Locker Room Etiquette

While I agree with most of what you have written, my opinion is that chastity cages are not the same as piercings, and are (for most users) essentially a sex toy. That is, the point of wearing one generally revolves around some kind of sexual situation.

I have only found myself (heh) locked in a locker room once, and I discreetly wrapped a towel around me, and dressed while facing the wall. I truly have no desire to let others in on my sex life. Well, except for several thousand online spectators. :-/

While my wife is *very* strict about keeping me locked, I do unlock for travel, and if I expect to have a full physical. Again, the idea is that we do not want to call attention to our sex life.

A locker room at the gym (you did not say where this is, so I'm assuming) is an all male space, and most guys don't particularly care. If you're being discreet, and not jangling it around, and if nobody comsined to the manager (which guys tend not to do), then you're probably okay.

 

I know I don’t fall within the majority on this site and that’s ok, we’re all entitled to our own opinions. I believe I can be open about wearing a cage with any profession that views or handles my private areas, IE. doctors, waxer, tattoo artist, etc. If someone looks/handles genitalia for a living, they should be able to handle open non kinky convos about it in a professional manor. A lot of people will disagree with me but again, we’re all entitled to an opinion. However, I won’t force my kink on anyone nor do I advertise it.

With that, I support everything you do within the gym. I don’t advertise being in a cage nor do I want anyone not in the kink community to know. If they’re in the community, that’s different. However, I won’t go to extreme levels to hide it. I will try to conceal it the best of my ability, like you are currently doing in the gym. I too change/shower in the gym. I typically turn my back to people if they are around but if they catch a glimpse, then why are they even looking at my penis area. Although I try to remain private, somethings are impossible to hide from people eyeing areas that don’t pertain to them. That doesn’t mean openly swinging it about but I’m also not changing in a closet to make others comfortable.

 

Two points for me since I am at a gym shower fairly often:

1. Essentially zero men want to see other men’s harry, saggy balls. Nearly all of us appreciate everyone covering up.

2. Yet I dress/undress/shower normally.

If someone sees and asks, I’ll say it’s a hernia support device. This happened once. No problem.

If they know what it is, they provably won’t ask.

Basically? No one cares about individuals in a locker room.

 

What I DO NOT do is lotion/lube/adjust it in a mirror like at home.

 

For me, living in a small town with close minded folks and a gym that regularly has High school aged (late teens) I would probably just remain turned away from them as best as possible. Yes I have changed behind a curtain. I'd avoid as much full frontal nudity as possible. But frankly it's more for them seeing something than me showing.

I reached a point during covid where I really didn't care what people I didn't know or interact with cared. I was fortunate to be in an industry that flourished during covid. (I sell kayaks on Amazon). Covid stress was immense and I was fkin busy. The stress led to a bout of shingles that were across my inner thigh on one side and up to my groin. Shingles hurt. Shorts were unbearable. During that bout, I wore skirts to be able to sit or walk. Wore to the stores. Nobody seemed to care. I also changed my attitude towards others and just took the fear of them caring in a negative manner out of my brain. Best thing ever.

All that said, ill always be appropriate in places I need to be.

 

Interesting question, since I used to shower at the gym years ago, but since going with my wife, never do now . I think you and I behave the same as far as towels and nudity in the gym, and I remember well a guy with a PA who always showered and never tried to hide it. Remember he was into sword workouts. No one ever said anything to him that I know of, and we live in a reasonably rural area. I'd just go with it. I think especially in light of all of this insane "anything goes in in public anymore, including male/trans nudity, I wound not worry about it.

 

We are both of the same opinion as you. Why should anything get in the way of our lifestyle choices?

That said I would not stand full frontal for everyone to stare at either caged or not. I tend not to towel wrap preferring to let the towel drape across my bits.

So far no one has noticed and no one has mentioned.

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I tend to just be discreet, I don’t mess about trying to get dressed under a towel ether I just turn away and slip my briefs or thong back on and then get dressed. I’ve never had anyone ask me what I’m wearing, but I think someone must of noticed after all this time. But as others have said most men don’t get asking other men about there cock.

