How not lose interest about chastity or another fetish after ejaculation.

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    I love chastity and i love anal play but once i ejaculated i find it difficult to go back into chastity or do anal play any other activity again how do i go back into chastity or do anal play after ejaculation or what can i do after ejaculation.
     
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    Does it also make you lose interest in punctuation? Asking for a friend.

    My wife (back when I used to be unlocked) would insist on locking me up immediately afterwards. At the time, I wasn't interested, but the next day I always found that her insistence made the whole thing much hotter. Eventually I learned to associate it in my mind, and simply used will power.
     
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    Don't ejaculate. Next question.
     
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    You have to choose:
    1) Allow unlocking, orgasms and ejaculations.
    2) Enjoy the enhanced arousal and frustration of chastity.

    You can only choose one.
     
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    2, it will always be 2 for me.
     
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    My Madame chooses that I don't ejaculate. Removes the problem.
     
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    For the last couple months I’ve been allowed to have an orgasm on Saturday & Sunday nights. I am allowed to sleep cage free but lock up the next morning. So far this routine has worked to keep me submissive still.
    But I have been able to embrace my submissive side and this works for us, at worst if I’m not feeling submissive enough, my Wife will cane me a few nights in a row and that helps too!
     
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    I’ve found that being made to eat my cum and immediately lock back up has done a good job of putting me back in my submissive headspace. It’s not easy in the moment, but the mix of emotions tends to reset my perspective and keeps me in my place.
     
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    Get the cage back on... right away. I have never done well when allowed to roam free and giving free choices and a free penis don't have good outcomes.

    Sex (particularly kinky sex) can feel icky and weird once the tension is broken and you're allowed to cum. Well, I want to take this dog collar and panty hose off now... I mean I'm a manly man after all (actually I'm embarrassed by what turns me on).

    Orgasms should be rare gifts as bestowed by the keyholder but just because she chooses to unlock you shouldn't mean you're 'free.'
     
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    What to after ejaculation?
    Get back in your chastity device or belt as soon as you can.
    Give the keys over to your mistress.
    It's quite simple.
     
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    a good Day of Maidtraining on the very next day will do the job
     
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    well i used to find it humiliating that my wife wanted to lock me back up after letting me have an orgasm it was part of the process of chastity for us, but even more humiliating was when she pegged me too after an orgasm, so the humiliation took over from the orgasm drop and i guess this is how i got in to humiliation
     
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    Madame decided no orgasm no drop works.

    Pegging is humiliating and stimulating at the same time. For me totally submissive.
     
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    We always had a discussion on when I should be locked up after having intercourse or her bringing me to any orgasm. I would delay and hope she fell asleep, this way I had a night of freedom. One time after we finished, we headed into the shower and she brought the cage to wash at the same time. I was all soaped up, so was the cage, and for some reason she slipped the cage back onto me. It went on so easy I took the ring and hooked it around and the cage slipped right into the ring. She reached out, grabbed the lock and key, installed it and turned the key. This set our path going forward unless it was a previously agreed time out of the cage.
     
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    Probably best to have something like a 10 minute time limit to have it back on or be faced with a punishment. It helps greatly if she firmly demands that it be done which is the same as cleanup duty if you are lucky enough to ejaculate in or on her. It also helps with stamina and relocking if the base ring stays on during play.
     
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    Just to reiterate what most people are already saying. Just don’t cum! The horniness and submissiveness just grows with time and that feels incredible. Way better than a few seconds and the drop :)
     
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    Just keep doing it and you'll get used to it. Sometimes locking up before the refractory period hits full swing helps. And the more you do anal the less you'll mind after cumming. You're young, give yourself some experience.
     
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    Well easiest would be to not ejaculate.
    Get used to locking up right after.
    How long would you say it takes for you to get back in the mood to be locked?
     
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    For the longest time my Wife would immediately lock me back up. However, after the last 2 orgasms she granted she let me spend the rest of the day unlocked.

    Admittedly, both of those releases were ruins, but I had no issues following her instructions.

    I think it has a lot to do with natural submissive tendencies, along with long-term training and conditioning. Some of us have been locked 24/7 so long that we lock back up without even thinking through that we will spend weeks, months, or years before being let back out again! It's just our natural state after a while. The shortest lock I can begin to hope for is a week, usually 2 weeks.

    I enjoy the blissful horny state of chastity but I'm still a guy that works on cars and likes to pee outside. It sucks to always have to go inside and find a bathroom and sit because my Wife has my dick locked in a cage. I get zero say in that. I accept it but left to my own devices I probably wouldn't be locked so much lol.
     
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    It's a positive thing we have our Madame's to keep us under their management.
     
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    Very easy:
    If you have an orgasm you must switch focus on her. Either giving her an orgasm or treat & cherish her body, while you're still hot. This will reduce the submissive drop after you come.

    Feathers.sub
     
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    I agree, or don’t unlock before anal play.
     
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    Missy and I were reading some stories here together and came on this one. She asked me why I don’t seem to have this “drop” in attention for her that subs talk about. I said I really didn’t know but I always feel so loved afterwards that I want to be close to you.

    As we read the various posts in the thread more carefully, we noticed something in common about a few of them that seemed to have conquered the problem. At least in part. Mellowkinc, Starflyer, Thomas Gangman, and Feathers.sub all have one thing in common. Their key holder keeps them engaged after their orgasm in one manner or another.

    As we thought about this, it is very true for us. When we make love and I have an orgasm it is very much about the love and she snuggles and kisses me for a few minutes after. Also, so far it has always been a Saturday morning so we get up from bed while I am still feeling the love rather than falling asleep. She talks to me and touches my arm or back and gives me pecks on the cheek while we dress and make breakfast. She is very affectionate after we make love.

    Then, because Saturday is typically our do things together day, we are connected all day and generally doing something we enjoy. She talks to me all the time and I am engaged with her by her choice.

    When we go to bed Saturday night she wants to be made love to again but it seems to mostly be by making her melt in my arms. When I do that for her she also makes me feel very loved. Saturday night my testosterone tank is obviously not full yet because I have little or no desire for orgasm. Just that desire to feel her love for me which I get when I make her feel loved.

    Sunday morning we snuggle before getting up for church and at church she holds my hand for much of the service.

    It may be I have that down period from the crazy chemistry that happens when I orgasm but I don’t know it because her love for me keeps me distracted for 24 hours or more.

    Could it be that the KHs have the power to control this “drop” sensation by just doing a turnabout thing and showing affection, or for that matter any kind of attention, to the sub after his orgasm?

    Admittedly Missy and I don’t know a lot about hormones or biology but this kind of makes sense to us. Open for discussion. I guess it doesn’t really matter why because I am just happy I don’t seem to have to deal with it but it is curious.
     
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    After an orgasm I usually "drop" for a few days. Stopping that happening too often is one of the reasons I wear a chastity device. After an orgasm I can never overcome my reluctance to lock back up immediately. Some have said that it shortens the period of "drop". I am thinking of asking my wife to lock me into my heavy leg irons before allowing me an orgasm and not unlocking them until I am secure again. I don't know whether she would agree or whether I will have the nerve to suggest it in the first place.
     
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