Cincy's journal

She is not a classic dominant, and will not demand or punish, but she will usually get her own way, and will never do any thing she does does not want to do. I am the one who is a little kinky and I think she likes it, she does go along with most of it. Maybe I am topping from the bottom but that is slowly changing.

 

She’s ok, and slowly recovering from a fall, wheelchair and walker for a while. And no more pee treats, and no more tease and deny sessions. I do wake her up every morning with my masturbating, sometimes she takes over, but she always says “you can’t cum”.

I did get a ruined orgasm a week ago, and a full blown orgasm about a month ago. She really likes ruined orgasms because there is no down time, and I remain horny.

She also loves the fact that she can lay on the couch and have me do everything for her. When she gets on her feet again, I’m hoping she will continue to force me to do everything I can for her. Life is good.

 

During our tease sessions, sometimes my wife will allow me a ruined orgasm (she calls it a spoiled one)…whenever she says “spoil it for me” all I have to do is rub little willy on her pussy and ass a couple of times, then just wait 3 or 4 seconds, and my cum will just dribble out, usually from the top of her pussy to the crack of her ass, leaving me a nice cream pie to eat. I don’t get a lot of pleasure from ruined orgasms, but it makes me feel very submissive when I’m allowed to do my clean up duty.

Last week during one of our tease sessions, I’m on the edge, and I said “please let me spoil it for you”. Now I knew she was going to say no…but just saying those words, and I knew it was going to happen. I was kneeling, licking her pussy on the edge of the bed, and I stood up, and said “oh no” and laid little willy on her pussy and 4 seconds later, cum just dribbled out. She did not get mad, and just said “do your clean up duty”. It’s funny how just saying those words, can make it happen. I promised her that I would never say those words again.

 

For most of our 45 years together, I thought that I was the dominant one and Baby Doll was the submissive one. Baby Doll does not like to argue, so it was not a problem for me to win every argument, but she is tenacious, and never lets it go, and never stops, until she gets her own way in the end.

I don’t win arguments anymore, because we don’t argue anymore. What’s the point.

 

If you would ask those submissive men, like myself, who are teased and denied orgasms on a regular basis, “would you rather have a wonderful orgasm or would you rather be denied”? Most, if honest with thenselves, would rather be denied their orgasm and remain horny on on the edge.

I know I love living my life on the edge. I would willingly give up that few seconds of extreme pleasure for weeks and months of the constant frustration of being horny and on the edge. My wife has no problem making me go months without a full blown orgasm, but she does like to see me cum, so her thing is to let me have a ruined orgasm every week or so. She doesn’t notice any down time on my part. She likes to keep me horny a craving her pussy, all the time.

The only time I miss my orgasms, is when, during a tease session, she has me hanging off the edge by my finger tips. But after she lets me cool down, it feels like I had an orgasm, only better, because I’m still horny.

 

Over the past year I’ve become somewhat of an expert on ruined orgasms. My wife has a thing for them, and I don’t know if I will ever get another full blown orgasm.

The ruined orgasms you see on porn sites are not really ruined orgasm, there is no hang time. They stop stimulation when the orgasm begins.

My ruined orgasms start with a tease session. I alternate between licking my wife’s pussy and ass, and then rubbing little willy on her pussy and ass. This can go on for 15 to 20 minutes, with me surfing the edge, but if she says “spoil it for me” I’ll be ready to blow within seconds. I just lay little willy at the top of her pussy and 4 or 5 seconds later, cum dribbles out and runs down her pussy to the crack of her ass, leaving me a nice cream pie to eat.

Usually, with a ruined orgasm, I get a little pleasure, with down time that lasts from a couple of hours to almost a full day, VS 3 or 4 days with a full blown orgasm, (seams like a long time, but maybe it’s because of my age).

Anyway, yesterday and maybe one other time, my hang time went from 3 to 4 seconds to 8 or 9 seconds, and I felt no pleasure, and remained fully horned up. Now that’s the way a ruined orgasm is done the right way. And that cream pie tastes a lot better, when I’m still fully horned up.

 

She woke up as I was next to her in bed, masturbating like crazy. She said “it’s 12:30 in the morning”. I said “so, I can’t masturbate at 12:30 in the morning”? Then she said “how about if I help you”, and grabbed little willy, and gently moved her hand up and down, as I lay there relaxing. I have to take Viagra to get hard, but not this time. I got hard, and then the pre cum, and then I almost let her go to far. She stopped just in time. Life is good.

 

These are excerpts from an interesting article I read about a female led marriage.

In a wife led marriage, the wife controls sex. Either she allows her husband to indicate an interest in sex, to which she responds positively or negatively, or she reserves the initiation of sex entirely to herself. In either case, the wife is the gate keeper of sex.

So every sexual encounter in a wife led marriage arrives at a point where the wife has been satisfied but the husband has not. This makes sense because there is virtually no risk of a healthy husband failing to orgasm during sexual intercourse whereas there is considerable risk that he might before the wife, thus depriving her and ending the intimacy.

But just as the wife decides when sex occurs, so does she decide how far it proceeds. In particular, she decides whether sex proceeds beyond her first orgasms. As a routine matter, the husband not only has no expectations about when or whether sex will happen but, as well, how far it will proceed when it does. As part of the transformation of the marriage, the wife may be scaling back her husband’s orgasms and, at the same time, increasing her own.

Well, let us suppose that you decide to allow your husband an average of one orgasm a week. At the same time, you might indulge yourself each night. That would result in a ratio of 7:1. These ratios, while interesting, are irrelevant. Once you pass beyond 5:1 there is really no longer any meaningful connection between your orgasms and his, they become entirely different matters: his are a strict matter of discipline, the exact frequency that brings about optimal adoration and obedience, while you can enjoy as many as you wish. In fact, the more sexual intimacy, the better for the marriage.
That might seem incredible but for the fact that as you become ever more proficient in exercising erotic power in your marriage, your husband begins to derive ever greater happiness from your satisfaction. This is so true, at least for me.

 

I agree, thank you so much.

 

My wife would be happy with one orgasm a week, but I want three or four a week. When we started “orgasm tease and denial”, it was about more orgasms for her, and less for me.

To help with that, I bought a Magic Wand for her, and for a while, we upped her orgasms to three or four a week, and limited mine to one ruined orgasm every seven to ten days. But last month she only had five orgasms, and allowed me seven ruined orgasms.

We vowed to change that in May and so far, so good. In the first eleven days of May, she has had five orgasms and has allowed me just one ruined orgasm. I am teased and denied multiple times a day, and she loves the fact that I am horny all day, every day. Live is good.

 

Never thought of it like that,,,maybe you are correct. I need to have another conversation with my wife. She did tell me that she is satisfied with my service to her.

 

Every morning at the break of dawn, I go for a walk in the park. As I am getting dressed, sometimes my wife will wake up. If she wakes up, I always ask her if she would like to make my walk more enjoyable, she always says yes. That means that she will throw the covers off and spread her legs, and let me lick her pussy and ass for a few minutes.

Yesterday, I told her how much I enjoyed it, when she would wake up before my walk. She said that I could wake her up every morning before my walk, and that she would not have any problem going back to sleep. In 45 minutes, we will see if she really meant it, and if I will have a very enjoyable walk.