Today was one of our sex days and my wife had 3 orgasms within an hour which is pretty good for a 64 year old women, especially since her friends do not have any sex at all. Since we started orgasm denial with a chastity cage, my wife went from not wanting sex much to enjoying it so much that she is having the most intense orgasms of her life. I like the fact that she is having orgasms like she did in our younger days, but she often laughs during her orgasm and always laughs at my sexual frustration. Today she laughed during each orgasm. She was in rare form, performing oral and edging me with her hands for an hour. She was laughing all the time though. She said that she laughs because of the sounds I make when sexually frustrated. When I begged her to let me cum she said that she is enjoying denying me to much and that I know how bad I feel the day after my orgasm and the next two weeks when my hormones are building up to urge me to have sex. She is right. After all this time I only feel like having an orgasm during sex when she is teasing me. Other than that, I lost the urge to have an orgasm outside of sex. I know that most websites that deal with chastity have either cuckoldind, FLR or some form of a D/s relationship where the key holder is serious and demanding. Just wondering how many of you have a KH that like us, treats Chastity with orgasm denial as a fun sex game and not to be taken seriously. I am still the dominant one in our marriage but my wife now has say in our sex life. I have never seen my wife have so much fun during sex. We had great sex in our marriage but not the kind where she laughed through her orgasms like this. I guess I am wondering how many KH treat this seriously and in a dominant way and how many treat chastity as a fun game for all with lots of begging and laughing?
Elle has at the very least a big grin on her face at my antics when she is having fun. Very often this turns into laughter. I think Elle's approach to chastity is that it is a very important and nonnegotiable part of our relationship but it still has to be fun. If she didn't enjoy our interaction she would not be so interested. She loves the play but she also loves the way that me being chaste makes me feel, how I respond so positively to her, how it has helped me focus on her and our holistic approach to our relatnship. There are long periods where no sexual activity happens due to our real lives but that doesn't mean I get released and chastity is forgotten about. Earlier in the year we had a holiday in Greece and she let me be uncaged for the week. That won't be happening again as she noticed a subtle but significant change in my attitude and behavior.
Didnt ever think about that, but now Ive read this ... hmmmmm ... my KH is on the serious side ... hard to describe. A mixture of mean, serious, demonstrating her superiority vs. my simple arousal droven male beaviour - and that little kick of "as I already knew". Sometimes she is watching TV or reading a book while teasing me. She then doesnt take notice of my embarrassing arousal and through that she shows me that teasing me does not have any demand of her attention. But laughing? I cant remember.
First of all... Congratulations!! I hope my wife is as active as yours when we get to that age. My wife giggles from my frustration and it turns me on even more! We're very new to her control of my orgasms. I like to hear her having fun learning this new game!!
My first major tease was this morning !! I asked if I could go down on her, and she said I could . She got on top in the 69 position and about 30 minutes later I was able to give her an orgasom. After she lay her head on my chest and wrapped her legs around mine so I could feel her vaginas quiver against my leg . She kept raising her knee up and bumping my caged cock . After about 15 min of cuddling she claimed on top of me and started to slowly ride my cage!! I asked her if she thought she could get off that way and she started going faster and faster . She had a leg shaking orgasom . She came so hard I could feel her juices running down my legs. It was the most erotic things I have ever experienced !!! I said I think you are starting g to enjoy this and she just gave me the most evil smile . I am still so worked up and have no idea when she is going to release me . She is leaving for the rest of the day for a girls day . So I will be home with nothing to do but think about how erotic this morning was !!!
She giggles more than laughs at how easy it is to embarrass me particularly when I'm frustrated at not being allowed to reach a climax.
I went 3 months without sex when my wife had her hip replaced. It was not to difficult for me because I worked full time and had to do everything my wife did plus cook (I am terrible at it) and take care of my wife, change bandage, put on her compression socks, help her dress, shower and more. I was kept busy so it was not as bad as my wife had it so it did not bother me. Actually that is when we first got into long term denial. Had no choice.
Wow, good replies. I find chastity difficult not because of chastity but because I do not know anyone else into this in real life to speak too. If I go into chat rooms guys want pics of my locked penis or try to get sexy details out of me for god knows what purpose. When I was into BDSM we had married friends into it to that we socialized with weekly. We were able to talk about it and share some laughs at the things we did to each other. There was no internet back then and the only porn there was required a movie projector. So it was good to see and sit down with others into your fetish to discuss it. Online there seems to be so many people living their sex lives through their posts. I do not know who to believe at times, and sometimes it makes me sad that they have to do that instead of enjoying their fetishes with someone they love. As many of you posted, sex and all its fetishes should be fun for all involved and not taken so seriously. As I used to tell people who knew I was sexually submissive, I cannot be that 24/7 because some days I would wake up not wanting to lick a woman's shoes clean, be humiliated all day or be whipped. Good to know that others share a joy for sexual fetishes and can laugh about it. Thanks for all the replies.
