Enough

I agree. I quit posting here for almost 2 years because of the “you are doing it wrong” purists. I have been at it long enough now that I ignore them and post for me. Mistress let’s me know when I am wrong, that is the opinion that matters.

 

Exactly

 

I agree! Her opinion is all that is important, but it does put you off posting things when you see people getting accused of lying and living a fantasy, after they have taken the time to write and post on the forum.

 

Madame tells me what is going to happen in our relationship. Other opinions really don't matter.

I post our real events. If someone thinks there fantasies, we know the truth.

 

FWIW I am glad you have decided to hang in there. My best advice is to "not take the bait". I've been flamed a few times, probably deserved it for trying to get too fancy with my story (that was 100% factual, btw). But the biggest turnoff for me on this site is when the attacks and counter attacks escalate. I find myself starting to watch them like a big-time wrestling match, but later not wanting to tune back in for fear of seeing more. I try to remember it will always happen with a large crowd on the net and remain thankful for all the support, comradery, and even entertainment, on this site. Hope you can stay positive!

 

I have read a great many of the threads in this forum and honestly I perceived this sight as one of the more positive ones. Yes, there is a bad apple every once in a while but it’s usually obvious that they seem to have a lot of issues and try to take them out on others, also they are a bad representation of their KH/Mistress. Try to ignore them and not get sucked into the negative downward spiral.
I think that the majority of especially the long term members here are very positive and encouraging.

 

there are bullies everywhere. the mansion is no exception. i have noted who many are and never read what they have to say. just ignore them in all they say and some have a lot to say. most here are considerate people even when they do not agree with you. do not let the small minded but loud mouthed individuals ruin your day.

 

The world is too varied to be dictated what is truth or not… no one can monopolise certain manner how things should be run or lived.. every relationship is different and special.. i have only been with 2 women romatically.. I can only express and share opinion from my own angle, culture, geography and background..

 

I've got to agree here

 

I've got to agree as well. I've gotten hammered for having a desenting opinion or playing devils advocate.

 

Discussion is really interesting. You all have good words of encouragement.

I find this forum to be one of the most positive I have come across.

I have also been judged and looked down upon in some contexts on other sites for my comments and words. As one of you pointed out, you still have to take the time to write something. Being criticized is one thing. To be denigrated and despised for an opinion is quite another.

I became interested several years ago in the mechanisms of argumentation. There is a whole list of fallacies used to degrade a person or an argument. Generally, when the discussion no longer affects the argument but the person, it is a demonstration of the limit of the argument of the person who is answering you.

Personally, if someone makes fun of me and it's a foreigner, I don't really care. What I find more difficult, however, is receiving ridicule and scorn from what I know and love. Without wanting to talk about specificity, Trump's mandate has, among other things, greatly divided my relations. Especially with what I know best and those who are closest.

I can say that in this forum I feel really good and respected.

I read sometimes on this forums of purists and I also read impossible stories. That's kind of what I like about this forum. It's still clear enough to distinguish what is real from the fiction. I'm sure many of the members are making up stories to make themselves interesting. But do you know what, I find it really interesting to read their stories because sometimes they are really good and interesting should I say exciting.

I sometimes agree to make reality and fiction a little nebulous because that's what stimulates my mind. I'm here to get with a community that share the same kink I like. Then, we have to live all together has human being!

 

Wow, you have a really high expectation of a place that exists on the internet. My expectations differ. First, I don’t really care who believes me (it’s a bunch of anonymous strangers), why would it matter. Second, if you have any real world experience. You immediately recognize that a significant number of tales represented as “true” are actually impossible. There are also some stories that are quite possible but so far outside some peoples comfort zone (especially when it comes to BDSM), that they have to believe it’s BS, because they wrongly assume that extreme things only happen in porn. I just consider this site and all other’s entertainment. I have the experience to dismiss the impossible and occasionally, I’ll call out the ridiculously dangerous. As for the improbable but still possible? Could be true, embellished or BS. I don’t care if it entertains me.

 

What did I miss?

 

I haven't encoutered any of these purists in here, but I certainly have in other bdsm environments.

There is no right and no wrong, only what works for any couple. Nothing else matters.

