Why do you like being caged?

I'm naturally submissive and it makes me more willing to serve, so I like it.

 

Hi, I think you touch a few points that make sense to me.
- It is mental
- It prevent from touching myself which help me to be better overall
- I like to be denied
- I like that my GF owns me during this time
- Having a small penis is just an other reason to be lock

I wish I could be lock 24/7 but i'm not there yet.
Im sure everybody is different.

 

That is a great question RonDom.

For me it is a variety of your proposals. We kind of fell into this aspect of our sex lives by chance. We invested in a selection of traditional sex toys just to add to intimacy and amongst the usual toys, vibrators, handcuffs, cock rings etc was a cock cage. We started simply with me caged and her doing her thing to tease me. This escalated to days caged and her teasing and me having to satisfying her with whatever means without the use of my penis.

In my experience with my previous sexual partners there was always "a need to perform", and I have never had any doubts in my ability, being caged lifted that burden from me when we are not having PIV sex.

Size of my penis isn't a factor and never has been in any of my sexual relationships, so I can discount that in my case.

My wife and KH controls everything in respect to the sexual side of our relationship. I enjoy being controlled, and sometimes she wants to be controlled, and I'm freed to use my penis, so it's a nice symmetry.

She likes to see my bodily responses to not being able to become erect of have a traditional ejaculation. It's very much a battle of wits and wills!

She loves to leave me begging for release and stopping what she is doing and enjoy my frustration, but then again, it is no different to me stopping stimulation of her clit or G spot !

Either way I love it!

 

first im a chronic masturbator and I wanted to stop, I enjoy the feeling of being forced to save all my sexual energy for my Goddess, and I love being a submissive little bitch for her, the throbbing and teasing of the chastity cage is top tier .

 

Are you 24/7 locked?

 

I like 1) the power exchange, 2) the feeling of having an intimate connection with someone

 

I don't like it. It's horribly uncomfortable.

 

Wife was dominate outside the bedroom, i wanted that in the bedroom too. I asked her to lock me and she liked the idea.

I have found my place.

 

It makes my wife the center of my life and that is where I want her to be.

 

Couldn’t have said it better myself.

 

For me it started as something “kinky” more from a BDSM perspective.. played with it during sex sessions to spice things up.

Being a masturbation junky, I tried to go longer and longer to keep the spiced-up feeling.

While wearing longer, not able to orgasm I found that the constant horny rush became addictive as well. Finding that after cumming, the post-orgasm drop let all hornyness flow away.

Being caged gives me:
- the constant horny rush from not being able to masturbate / orgasm
- the naughty feeling of my little secret when I’m in public and/or around others
- every time I touch or see the cage and especially when getting hard in the cage, my thoughts float to my wife. Where my only sexual relief comes from…
- when locked during sex, it keeps me high all the time, enjoying the sex much more (something like kamasutra describes)
- if there is no unlock during sex at all, it keeps me in that euphoric state! Craving to please my wife again and even better

 

Oh my! All of this and more. I could write a book on it, it would take me forever, and then no one would read it. It would be too nerdy.

• Fidelity
• Integrity
• Safety
• Humility
• Security
• Constant buzz
• Self-control during sex
• Humility
• Refocused on wife's pleasure
• Absolutely amazing orgasms when finally released
• More sex than ever before
• Better sex than ever before
• Humility
• Gives me a normal package size in my shorts
• Better sleep @ night (Yes, after the break-in, I no longer get awakend by nocturnal erections)
• Less temptation to touch myself & masturbate
• Humility
• A wife who is very, very happy & content
• I love being in bed naked (except for the cage) with my wife & vice versa

 

Why do I like being caged?...Good question.
Our Male Chastity lifestyle started off by me showing my Wife a penis cage and she went along with it. Then as she read more about M.C. and how it benefited her, she thought it was a great idea. Now after five plus years of her in control of our sex lives, she wouldn't have it any other way. I have now gone 17 months orgasm free. My Wife (KH) allows me some "free time", when she take the cage off and lets me go without for a few hours. Most of the time I'm tied up and she will get me hard and tease me.
I now hate being cage free and enjoy being locked up again.
I love being denied, I love being horny all the time and I love having my Wife (KH) in full control of my sex life.
Wearing a cage has just become "normal" for us now. I can go a week or so without any teasing or touching, and I'm good with that. I still have to take care of my Wife's wants. I'm just happy that she is happy and enjoys how we live now...

 

For me it's being detached from something that has controlled me my whole life. We use it (penis) more like a toy and only bring it out on the weekends. Otherwise I'm locked 24hrs a day Monday-Saturday.

 

That masochistic thrill - i like pain in balls a little, feeling helpless and seeing woman sadistically taking pleasure in my face while she make sure I cant... but only in sexual way so... there s something about that kind of power in human sexuality... that can manifest...

