Thoughts on real chastity and tease in my situation

Hey, I am so glad I came across this forum. I am hoping to get some good advice.

I mentioned in another thread that my wife and I were involved in local bdsm scene many years ago. Mostly involved in me being feminized and pain play. We dabbled in chastity devices but could not find one that worked for full time use.

I have a slightly less wide penis than normal and it is average maybe slightly longer than avg uncut. I have a PA gauge 4 approx PA hole.my testes seem to turtle a bit here and there so chastity devices have been very unpleasant and often one of them will slip through something like a cb2000. I get a lot of nocturnal errections.

I gave up wearing any jewelry in my PA due to the hole migrating. Likely I rushed the gauging of my piercing making this an issue.

I love edging and cruel tease and denial with occasionallyrics being allowed release.

My wife of 16 years and I have had a hard time getting our kinky fun side going these days. My fault after going through a prolonged period of depression. This is all better now but we are struggling with vanilla sex, mostly because my interests are not so vanilla. My wife can be very dominant but is not a classic confident Domme, but is definitely kinky.

OK here is my questions.
1.is there any chastity devices (other than my brain) that can be somewhat comfortably worn 24/7?
2. Does anyone have any recommendations on tease and denial routines that have worked in real life?

Any thoughts and advice would be appreciated.

 

Thanks for the suggestions. That leather cage is not lockable so I would feel not controlled.

I have not seen anyou leather ones that were really secure.

My wife is too easy on me and has always given into my begging for an orgasm. At the time getting one feels good but in long run it is not what I really want lol

 

Wow thanks never thought of the safe word use in this situation.

On a related note. Wife had me start the day with a good fucking but before I could orgasm she did and it ended without me having release. After cooling down she played with her cock and I told her I really don't want release at this point no matter what I say in the heat of the moment. She was happy to go with my wishes.

The day passed and I was extremely aroused all day. At bed time I reiterated that my new kink (not new but top of list) is tease and generally being denied or forced repeated orgasms to the point of being very painful. With maybe a chastity device.

To my surprise she seems to really like the idea and added some fantasies of me servicing men or having sex with other women but not allowed to cum. I am not bi or gay but the thought of being forced or manipulated into servicing men is a fantasy of mine as well. Of course being aroused and no release is a huge fantasy as well.

We'll back to what happened. My wife teased her cock (which happens to be attached to my body) for more than an hour. Bring to edge and stopping over and over then saying good night.

This AM of course I woke to a raging hard on. I pressed it against her and she smirked and continued the teasing until precum started to oz out. Then had me put it in her with no thrusting so no orgasm for a while. Finally pulled out cross-eyed with lust and patted her cock and said no Cumming today but I can play with it as she goes out for the day.

I think this might be what our relationship needed to get it going again. Thanks for the ideas. I am still thinking about what chastity devices would work and not be too noticeable under my clothes when I teach (in a college)

 

Thanks RP. I have been reading about different chastity devices today. Really should be doing lesson preparation for the week but this is much more "fun" LOL

Ya I get the idea that different devices have different draw backs. At one point I thought a PA based locking device was the best option but this also had problems.

A for topping from the bottom. Totally get the paradox. One of the issues is my wife does not have it in her to be as mean as I would like her to be with bdsm play. Her likes have been pretty close to vanilla except for some group play. I think because our marriage has come close to ending due to a number of things, we are revisiting ways to have fun.

I really want her penis to be totally hers. Tortured and used without much care for it's needs. Trying to figure out ways to give her pleasure as he loves me deep inside of her but I suffer one of two issues. I cum way to easily or I go limp. I think the constant tease and denial combined with some cock rings etc will keep me hard when needed but then the issue will be in I go, boom I cum and no amount of fear of being severely punished can stop this even though I want to. My wife does not really get off on just having a dido put in her either. Much prefers a real penis. Thought about cuckholdry but she is not confident enough in herself to introduce someone in the bedroom and then there is the standard fears of stds or even pregnancy. (I have had a vasectomy).

Well I will continue to read and learn on here and hopefully come up with some solutions to try out.

Today for the first time in a while I wanted to wear panties again but since our move I cant find any of them. :-0 Time to go shopping.

 

Well put rp. I think a lot about stuff. I want to do things right, but what is right?

I have met Dommes and subs that feel their way is the only way. Really as long as it is not crazy (and I mean that in a extreme sense) what ever works for a couple is all that matters.

Full disclosure though. My wife and former Mistress and I have come dangerously close to breaking up in the last year. This is because we are having a hard time restarting an intimate relationship vanilla or otherwise after me being emotionally checked out for a long time. We thought about counselling but don't feel comfortable talking about our kinky side to mental health pros.

All I know is my wife and I are enjoying restarting the journey.