We're about half a year in give or take to our new dynamic. What started as her being hesitant to me even wearing a cage as progressed faster and further then I could have imagined. We're looking at renting a cabin with sex furniture in next couple months now for example. Anyone else hugely surprised how much a vanilla partner has embraced kinks they didn't even know they had?
I should answer yes, based on recent events, but I do believe those links had just be laying dormant, waiting to bloom.
No surprise for me. I knew as a teenager there was no point in dating someone vanilla beyond a few dates. I would start a conversation on the third date about my belief that sex should be fun, should be a far ranging exploration into all of our desires, that I loved bondage games even as a kid. Then the question. Was she game or not. If she wasn’t then that was our last date. So for us chastity was just another exploration of BDSM, we became less vanilla with every new fun thing we found.
Yes, but in my case it has involved me embracing a degree of “normality” I never knew I had too. What I have is very different from the dark and extreme things I wanted, sought out and revelled in. But this is way better!
Madam and I met as a vanilla couple, it was a few months later that she told me she was actually working as a online dominatrix. so it did take me by surprise! But in a very good way! it was only a couple of days later I admited my kinks and that I was sub/into kink and we just went on fro there and have never looked back!
I've been with dominant women mostly with hindsight. In good faith, they ended badly but hey ho, was good for most of it. My girlfriend now is probably the most open minded and easy going girl I've met. She's discovered she gets turned by being dominant. Of course I jumped at the chance. Of course she has probably become sick of dominant men and doesn't miss giving blowjobs or any demands for piv sex. Her ass is off limits. Kind of, I had an unusual request tonight.
Yes and no. My formerly submissive wife embraced chastity and female dominance with grat enthusiasm. But the signs were always there.
My wife has always had the dominant traits in her personality but otherwise a bit vanilla. I was always kind of all over the board. After learning and embracing FLR we both adapted fairly quickly and are even happier with our relationship that was always strong. Honestly it’s probably at its strongest. I was not sure if she’d take a liking to chastity but I’m writing this on day 9 of a lockup so I’m starting to think she likes that too haha. And when I first mentioned chastity cages she had no idea what they were and had typical “that’s weird” thoughts. I’m surprised and thrilled how she’s adapted to things so far and we are young so i hope we continue to explore fun ways to expand it.
On the topic of kinks, I'm still hoping to find out But she does seem to enjoy both the sexual benefits and the power aspect.
Hope it works out for you. Sounds like it's a good start. Hers so far are paddlings and some light bondage. She's a pro and saying no if I have weak moment want out of cage too.
I lucked out and found a girl who was into kink right from the start, but finding cock cages and trying one out after 28 years of marriage brought out a very dominant side of my Wife. It’s been an amazing and fulfilling trip for both of us, and she tells me we’re never going back to me being in charge of our sex lives. Been four years now of being a caged man. The surprising part for me was just how quickly things escalated with strictness and her enthusiasm in taking charge. It’s a beautiful thing seeing your partner blossom and I wouldn’t change anything really
I've never been so surprised in my life, my wife jumped on board once she realized what it was about and hasn't looked back. I must have pestered to much for sex, now I'm not allowed to even mention it. She lets me know when I'm allowed sex.