 

Looks like something might have kicked off nearly a year ago…

 

Unfortunately, and like any “social media” type sites, there are encouraging, helpful folks and then there are assholes…it gets annoying at times but ignore the latter and know there are supportive folks (and people in REAL relationships and not fantasy land) out there.

 

Sorry to hear that, most people on this site are really cool I haven't had any issues except for one verified female which I still believe is a guy portraying a female.
I could be wrong but I don't think I am

 

Agree...nothing like sharing your experiences and being ridiculed as a liar.
Immediately made me not want to post or share here.

 

But… your wife was secretly cuckholding you… your mother-in-law was her accomplice.
Later your wife tied you down and left leaving you at the mercy of your mother in law while she disappeared with two partners (related). The chances of you finding a woman who is fine with her mum fucking you, but also has managed to find a set of siblings also comfortable with sharing a partner. I mean… it’s sounds like fantasy to me.
Now, I’m normally the first to call BS, but I’ve been holding my tongue of late, but if you are the victim of unfair scepticism I completely understand this one. If it’s true… well it’s just weird (of your wife), is otherwise a really hot fantasy for you!

 

Yep...there it is. Well...you want the site all to yourself. You got it. Maybe instead of worrying about what I'm doing...you should worry about why you are so fixated on what I'm doing. Is your life really so sad and pathetic that the only joy you get is as a troll? What a pitiful incel you have turned out to be ...I'm sure your parents are so proud.
Bye bitches

 

And that is the first time ever I’ve heard someone in their 50s use the term ‘Bye bitches’…

I also had to Google the term incel. Turns out it’s quite fitting for my predicament.

 

There is no such thing as a "safe space". I'd love to find the sociology PHD student that came up with that and knock some sense into them! ;-)

As others said, this site is one of the better ones on the Internet for being civil, but even it has its moments.

The reality is there are jerks in the world, and expecting to find a place without them is naive. Sadly there's this mindset that's taken over that we shouldn't expect to have to deal with jerks. While that's a wonderful thought, the reality is the real world has jerks, mean people and those who we disagree with. So it's better to develop thick skin, and not be a sensitive soft individual who can't handle things that aren't what they want. Ignore the jerks. Stand up to them. Even contact a mod if they get too bad. But running is soft, weak and immature IMHO.

So I wish you luck as you're going to need lots of it.

For everyone else. I hate to be harsh but if OP is still here or if folks agree with them, I'm hoping my comments are a wake up and offer a reality check.

FYI, I've been here almost from day one. I've seen this site grow and change. Some good, some bad. But overall I will say that it's still decent. In fact, I think Ms @L-u-c-y has done an amazing job with it, and decent isn't fair, it's a really good site. Yes it's not perfect. But nothing is one that's run well and that changes are thought out and done with care. And the moderators do a good job.

So if anyone has issues let Ms Lucy or a moderator know. Otherwise, ignore things yiu don't like and enjoy the things you like.

Personally, I skim most posts and find the ones that I find useful, entertaining, or just worth commenting on! The rest I zoom on by!

 

As the person sharing whatever it is you want to share, the 'burden of proof' falls at your feet, and is your responsibility to demonstrate.

If you intended to spark a discussion or gain insight or have input provided about your post and that was the reaction, maybe that says something not just about the people responding to you negatively, but also about your post itself.

In general, you need tougher skin anywhere online, much less when sharing whatever it is you are sharing. There will ************ALWAYS************ be detractors, trolls, haters, or just plain' ol shitheads.

Even if you told a bunch of internet strangers that you were a billionaire and that you would give each person that responded to your post kindly a million dollars via wire transfer. You would STILL have those same people talking their shit.

Unavoidable.

You also just have to understand that if everyone believed each and every story or 'experience post' posted, that would undoubtedly not do anyone any favors.

Sometimes that questioning doesn't come from a bad place, it's more or less a "hmmm, that sounds like nonsense" because of the sheer amount of ACTUAL nonsense posted that is presented as their life experience.

Instead of acting hurt, if your goal was anything further than just saying what you needed to say, why not work on clarifying some points, so that those that were previously skeptical can turn the skepticism into something positive for you and everyone else.

I've found in my relatively limited experience here on CM that if you are as clear as you can possibly be, there are many kind souls willing to sympathize, empathize, or just make sure you feel heard.