 

i totally support the OPs desire to do as he chooses, but i work out at work, so opt for privacy and discretion. i wear my boxers to the shower and change into the new ones before leaving the shower stall.

Much more private than i used to be pre-chastity, but helps prevent any gossip or water cooler talk.

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Yep, the only people who I think would have an issue with that are small-minded. I've always thought if I do get questioned hard about it I would blame the resurgence of shingles.

They get addictive too. I found styles that I like that fit me physically and personality wise. Now I'm constantly on the lookout for them. I may have more skirts than I do shorts right now. But never worn in a way to appear as a sissy or anything other than straight male..

 

I too would agree you’re fine especially as you’re not flaunting it, if someone is looking that closely, that’s on them. And it’s a device to prevent erections, I could see people being upset if you had a device that had you walking around a locker room with a permanent erection lol
The only issue I could really see would be if someone had their kid in there to workout and they used the locker room, but I’d also assume you’d use more caution in that situation too.

It really is funny how after a couple years of being caged all the time, my worry about someone thinking I might have a cage on has become almost a non issue. Early on I was terrified thinking every time I stepped out our front door that the whole world would find out and how embarrassing it would be. Too bad it’s such a taboo thing still, at least it’s become a little more common

 

You nailed it. I used to think living in the suburbs was the best of the country and the best of the city. After living in the burbs for ~30 years, I realized I had it all wrong. Living there is the worst of the country and the worst of the city. As you said, people in the country mind their own business, but they Know everybody's business simply because they know everybody or have lived there all their lives. People in the city mind their own business, , don't know anybody else's business, and keep it that way to pretend or actually have some privacy in a situation where everybody lives on top of everybody else. Suburb people tend to be pretentious, nosy, Karens, and self righteous phonies. they are the ultimate "keep up with the Jone's " group

 

Excellent observation.

 

Sounds like it is all good. If you are comfortable being exposed in a place with full frontal nudity, wearing a cage is covering up a little. If somebody takes offence maybe them avoiding nude men in a change room would help. Being caged is a lifestyle choice that providing it is not shown off in a public area where nudity would not be tolerated, should be all OK.

 

I haven't changed my locker room behavior since I started chastity. I try to be discreet and don't openly display my genitalia to others. I face the locker when removing my clothes and wrap a towel around my waste before heading to the shower. Someone could observe my cage but it's unlikely. About all I ever expose is my bare backside.

It seems to me that many gym users avoid the locker rooms altogether. I don't think younger generations are comfortable with public nudity. Most change clothes and shower at home. There are rare occasions that I'm in close proximity to others when changing in front of others. I can usually turn away so as not to expose my front.

My gym is newer and has individual shower stalls that provide virtually complete privacy. Chance of exposure is minor. They also have a couple of changing stalls that I assume are for people who are uncomfortable with changing in front of others. I've rarely seen them used.

 

We have some younger men (late teens to early 20s) that seem to think the locker room is a place to just hang out between sets and before and after workouts. It's SOOOOON annoying.

 

hell,i was borne naked.i plan on dieing that way

 

In my experience, rural folks are a LOT more open-minded than cityfolk, at least when it comes to minding their own business and letting others live their lives. But they'll also be more assertive if they think somebody is intruding on their lives, so the fact that teens frequent a gym might create a problem if someone thinks you're doing "show and tell" with sex toys in the locker room.

 

This is the opposite of what I've experienced, although people are people, pretty much no matter where you go.

(I've lived in tiny little towns and big cities, all over the US, and spent a couple years overseas.)

 

My Wife took me to a play this weekend, semi-formal dress required.

At the intermission I went to the restroom, only to stop short. There were perhaps 15 mid-wall to floor urinals, the kind where it goes to the floor and it's kind of 'cut-in' to the floor like a mini sunken tub. Not a single divider wall and the urinals side by side by side. I mean, they are rubbing shoulders together.

And a line of men waiting. Every urinal taken.

Yeah, I used the stall. Even though I have a PA device that allows me to safely pee standing up, there was no way I was going to stand there and have some dude in a suit notice I was locked.