So many have talked about the idea that the sub becomes more attentive to the keyholder once locked. So what if there is no keyholder? I'm just getting into the chastity world and plan on ordering a cage soon. After the adjustment period, I'm looking into rivets, losing keys, etc, as a way to deny myself. So what happens then? Obviously my attention has to get turned to something else, but what?
I would like one, but honestly, after looking into emlalock, it seems ideal as it's readily available. I imagine finding a heyholder takes a while, and i wanna start soon.
You are talking a fantasy version of chastity. Listen to the people above. I suggest you find out about reality chastity before you do anything. You are probably unaware that you can masturbate easily in any chastity cage you buy, so getting rid of the keys will do you no good. The foundation of chastity is an exchange of control of your orgasms. Without that it is like whipping yourself and calling it BDSM. There is a lot of knowledge here, not the fantasy stuff you read elsewhere. Learn before you set yourself up for failure or worse. Good luck.