Hi all-- I've been in chastity for about six weeks now with my wife (who is my keyholder). There is a clear difference in the pre-chastity and post-chastity in terms of my behavior. I am definitely an Alpha Male during the day, very confident, etc. To be honest, I'm not sure how we even got into chastity, but we're solidly into it now. She allows me to orgasm about once per week (I feel very lucky to be able to do it so often)! But one thing that I have noticed--and confessed it to her today--my fantasies now include me making the bed, doing the dishes, giving her a message, calling to register her for a massage, etc. It's somewhat weird, and I didn't know if, after trying out chastity, others also fantasized about doing domestic chores. Perhaps it's just me fantasizing about wanting to serve her. But it is "different" to orgasm to thoughts like that. (Like making the bed??!)
Personally, trying to help your partner live an easier, perhaps better life, seems natural as part of them holding the key. I am naturally submissive so it fits easily, so it may seem odd to you because your more alpha. In any case, showing your love for your wife by doing things for her is wonderful. Good luck and enjoy.
I think doing chores is a natural part of having fun with chastity and being my wife's submissive husband. One of my best thrills was listening to her have an orgasm in the bedroom while I was in the kitchen doing dishes. BTW - in addition to making the bed, try giving her bed or her side of the bed nightly turndown service.
For an alpha male, the submission involved in fantasising about doing such mundane tasks will create powerful emotions. Good luck.
When we started I used to get an erection in my cage when I was doing laundry. (Now I just get that warm submissive feeling of being proud to be a part-time house husband teasing my wife's life and liberated from alpha male expectations.)
well put! This is what happens once you accept your place! I admit it was easier for me as I never identified as a Alfa man. But rest assured your not the only one here, just enjoy the ride!
Absolutely. I smoked a maple-rum glazed ham today, and am now finishing the marinara sauce for gnocchi for tomorrow night. I am positively delirious.
For many of us, finally realizing that we are submissive is amazing. I was very alpha myself. Masturbated whenever I pleased. I had dreams/thoughts about doing domestic chores maybe even wearing an apron. HA! Then you cum and those thoughts are gone. Getting into a cage has been the best thing ever for me. Took time, but realizing deep down (buried) I have always been submissive. My cage helped me stop the constant masturbation and rest came naturally. Nothing like your first pair of frilly panties that you LOVE to help you understand who you really are. Enjoy the ride. Have fun with it
When i am locked, I get WAY more done around the house. I do the floors, bathrooms etc. and give my wife a foot massage. She says she feels guilty me doing all this, but I enjoy it!
My wife had the guilt trip when she first locked me up. But now, knowing the benefits, she relishes the fact.
I know how thrilling that is also, I sometimes come home from work and find her toys left out for me to clean and then check the batteries before I put them away primed and ready for the next time.