Your wife says out of the blue, you can have a day out of the cage. No cum though, but you can be cage free for a day. Would you? Or is the cage feeling so like an old friend that you’re comfortable with, you’d prefer to keep it on?
I have to take my belt off about 2 times a month for an appointment. After basically being locked 24/7 for over a year, it feels wrong not have it on. I will go about a month without the key going in the lock. I have never been that long without opening the belt.
Last year, I was free range most of the year. Less than 10% of the time caged, I'd say. This year, I am caged every single day (but generally she wants it off in bed, if we're together). The free range thing sucks; I'm a douche bag when I'm not caged, and I'm a pretty good husband when caged. I really hate the douche bag and I like the good husband. So I never ask to get out, and she never offers it.
I am always locked. After 6 months of no orgasms I cannot be trusted to be unlocked. Even my wife used to get carried away during sex and give me an orgasm. I hate starting over again after I cum so no more unlocking ever. Even have to wear my cage during doctor visits. I do not embarrass easily so I am not concerned if I have to pull my pants down. I am also collared so when I go out, those who know will know what the collar means. When asked I tell them that since I lost weight my wedding ring no longer fits so my wife gave me this chain collar to take its place as as symbol of who I belong to.
Last weekend I went on a two day men's retreat that included a sweat lodge. My wife asked me if I was going to wear the cage. I looked at her blankly. "of course, " I said. She said, "It's better if you don't wear it. Maybe it would be uncomfortable or worse in the sweat lodge." I felt a thump of disappointment and emptiness anticipating being uncaged for two days. "It'll be okay," I said. She fixed me in her gaze. "My decision. You're not wearing it. I tell you when to wear it and I tell you when to take it off." End of discussion.
I have had an on and off relationship with cages but currently I am trying to make a real go of it again. I now have a good piercing which means that my cage is tamper evident which helps with the psychology. The other main difference is that I am allowed to be free range for about 6 hours most Saturdays when I attend a sporting event with friends and I have no time or inclination to cheat. This helps with cleaning and enables the plumbing to recover a bit, issues which put me off previously. I have come to a conclusion for me that long term works better than permanent. The underlying thread is that I do not cum.
I am not always locked. My type of device makes it practically impossible. I do like wearing it as much as possible because it is heavy and I am always conscious of its presence. Also, I like that it is visible under my slacks, But on or off makes little difference to me. My agreement with my spouse is no release, not now, not ever and I strictly adhere to that. When she wants me to serve her desires, I am always locked.
It has been such a part of my life for so long, it feels weird to be uncaged. I also have the inexplicable feeling of her not caring about me as much when she lets me out. Weird, I know... Cage is love.
I never get a day out of my cage. My wife is strict about this due to me jerking off when unlocked. Now I am locked all the time even for doctor visits and prostate exams. My doc knows about it so no big deal. I am used to being locked all the time because if not I will jerk off a few times each day.
Depends on the situation. We are on and off with chastity. (on for months at a time, then off for several weeks of months) If I am in the middle of a chastity sentence then I'd probably decilne unless there was another reason for it, goint to the airport, in swimwear, or having nephews around that always crawl all over me. I don't want them to feel it even if they wouldn't know what it is they would probably ask questions. So overall I'd say I prefer it on if I am in the middle of a sentence