The thing about chastity is that in my limited experience it isn't something that you can do short term, not if you want to get the most out of it. By that I don't mean you can't be locked up for short periods, obviously you can, but you need to be locked up long enough that you start to get that hum, that feeing of hornyness. Some guys can get to that state in a few days while others, like me, take a few weeks. This is one of the reasons that chastity has gone beyond a game for us. I might wake up desperately wanting an orgasm but if Elle let me have one then all that sexual tension in me would fade and we would be back at square one.
Nice thread. Over here we also have a light hearted approach and she is properly laughing at my frustrations and when she teases me. I make some really odd, surreal noises when I'm SO horny and teased, when we are fucking and I'm not allowed to come and it is extremely difficult not to....she laughs proper belly laughs then. I think it's really human and playful and it's good to hear of others' experiences in this regard.
As a PS...last time she let me ejaculate inside her..it had been just over a month, the longest ever for me, and I'm a horny creature with a high sex drive so it had been very challenging....when I finally came it was an enormous orgasm - I was extremely loud when I came...and I shot a lot of come into her...we could both feel it. As the orgasm began to subside the laughter began - we both descended into fits of really loss of control belly laughter - just beautiful <3
From a womans point of view, I regularly laugh at weenie's predicament. Like a lot of the replies state I do very much find it very amusing to hear the noises my man make from his frustration of not being able to finish himself off after edging him or long teasing session. And the look on his face when I throw him his cage and tell him to put it back on. He looks so sad. I really like to humiliate him and laughing at him while pointing at his tiny cage and asking him "how on earth will he ever please anyone with that pathetic thing?" All this just seem to me to arouse him all the more. I have a couple of close friends who know I have Weenie locked 24/7 and even they stand whispering looking over at him and burst out laughing. He turns bright red and just stairs at the ground. All good fun if you ask me.
I love it . The teasing is the best part it's like for play for the entire time your locked !! It just keeps building wondering when your time will come. I can't get enough of being in chastity !! I love worshiping my wife !! I feel like there isn't anything she could want or need that I wouldn't give her !!
Gods above, I'm kind of a humiliation slut at times and when my partner laughs at my distress while she's teasing me it just sends me through the roof! <3 Seriously, there is not much better in my mind than someone owning that space naturally and comfortably ^_^ Maybe I'm coming from a slightly different perspective being in a lesbian relationship, but I would have to agree with @Vinny as far as the BDSM aspect goes. Most local groups that we were involved with the members would almost take offense if you didn't offer your services 24/7 as an s-type. This was compounded by the fact that our local area groups are overrun Dom men/sub women. As a queer couple with a very different relationship dynamic it was hard to feel comfortable with so many D-type men always pushing boundaries that we weren't comfortable with We have busy schedules as most people do nowadays and while the D/s aspect of our relationship is important to us both, it only makes up a small part of our lives/relationship as a whole. It's meant to fun for everyone involved, and if it feels like more of a chore than a game then it's probably time to reevaluate - maybe even take a break for a bit. Anyway, thanks for listening to my thoughts on the matter
I do want to clarify that she doesn't laugh at me, or laugh to be mean. She just giggles because she enjoys it so much and it's a lot of fun for her.
My wife giggles at me all the time . I know she loves me and she just thinks I'm a pervert most of the time . She catches me sniffing her panties at least twice a day . She always says your so gross lol. I just tell her her pussy is like a drug and I get it any way I can. Lol I think giggling and laughing is one of the best parts of teasing.
I laugh at his frustration or when he squirms because the Points of Intrigue start digging in him. He gets excited when he goes down on me, so I require it of him whether he's locked up or not. He associates dressing up with sex, so I have him dressed alot, too. That makes him swell and the Points of Intrigue start doing their work. I laugh at his predicament then tease him some more. Even if I'm not using the points, he gets frustrated and I laugh at him. It's part of the disciplining process. Look at porn, you get denied, you get teased and laughed at and humiliated for being denied, you get spanked He's just a little too big for the CB6000S, so I use the regular model. I wonder if I could keep him locked for a while in the short cage and use the Points of intrigue to heighten his predicament. I know a couple of places that sell the cage separate from the rest of it. I could switch off the regular and short cage.