I woke up at 3AM this morning unable to fall back asleep because I had an urge that really made me wanna unlock myself and jerk off for some much-needed relief. Then I realized that not only is it Friday, but it's also 13 days since my last orgasm! Wow! What a day this is going to be! I'm off work today purely by chance, but I'm so fucking horny right now that I don't know how I'm gonna cope with it... I really REALLY wanna unlock myself and get relief but both my keys are also locked up and are on a timer, so there's no chance. + My balls ache so bad right now... I'm gonna lose my mind today but I think I like it.
Oh no! I think a spontaneous orgasm is coming! I've been riding the edge since I got up this morning and it's only getting more intense. I ain't even watching porn or anything, I'm just sitting here and I'm about to bust my nut! I need ideas for a distraction! PLEASE!!!
One suggestion I've heard is to do something with your hands like wood working, drawing, building a Lego set, etc.
Ok, that gave me an idea.. There's and old PC in the basement and I assemble & fix them as a hobby, so I'll bring it into my room and dissect it. It's a dinosaur anyway so it won't matter if I break something inside. Thanks for the idea., hope it keeps me busy long enough for me to ride this out.
That idea worked... Thanks littleguy3. It took about an hour for the extreme urge to fade away after I started reverse-engineering that old PC, but I fought off an unwanted orgasm and then crashed out on the sofa for a couple hours. I'm a tad shaky right now, but doing much better. Phew!
I'm on day 6 and struggling. Think I'd be used to it by now. Did 17 days and got off once then relocked is difference I think. Normally after double digit terms I get a day do what I want. Only 14 days to go to hotel and freedom for a day lol
I'm just glad that extreme urge happened on my day off and not while at work, or I would've been in real trouble... Damn! But that said, anyone else got any ideas for distractions? This will happen again eventually and I just wanna be prepared and not caught off guard like I was this morning.
Why don't you get a girlfriend? It makes me sad that you don't have one. Life is a one shot deal. If you think you can't get one then work out and make it happen bro!
Ignore marcellus he's making the rounds all angry like. I can't imagine the self discipline self locking takes. I've got a kh with no idea where key is. That's only way my longer lockups are possible.
I honestly don't like cumming in my cage for 3 reasons... 1) It feels similar to a ruined orgasm so it's very unsatisfying and carries the frustration over. No actual relief. 2) It makes my glands sore for a few days because the urethra is restricted (tightened) and things ooze out painfully from that instead of shooting out as the body intends it to. 3) I get a week-long "T" crash from any kind of orgasm, but a caged one makes my pelvis sore on top of that so it takes even longer to recover and feel good again. I intentionally induced my first 2 or 3 caged orgasms as "experiments" to see what they'd be like and I cannot in all honesty say I liked them better than full uncaged ones. Everyone's different of course but that's my experience with them.
I slept more than 9 hours last night. My pelvis is slightly sore and I'm leaking a bit. Part of me wants to end this lockup session but I'm not gonna do that. I'm gonna get up and go to work and get on with my day. Damn, I feel like I ran a marathon yesterday.
I got this idea from a podcast I listened to yesterday. (How timely!!!!) He has a list of other ideas that might help. Here's the link to the podcast and the list of ideas. recoveredman.com/323 He talks really slow so I listen at 1.5x or even 1.8x speed. Don't be offended by the idea the other poster mentioned about getting a girlfriend. One idea that another therapist highly recommends is to channel your excess energy into friendships; starting new ones and improving / deepening existing ones. It doesn't have to be romantic friendships. Ultimately, we get stuck in sexually addictive behaviors like porn & masturbation because we are craving intimacy and we are trying to medicate pain, wounds or trauma from our past. Unfortunately, those are fake forms of intimacy and they lead to more pain which draws us in deeper. Healthy habits & relationships are key to getting free.
Thanks. I’ll check it out tonight after work. And don’t worry… I’m not easily offended. Though I will point out stupidity when I see it.
Well, I have ADHD so me and books don’t get along, but I can see maybe substituting them with watching video documentaries on Youtube or the History Channel.
Doing things is the number one way. If you can continue to resist by using the sexual energy you will get so much stuff done. Stay away from computers, devices, magazines, TV, even books don't offer the umpf needed for distraction. Doing things outside, in the weather (regardless of what it is), is great and is good for the soul anyway. If you can't get out then do exercises such as plank (front and sides), push ups, slow and low sumo squats. Try meditating. Get the Zen Timer app and just meditate for 1 minute at first; Sit comfortably with your back straight, eyes half open, focused on a spot on the floor. Just allow thoughts to come and go like trains at a station. Don't exert yourself trying to do nothing or to think of nothing, and just breath normally.
I think I agree that doing things physically is best for me... I had a few urges while at work today, but I had plenty of physical tasks to keep me busy and help take my mind off of wanting release. So it was a good day at work for me in spite of how horny I was. Thank you for your suggestions.
I would say not so. We have in our midst a self styled joker, with no sympathetic answer to any question. I on the other hand answer with genuinely reasoned responses. I'm aware sarcasm is a thing I just grew out of that as a teenager. It got boring. But you pick your gang leader.
Yesterday, I woke up with a sore pelvis from that extreme urge the other day. A few hours later while at work, I started leaking and every time I went to the restroom to pee, every urine stream was immediately followed by semen. Going into the late evening, the leakage stopped and the soreness was gone. I slept like a baby last night. I'm gonna relax today on my day off, because that really took it out of me... Damn!