Could a live-in situation with a Mistress really work?

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    A fantasy of mine is to move in with a Mistress so I could be a full-time sub/slave to her (so we could take distance and travel out of the equation). But when I start to analyse this, I wonder if it would really work - could you actually live life like that without ever switching off. I know it works in a husband and wife situation... but how about in a situation where you are not actually a couple?
    Has anyone had experience with being a full-time live-in chastity slave?

    I would be interested to know how/if you made it work.

    Thanks in advance

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    I know it works I done for over 15 years. Normal life goes on as does your private life.
    We done it with our 3 kids in the house. Its not easy but it can be done
     
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    This is a fantasy of mine.
    I would love this to happen as I would have someone to help both my needs and that of tormenting the crap out of my boy;)
    Would be seriously hot!
     
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    The maid in me has a similar fantasy of being loaned out for all manner of duties ....just wish this other work commitment didn't get in the way! It's a terrible fantasy as it always makes my cage tight and uncomfortable when i think of it! lol
    cj;)
     
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    Short answer; I think as soon as companionship enters the equation, then you ARE a couple.

    Could you do it without that, always behind a layer of protocol, always deferential? Interesting question. I'll watch this thread to find out.

    However, my experience is that the protocol and role play is just an ego defense. It's scarier and yet more satisfying to be yourself and still submit.

    (I say this from experience. We're a month or so into what's shaping to be an FLR.)
     
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    Like any kind of relationship, it's about the two people! I've struggled more in living with partners in vanilla situations more than the live-in D/s based relationship I had in the past. There are always practicalities of every day life to deal with, but they have to be dealt with regardless! With the right person/people a 24/7 lifestyle situation can certainly work, if it's what you both want.
     
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    My male submissive and I visited each other for months but we then realised that underneath the 'games' we cared for each other very much and are now in a relationship as well. He still wears a chastity device for days at a time, even when we do normal things like grocery shopping. We love each other but he knows his place. Good luck with your situation. xx
     
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    Dear Mistress Deborah and lucy.

    That is one seriously amazing concept ;
    I would think there must be some disadvantages to living in with you but I can't think of anything at the moment.

    Xx wendy
     
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    i was sent to another Mistress once when i was bad and it was horrible. i don't want ever to go again.
     
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    @jemima i'm assuming you learned the lesson you was given.
    I'm kind of hoping that my Mistress will loan me out to her friends (if she so desires). Not just for kink things and she does it because she can.
    I know the reality won't be as good as the fantasy, however, it will prove my devotion to her and show her i'll do anything she wishes as her loyal and devoted sub.
    It will probably never happen and i'll be glad, however,Mistress knows she can if she desires.
     
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    @manintyres that's a funny name, giggle, ooops sorry. i weren't loan out to the other Mistress i was sent to Her cos i was very bad and had to be taught a lesson.
     
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    most relationships require compromise and i suspect that is the key here. I knew two 'chaps' who always dressed up and had never seen each other as men, they had been away on holiday for weeks at a time, they told me that they saw themselves as 'lesbians' and as long as their face and hair was roughly in place it worked.
     
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