Have you come out to family members

If you live the lifestyle 24/7/365 then it is probably best that your adult children are aware rather than risk them discovering it and having to deal with what, I assume, would be a shock to most.

To others it is just a bit of kinky fun to enhance their sex lives, in which case, I would say that it's a bad idea to tell anyone, especially your children, even if they are adults.

 

I am kept in chastity by my wife 24/7. It is a lifestyle for us but there is no feminization involved, although she has bought me a nice collection of thongs and pouch 'panties'. Both my sons, in their 40's, know as does one daughter-in-law. My brother lives with us and he knows as well. It is possible my 21 year old grand daughter knows as she and her mother are very close but I don't know for sure.

 

Nope! No one knows what goes on between Mr and Mrs Chaste! Both our grown up children have no idea that I have been locked in chastity for nearly 6 years. They do know that we are still "at it" (disgusting!). Both are very aware that we are very much still in love with each other and both have said that they hope to be as happy as us when they reach our age! I hope so they are as well!

 

We are also in the 24/7 group, but I don’t know if I would call it a lifestyle for us. It doesn’t really overlap with anything outside of the bedroom. Except for the fact that I am always locked up, we are a very normal couple.

We have six kids, ranging from nine years old to 5 months old. None of them know that I am kept chaste for their mother. A few times over the years a toddler aged kid will be climbing on my lap and feel the cage and ask what it is. I just say it’s part of my belt buckle (even if I am wearing shorts). Being that young they never question it any further and forget about it ten seconds later.

I have no plans on ever sharing with any of my kids about what I do for their mother. It’s really none of their business and I can’t think of a good reason why they would ever need to know about it.

 

I would never tell my kids and I hope they would never find out.
I think its a female thing wanting to share with others.
What about the other end of the scale? Who would want to come out to their parents?
I wonder if I would feel the same if I was the dominant.

 

My kids, friends and family don't know anything about me being locked, my wife has spoken to a couple of her best friends about the Cuckold situation but that's as far as it's gonna go. We don't intend anyone else finding out

 

I do love honest people and try my best to be one myself.
But on the other hand there's still the doubt about how much of my honesty should be "forced" upon others?!
Don't think it's compassionate to spread it around like oil-paint as well as I don't spend my evenings thinking about my now very old parents fucking to create me.
Really don't want to critisize your deceisions, but somehow the old Paul-Simon-Somgline came up:
"Right and wrong
Never helped us get along
You say you care for me
But there's no tenderness
Beneath your honesty...!"
So in the end I think I won't tell someone who didn't ask...

 

We've never shared our life choice with anyone and as far as we are aware no one else knows.
In our community I don't think it would go down well and with family to think about we wouldn't want any stigma affecting them.
Shame really as I'd love to be more open about it with one or two well chosen friends, but its too much of a risk not only for hubby and I but for others close to us.

 

Yes everyone knows I am the 24/7 sissy slave to my Mistress/Wife..... But....Our Parents are both gone along with bothers and sisters....but to be honest, everyone has known in our Family

 

I would not want anyone in my family coming and telling me about a kink they are into, so I'm going with the do unto others thought process. If someone in my family did tell me they were into ______. My response would probably be mildly supportive, but also to change the subject.

 

As far as i know only the Wife's Sister knows.

 

We have one married daughter. I would very much like for her to know. My problem is its more a kinky sexual thing telling her then just telling her because we want her to know. Is that weird?

 

I'm more interested in the motivation. Why would you feel the need to tell someone in your family? I get evangelization leading to normalization but why your family? You give your family the knowledge of your kink and at the end of the day what does it accomplish? You get weird looks and behind you back talking at thanksgiving? Is it a secondary kink, family shame?

 

I guess “family shame” might be it but I would prefer she knew accepted and participated maybe helped out with KH

 

No. Just no.

If my wife wishes to tell her friends or cousins, she is free to do so. I hope she does share with someone some day. But for me, I don't think I'll tell any of my family unless I'm somehow forced to by circumstances. There are a couple friends that I could picture telling "some day" if I felt that they could benefit from it, but not yet.

My kids won't be told unless it's forced by circumstances.

 

Yes it is weird if you want to tell your daughter because you find it kinky and sexual.

 

Participated?! Your daughter...being your key holder and helping out...just wow.

At least they would know what to get you for Father’s Day, a restraining order and a lifetime ban on hanging out with the family.

 

i suppose it depends if you view it as a kink or a lifestyle.
You could argue that cross dressing and trans gender was just a kink 20 years ago, now it’s mainstream.
Being gay was taboo and perverted 50 years ago, now gay people marry.
i think the Femdom, FLR and chastity lifestyles are no different.
i was born a submissive, but society wouldn’t let me accept it.
The fact we still feel we have to hide this is based on discrimination. In 50 years time this will be mainstream

 

So agree with you Thanks for sharing

 

It could not be put better.

 

The world is becoming more accepting of people's life choices about Sexual Orientation and Gender as it is about liberation from oppression of societal norms. however I don't think that the Kink world will become mainstream in the same way as it is a lifestyle choice not a oppression.

 

Just like being gay was “a phase” once upon a time?

 

Our family members would not understand except one. Her sister I know has seen the flogers and paddles and crop hanging in her closet . So I guess she knows.

 

I don't need to. Miss Amanda does it for me.