Just got this book to preview and see if I want to share it with my wife, has anyone here ever read it?
Nope, I will be reading it when she's not home, or on my lunch break ar work. I get home 3 hours before she does
I have not but have seen it before, will be curious to hear your thoughts, but almost more importantly hers if she reads it. Looking for something to assist/enhance as well.
I'm not intending to be critical as such, but I'm not sure you are approaching the whole chastity "thing" in the best way with regards to your wife. Of course you know her far better than anyone else, but generally it requires us chaps to have a proper in depth discussion with our better halves. Not just to get a cage and ask her if she would like to hold the key, or "read this book and see if you like it". Let's be honest men asking their wives to lock up their penis and deny them sex is to most "vanilla" people very strange indeed. It's not for the likes of me to tell you that you are "doing it all wrong" but I think if I'd tried your approach with Mrs Chaste she wouldn't have been that interested and Mrs Chaste was not "fully vanilla"! I do hope you manage to work something out with your wife as it can certainly open a whole new way of life for you with major benefits for you both. Chastity has certainly been something amazing in our relationship in many different ways. Good luck.
My wife and I read it together. I highly recommend! We had some good conversations with it. We had already been doing chastity for 18 months, so it wasn't her "introduction," but I think it could work well as an intro for a wife who is new to chastity. Agree with @Chaste J. that you need to start with a conversation with your wife.
No worries, she already had my keys, but I was hoping that this book could give her the insight that I can't seem to verbally convey to her. I just finished reading it it's very informative and very mild, I will discuss it with her before I ask her to read it.
No but I sit in my truck for lunch and I could keep it in my lunch box, however I just finished reading it, it's actually quite good and very mild. I will talk to her during dinner tonight that I will be preparing, and see if it's the right time to give it to her.
I think it's perfectly valid to read a book before recommending it to your wife. If it turned out to be full of fantasies that she would find cringey or too extreme, it hardly makes sense to present it to her. Yes, communicating is important. But if you are asking her for a lifestyle change, it's helpful to have some literature describing what that change might look like. I recommended a thread here, and it turned out to put my wife off because the female OP was thinking of using a butt plug. I said stuff like that was her choice, and just not to do it, but just the mention in the thread was a setback. I'm not even asking for butt plugs.... But now it looks like I was because it was discussed briefly in a thread with 100+ posts.... Yeah.... Read the books before recommending them to your wives, but don't let literature be a replacement for talking either.
Glad to hear the word "mild" used in this context. So many of these books try to cover the whole spectrum of what's possible and a vanilla wife is going to freak out completely by topics like sissification, cuckolding, pegging, cum eating, piercing the penis as the ONLY way to ensure chastity and on and on. While many here may not find those ideas wild or objectionable those don't make great 'starter topics' along your journey.
I totally agree, yest the book is about easing into chastity, telling her some of the benefits for her in chastity . There is no cuckolding nor will there ever be in my marriage, the day my wife has relations with another man or woman we're done, as she would say the same about me. I am very happy I got this book, it is what the title says Vanilla chastity. It does cover teasing and denial. It Inforces that she possess the keys she has all the power, and it tells her how gradually acclimate herself at her own pace. No pegging which I already know she would never do. Light or alternatives to punishment that she might be comfortable with.
So true. To be honest I suspect that the majority of us here generally lead quite "normal" lives on a day to day basis. By normal I mean vanilla of course. A fair few of us are probably kept locked as part of our "normal" (that word again) everyday life and as such it ceases to be a kink as such, at least in our own world. The thing which makes the whole chastity dynamic so interesting is the sheer variety of ways that people incorporate it into their daily lives. Some live a full on female led life, some enjoy bondage to varying degrees and some enjoy pegging. Others live a cuckold lifestyle and some are slaves to their partners. The beauty of it is that whatever way you and your better half choose is the right way if it works for you both. Mrs Chaste and myself certainly enjoy our lifestyle and it has added a whole new dimension to our life together over the last 10 years.
My Goddess Wife had the keys to Her locked up nub for nearly two years before we found a kink friendly marriage counselor (she is sub in 24/7 Ds marriage)... Money very well spent. Allowed my Goddess Wife to realize Her power and confidence, and allowed me to identify signs of when I was topping from the bottom and undermining Her authority. All the books in the world won't help if the wife isn't invested in it. She'll see it as "your kink" until it comes an integral part of Her control and power over you.
I bought it and read it before leaving it for my wife (she hasn't read it yet). It's a very good read for what the title reads, vanilla wives. I do like the type casting (or whatever it is called) and I feel it breaks it down away from the rabbit hole this kink can go. For a 90 minute read it is worth it, now if only my wife would read it lol....
I wonder what the wives think when you hand them a book with this title. "Wait, you think I am vanilla? What does that mean?" I think the title is a very poor choice. I get the reference, but how about "Chastity for beginners" or something like that. No, I haven't read it yet but it's on my to do list.
That's fine for you, but I am thinking more along the lines of the wives who may not know the "vanilla" term already.