Provide a good reason why you should orgasm

The only benefit would be if she wants babies.
Otherwise its just messy and not very useful.

 

The only benefit is for her enjoyment. Your orgasm should be when she wants and how she wants.

You really don’t need them. And you know it.

as for the mess, you should be cleaning it up. And hopefully that is something she enjoys watching. If not, it seems like you should get used to longer and longer periods without them.

 

Tomf is exactly right.
I wasn't thinking.
if she enjoys you having orgasms then that is also a valid benefit.

 

Thanks.
I view everything from the perspective of pleasing my dominant. So giving her pleasure is how I get mine.

I also look at things that what I enjoy may or may not be what other enjoy. So it’s really about asking* them and learning what they want and expect.

OP simply needs to please her. Follow her lead and do as she wants.

 

In a female-led relationship, male orgasms are useless except for the purpose of making children.

One might argue that the superior female might allow the subservient male some pleasure by allowing him to achieve an orgasm, but his own pleasure should really be derived from pleasing his female dominant.

One might also argue that orgasms are necessary for health reasons, but technically that’s not true: there are other ways to maintain health of the prostrate without an orgasm. Ejaculation can be achieved without the pleasure of an orgasm, and can achieve said health benefits. So, it’s possible to release the buildup of fluids in males for health reasons, without requiring an orgasm.

I’ve read that some men can get pleasure from stimulating the prostrate for the sole sake of ejaculation, but I’ve also read that most men derive no pleasure from said stimulation and non-orgasmic release.

 

I believe that this is whats known as an "Old husbands tale"

 

Decreased risk of prostate cancer, the 2016 study wasn't conclusive but the meta one from 2019 was. Also improved cardio-vascular health, reduced risk of depression and substance abuse, immune system functioning et cetera. And that's just the simple ones.

The real issue here is that the question isn't about consent. It's just semi abusive.

 

Sometimes the fantasy of our wives or partners being these all controlling self centered beings that keep us around for their amusement and pleasure can be harmful. The fact of the matter is that most people in FLR's love each other. At least that's been my experience with people I've met on CM. Presumably your partner wants to make you happy if she loves you. Of course what makes you happy is the rub (or lack there of). My wife has asked me on occasion about frequency of orgasms. The best answer I've ever given her is that I cherish and appreciate every orgasm, but also regret every orgasm. That I'm content to live with her choice. Now I don't always feel that way. Some times I want to rip this damn cage off and have sex. Sometimes I get depressed and feel like I've been locked and forgotten. Still the core truth is I do appreciate, cherish and regret every orgasm. So to your question @Lockedmuscle it can benefit her in any number of ways. Perhaps as a kindness, perhaps as a punishment, perhaps even if done in a humiliating way as a means of establishing dominance. Perhaps even done to her detriment instead of her benefit, because she wants it for you. On the other hand maybe your done with orgasms and that's the greatest gift she can give you.

 

A link to the 2019 study would be useful.
Can one of you provide a website or title and author?

Regardless....

My urologist told me that I can continue to have gentle emissions that keep me in plateau by avoiding climax.

Male orgasms seem important... All that ball tightening and muscle clenching, and spurting associated with a pleasurable orgasm looks like it had some function. Male orgasms are not necessary to maintain prostate and testicle health.

I can stay teased and denied and pour out slow gobs of cum from perfect ruined orgasms and stay hard and wanting. Another doctor did not feel that 2016 study was important. Every man is different and I was not encouraged to try and force myself to have a minimum frequency of ejaculation.

So my wife took this as: I don’t need to cum. I don’t even need to be spilled. She was encouraging wet dreams.... but no touching myself or milking myself to cause spills.

 

The only thing I can think of is if the both of you find your post-orgasm mindset very useful at certain times: like a deterrent you can both aim at someone else when the afterglow has faded.

If your orgasms can be planned for when your post-attitude would be useful, that could be a benefit.

 

I think best idea is that you say: "I want last orgasm in my life"

 

How about "I have had the last orgasm of my life"?

 

I didn’t say I agree. I was just referencing a widely believed or at least widely cited reference

 

There are a lot of good health reasons why one should orgasm - even if you leave the one about prostate cancer out.

- Thanks to oxytocin it relieves stress
- Thanks to oxytocin it helps strengthening your relationship (nice litle hormone - isn't it ?^^)
- Sex including an orgasm helps strengthening your immune system by increasing your leukocytes
- Thanks to an orgasm you body releases Somatropin - an hormone helping your bodyscape in a good way and also making you skin look younger
- and a lot more....

 

I think this can be a valuable reason. I know after I cum, I experience a range of emotions that fuel my need to be submissive. I'm often awash in guilt, disappointment (both in myself and the quality of the orgasmic experience), fear (knowing it could be awhile before my next one), and a sense of loss of freedom (because my penis is locked right after). So if your wife or KH wishes to further enhance your submission this can be a time when you are especially vulnerable to such desires. That can fruitful for her control and your commitment to a FLR.

 

I will dig it out. However there's a clearer statement in the 2018 paper "Sexual Activity and Risk of Prostate Cancer: A Dose-Response Meta-Analysis." ( Jian Z, Ye D, Chen Y, et al. )

(EF being Ejaculation Frequency, PCa Prostate Cancer, OR Odds Ratio)
"moderate EF (2-4 times per week) was significantly associated with a lower risk of PCa (OR 0.91, 95% CI 0.87-0.96)."

This paper is however mainly interested in the relationship between sexual promiscuity and PCa but that should be enough to make it abundantly clear that the idea that ejaculations are unrelated to PCa is something dredged up from the bowels of nothingness.

 

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