There’s no wrong way, when it’s my way...

Wow! I must say that if you've only been doing chastity for 4 months you've done your homework, or your a natural keyholder, or both.

It's true, what many of us men need is a reason to be compliant, to serve the one we love. If you were my keyholder and I knew that you were thinking about slapping my nuts but didn't, I would have been disappointed, I might not have enjoyed you doing it at the time, but there's a funny paradox between being submissive and allowing your keyholder to control and punish you, and showing strength by being able to take those instructions and that punishment from someone who may be physically weaker without resisting or complaining, and loving them all the more for doing it.

Don't hold back, test his strength! Of course it should always be consensual, but you'll both find a place you never knew existed if you push his limits. While you enjoy making him cum, there's no reason why you can't make him cum and at the same time tell him that if he does he'll get punished! It's a win-win.

 

Sounds wonderful! And fun!
But I would like to know two things.
1 is he struggling or suffering for you being in chastity?
2 do you or would you enjoy knowing that it’s hard for him to be locked up.

I know you’re thinking this is another male fantasy. And yes it is and it’s my own too. But I truly believe it’s something that needs to happen for the dynamic to be there so I’m just curious, is that how you guys are doing it. Or is a more lighthearted fun as you go.

 

I have been listening to You for some time now, and the one thing I know is that You need no help in the suggestion and idea department. lol.... I think I recall something involving a "humbler" not so long ago. In fact, those who are paying attention might easily get an idea or two from You. Always love hearing from Miss @Kristi . Hope you both enjoy the Louisiana Summer "heat."

 

I can assure you my accidents are my fault and are delt with accordingly. Countess does a great job, especially when you consider how new she is to all of this. I am sure as I adjust to longer periods of lock up and denial, practice the techniques I’ve been reading about and countess’ discipline these accidents will be less frequent. Let’s not forget this is new to me as well!

 

Congratulations, you’ve discovered the secret to chastity: it can be whatever you want it to be.

 

My wife and I have been into fetish play for 46 years, me longer. There was no internet or cable TV. Not even video tapes. So we had to do our fetishes as we wanted to. As long as it is fun for all parties, it is right even if others think it wrong.

For instance, I am sexually submissive but dominant outside the bedroom and was leading our poly triad. Some thought that was wrong. I taught our girlfriend and my wife how to sexually dominate me. They knew nothing about it and every girl has to learn from someone. So they said I was topping from the bottom as if there are laws that I broke. We have always lived our sex and married life as we wanted to and never cared what others thought. You are on the right track and no need to explain yourself. Just have fun with it. Most fetish relationships are not 24/7 in real life and relationships are 95% boring routine stuff with the remainder sex. I was once told that to keep my marriage going a long time, do not let our fetish life bleed into our non sexual life. We have done that to the extent possible. Chastity is an example since I wear my cage all the time and my wife does tease me now and then. Other than that, I can be whipped raw in the bedroom and afterwards my wife is asking me what I would like her to cook for dinner.

Do what works for you. If you follow the rules, you miss out on a lot of fun.

 

@Kristi you are what all subs dream of, at least this one!
I throughly when My Love uses her strap-on to show me who's in charge. I only wish it happened more often!

 

I’m not going to give you an unsolicited suggestions on how you and your sub should run your lives @Kristi , or should I say Miss Kristi, you have that well under control. Just reading about your description of having him mount your cock and you pound him made me very excited. I’ve always loved when my Mistress allowed me a privilege of enjoying her strap on. It’s been along time so ready your post brought back some great memories Thank You.

And Thank You for sharing your relationship with us.

 

Now here's a lady who is enjoying herself! Excellent!

 

You definitely understand the two most important staples of male chastity. Kudos for realizing this so early on

 

no danger you have a twin sister is there?
mabey a mother that tought you all you know?

 

With your permission I would give it hell tryin

 

Simply perfect!

 

Have you tried ruined orgasms? They are a cruel and frustrating way to drain balls. My wife does it to me. She says I'm allowed to fuck her anyway I want after I've been ruined twice. She knows that after that there's no way I can. She says if my dick was bigger she'd let me fuck her all the time. Instead I lick her while I fuck her with 1 of 3 huge dildos which make my dick look even smaller than it is. Tease and denial is one of my favorites. The thought that I'll get to fuck her, then having that chance ruined because I couldn't keep it up. She'll say "I gave you your chance, but you couldn't keep it up. You must not have wanted to feel my pussy!" It's really hot and cruel

 

Then of course after I had my chance, I'm locked back up of course!