pool she took off her clothes and I followed and when the sun glistened off the metal she was hooked. Now she is the driving force, loves the control over my cock.
Thanks for posting, I found this interesting as it is similar to my own progression only the other way round, we have always been a bdsm/ flr relationship with madam the Dom, but she is switch as well, so when she felt like it i would be allowed to be the Dom, and I would be unlocked, then madam stated domming other slaves and after a while she starting talking about using one as a sex slave and cuckolding. I always said no but then one night after she had mentioned it again, she told me my cock was inadequate and didn’t satisfy her, she said it was going to happen. And I was to get used to it as I was her slave. It did happen and it went from sex slave to sex to her letting him Dom her. And here we are now! I find it interesting how the different scenes over lap in different ways.