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    My Mistress/GF/KH is coming to visit for a week from Thursday to Thursday. We'll still have people around the house until Tuesday so we can't do much in the way of playing, other than me still being in Chastity. However, the Tuesday-Thursday we will have a free house to ourselves. On the Tuesday we're planning a bit of a day trip and a dinner party in the evening so not much opportunity to play there. However, on the Wednesday we're thinking of a day of solidly BDSM playing. Now, open to everyone on here, especially Mistresses - what should we do in that day?

    I already have a few ideas myself - when she has a shower I stand in the corner of the bathroom so she can keep an eye on me. I hand her her towel to dry off, but must avert my gaze unless instructed to do otherwise. That or lie face down on the floor and become her human shower mat. She also likes to read, so I suggested that while she reads I lie at her feet and she uses me as a human footstool. Also, we could watch porn together - she naturally gets to masturbate whilst I'm still locked - I can only please her orally whilst she watches.

    Any other suggestions welcome, but please remember that we have no BDSM toys other than my Chastity Device. Have fun and be creative please :)
     
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    I would suggest you wake your KH up Wednesday morning with light caresses and some gentle oral attention, leading to a nice wakeup O for her. Then bring her coffee or tea or juice to bed, and let her luxuriate and think about what she wants to do that day... while you make and serve her breakfast in bed. You should stand at attention by the bed while she eats and tells you what your day is going to be like. If she allows you coffee, I'd suggest it be flavored with your own special cream... I'm guessing after some chastity, you will be producing quite a bit.

    Maybe she would like to shop for some new sexy lingerie... with you in tow, in your CD of course, and there to give your opinion and carry her purse and purchases. Then maybe some lunch... she could go in the restroom and change into a new pair of panties she just bought, and bring you back her used ones to go put on yourself.

    And then... and then.... well, it's all up to her, isn't it?!!
     
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    Thank you for the suggestions. I feel I should also point out though - we won't be leaving the house either, unless to go to the cinema with me in panties - that would be it. The reason I ask for advice as well is a) she asked me to because B) she has little to no experience of being my Mistress and wants ideas. On Her behalf, thanks in advance! :)
     
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    I would love to weigh in if you could provide some more information.

    What part of bdsm do you like best? On a scale of 1 (not if you paid me) to 10 (oh god please yes, I can't live without it) how would you rate the following?:

    Bondage

    Disipline

    Sadism

    Masochism

    Humiliation

    Forced Chastity

    Forced Feminization

    What else excites you most?

    I know if you were going to watch porn with me, you would be kneeling before me awaiting my commands, with your back to the TV. If you tried to look even once it would be off to the dungeon. Personally I would have you prettied up in a latex maid's outfit, makeup, wig, heels, the whole nine yards. If you are half as adorable as I am picturing you now, I would have you fetch my biggest dildo, but since you don't seem to have one I would just use my hands, or anything that vibrates (electric toothbrush), to masturbate during the hottest parts of the film. As I was about to come I would have you park your face directly in front of my pussy so I could give you a good spray, marking my territory. But that's just me.


     
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    If you wanna have fun, you're just going to have to get out of the fucking house!

    As far as cuckolding goes the answer is simple--nine out of ten women who ask me about cuckolding end up taking this route--your girlfriend needs to go shopping for a dildo. If she's embarrassed she can always shop online. I buy 90% of my sex toys from Amazon.com. They even sell chastity devices, that's where I got jamie's CB6000s. Tell her to shop carefully and pick the largest one she feels comfortable with. I recommend the "cyberskin" type.

    Then she needs to have an affair with it. She need to tell you and show you how much better she prefers having sex with her dildo than you. This should be used as motivation for you to improve your lovemaking skills, especially oral. She should also make you practice giving blow jobs to her dildo, and have you lick it, wash it, dry and powder it after she uses it.

    Since you rated humiliation off the charts, I think you should go shopping for some lingerie. Hopefully your girl will go with you, but you should ask the salesgirl for help.

    Gotta run - tea time! I'll be back later and see if I can add any more.

     
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    I'm more than happy to get out of the house - as you say we won't have fun if we don't! Problem is, if I suggest it, it feels way too much like topping from the bottom. She asked me to set up this thread and then report back to her. In all honesty, I reckon She needs to read it Herself, that would give Her ideas and I wouldn't need to top from the bottom :/. However, as She's new to it etc., She almost wants me to top from the bottom.... Catch 22? lol
     
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    Topping from the bottom might not be the worst thing in the world if it gets the ball rolling. She doesn't know how to act. She wants you to direct her and be her acting coach. She may be afraid of doing the wrong thing and souring the relationship.

    The good thing about topping from the bottom is it gives her an opportunity to learn just what pleases and pleasures you. When she has that knowledge, she knows exactly what to withhold from you! The weekend before I took jamie as my cuckold, I had him spend the whole time writing down all of his fantasies and fetishes, as well as his turn-offs and limits. Poor boy, he thought he was going to get all the things he wanted, and avoid all the things he feared. He got two things that he wanted: I have complete control of his life, and he gets to watch men make love to me (if they agree and I feel like it). He thought he would be fucking me after they did, or at least masturbating while he watched us. Well he sure as hell isn't allowed anywhere near my pussy, and the only times he has come while watching is when he succeeds in one of my games, such as: I tie him in a standing X at the foot of my bed. I tie a rechargeable vibrator to his nuts. If he can come before the battery goes dead, lucky him! Every time he does come, he must wear a rubber which he must then wear on his tongue after he has filled it.

    He didn't want to perform any sexual acts with the men, only with me. Well guess what! He thought he was going to pick or at least approve the men who fucked me. He thought he would control how often and with whom I made love. He thought a lot. So the more you teach your girlfriend to please you now, the better she can torment you later.

    The really, really import thing for her to know, and to remember is: being dominant means everything is her way, and her way is however she wants it. She doesn't need to do things the way you teach her, or how I suggest, or how it is written about on any forum or book. She is free to do absolutely anything she wants. She could make you dress up like the Easter bunny and feed her peanut butter with your big toe; she could demand that you give up all your fantasies and be her straight arrow lover. As I asked earlier, are you sure you are ready for this?
     
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    To be honest, right there, you've confirmed exactly how I justified "topping from the bottom" with my girlfriend. I'm certain that if it was anyone on here, for example, I definitely wouldn't have to!

    As I mentioned before - there are very few aspects of the BDSM world that I wouldn't go to - and any I wouldn't my girlfriend wouldn't either. I know ultimately it is about what SHE wants, not what I want, but I do feel ready for it. I have noticed on some of your posts that you've said "Once you decide to leave there's no coming back". I think the same would apply to me and my girlfriend if we continued, only "Once you want to stop we won't do this again".

     
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    I would say, based on your girlfriend's attitude "once you want to stop we won't do this again," that the games have already begun. There is a lot of control in that attitude.

    Good luck,

    Mistress Angelique
     
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    Buy her a good book on the subject so she can educate herself, but be warned, you may create a monster :rolleyes:
     
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    Unfortunately, that isn't the case yet, but hopefully one day soon it will be!

     
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