What I dont feel - i don feel inadequate - i have solid tool and never had problems about that.

Its just somehow that my mind in sexuality wandered to those femdom types of scenario and i m finding it more sexually arousing... dunno the real reason why is it like that precisely... am i born for that ? is it nurture? something about mom long time ago... dont know... but pornography has a reinforcing pattern ...

 

I do not necessarily like it. But it is a great control aspect.

 

Big question, and a great question. I am one of "those" guys. I love being locked. Why? It's so strange. I love being locked up so much, I really never want to take it off, To have PIV with my wife is a bit of a sacrifice because I have to take the cage off. Why do I like it? The reasons are numerous:

• I love the way it feels
• I love the way it looks
• I absolutely love nighttime erections inside it. They hurt in a most excellent way.
• I will not jerk-off in a cage
• I feel secure when wearing one.
• This is weird, but I have a sense of pride in wearing one. A kind of, "ha, ha, look what I'm wearing and you're not".
• It's a form of marriage "ring". It's a physical sign that my wife owns the key and therefore my cock. And I love that she owns it.

It's hard to say which of the above are the most important. It changes from time to time. Right now, I love the feel. It's feels tight, a bit heavy. It pulls on my balls. Although I know I have a penis, I don't feel it. Not even against my underwear. I do find it really strange. What is it about the damn thing? I feel like Gollum in the Lord of the Rings. I need to find "Precious". In fact, that's a great idea. I now have a name for my cage. Precious.

 

You've added some very important points to my list. Humility, the contant buzz, (you have humility four times on your list. I guess it really does make you humble), better orgasms, more/better sex. You've nailed it.

 

My reason run all across the board and evolved over the years. We started during our BDSM days when we started switching and she took over the dominant role in the bedroom. We stumbled into chastity in a sex toy shop while looking for some new toys. The young lady at the counter showed us the cage and we tried it that evening. Being plastic, it did not last long before the seam split and hurt like hell. We then looked on line and found a cage (avatar picture) that lent to easy hygiene and no pinching or chaffing.

I would star wearing it during the day and extend my hours until I could go the whole day and then overnight. We started using it mostly on the weekends where I would lock up on Friday after work and not get released until Sunday evening. Since it was summer and we spent all our outside time around the pool, we would mostly be naked because of the seclusion our property provided. Several times on Saturday she would beckon over to please her. The same would follow on Sunday and finally I would get uncaged and get my release by jerking off, getting sucked off, or having sex.

On those weekends where it rained, it was to the basement for more of a BDSM theme but always was for her pleasure. Again, I would be let out on Sunday night and it would be for my pleasure. Then on weekend, we had a discussion to try a whole week caged and see where it went. During the week she would tease me and lead me on and then the weekend would come and it ended up with the best sex we ever had. Slowly it ended up with me being locked all the time with releases now scheduled for Saturday nights.

We then talked and every weekend out changed to some 2 week sessions locked, but new things were introduced. After the BDSM sessions, we started to include her being fucked by me wearing a harness and strapon while still caged. She would experiment with various sized strapons and did a few impressively sized dildos.

We started to experiment with pegging and its not like in the movies, it took some time before I was able to take a dildo fully inserted and for her to pound me. Milkings were also started and were enjoyable and yet frustrating at the same time. My wife took pride during either the pegging or milking sessions on how much fluid she could get out of me.

Now we observe Lent and Locktober each year and i actually feel naked when no caged. While we have an equal partnership in our marriage, she owns my cock and I love it.

 

I keep trying to answer that question for myself. Looking above, all of these "textbook" answers (can't masturbate, can't come, more submissive, blah blah, blah) can all be done without the intervention of a cage.

Simpler answers, like how it looks, or how it feels, tend to be more believable to me.

Maybe it's akin to Clark Kent/Superman. When I am wearing the "costume" I can take on this other role with less guilt and shame. I don't know.

I am still trying to figure out why on earth I would want to put something like this on, and thendeny myself from playing with one of the best toys in the toy box? It's a real mind-F.

 

I wear mine for many reasons:

1. It is a constant reminder of the control I have willingly given Her
2. It keeps me at a steady constant level of arousal
3. It is comforting. I feel uncomfortable when free
4. It makes the the limited orgasms I do have incredible

Most importantly It has taken the pressure off of Her to have sex which was always an issue with Her low sex drive and my high sex drive. I now enjoy the denial more than anything. I never know if She is denying me on purpose or simply because She doesn't want to have sex. Either way, the mental aspect of tease and denial is like a drug to me.

 

Yes that sums up my feeling also.

 

I have wondered about this. I am single now and still love it and want more. It was my idea with ex. We tried a few times and stopped bc she had problems being a dom. Was great when did. I enjoyed feeling being a sub, and doing what she wanted, being teased and denied and so much more. Hopefully one day