When we got married 18 years ago.Ms Val insisted that I take her last name. My name is hyphenated and hers isn't. Whenever we purchased anything like house , cars etc. . Her name is always first . People have asked about my name being hyphenated. She explains that it shows how much I love her.
Great job, @MistressMusespet! That's quite a step, especially for 18 years ago. i'm a big fan of anything that makes the dynamic "real" and taking Her name is right on the mark. Every time you explain this, i bet you get a little submissive kick.
It does. She used to refer to me as her lil wife. Her boyfriend gets a kick out of telling his friends how pussywhipped I am. He's never met someone so devoted to his wife. And hasn't been allowed intercourse with her since wedding night.
We talked about doing this but my madam had no love for her own last name so was more than happy to see it go.
I have such a common last name I would have just taken my wife’s name without hyphenating it. However, hers was almost as common and similar enough that it didn’t make any sense to change mine. (Think like Wilson and Williams). We talked briefly about both changing our last name to a less common one, but in the end we did what the families expected of us.
I would be quite proud indeed to wear my wife's name. Either attached to or in place of my own. There is no down side and it carries with it the extraordinary opportunity to explain the nature of our relationship to others along the way. As little or as much as the listener wants to know. That's not only great fun but it offers the opportunity to plant little seeds in the minds of future couples, for the advancement of society in general.
I think it sounds very cool, although its a little late in the game for us, having been married 40 years. The paperwork alone would be massive.
Taking your spouse's name and assuming the subordinate role in most facets of life together seems a perfect way to show your commitment. It's a subtle thing, but being listed second on financial accounts, utility agreements, and legal paperwork shows spouse is primary and you are only a supporting role. If you really want a FLR, then that arrangement highlights it
If she would have asked back when we were married I would have taken her last name and that was many years before the lifestyle
I agree it wouldn't be much of an issue these days and in the future it will probably become more frequent.
Dynamics aside, do you like her last name better than yours? What led you to hyphenate rather than take her last name?