How did your journey begin?

It was just one of the many bdsm things we tried. And it evolved to what it is now.
There are moments when i ask myself wouldn't it be better without all this. But no, actualy I wouldn't changed a thing.

 

My journey started from being a habitual masturbator. Locked myself and gave the keys to my wife and confessed, have been locked up ever since. Wife has made it permanent.
It wasnt appealing to me, just seemed like the only solution.
If I had to do over, I wouldn't have done it. Didnt think my wife would want to keep me this way. I dont have any access to my penis anymore

 

Our Journey began about 8 years ago. Me being sexual curious saw acage and made my self one to try. We went away for the weekend, I told my wife I didn’t bring the key (a lie) that night I gave her many glorious orgasms. It made me feel so good to please her. We progressed to now where I’m locked all the time and serve her totally.
What appealed to me was being on edge all the time with no drop after an Orgasm. Few Orgasms. Seeing her enjoy herself and how she thanks me for doing things around the house.

We wouldn’t change anything except starting Younger. We have no plans to ever go back to me being not locked and under her control. This IS the greatest lifestyle their is.

That’s the short answer

 

I wrote a lengthy journal entry on this, so I will try to keep this short.

Our journey was a result of two things. First, my wife has suffered from very bad vaginismus our entire marriage. Any kind of penetration or intercourse is very painful for her. Because of this, my pre-existing masturbation habit intensified after we got married. I started masturbating 2-3 times per day most days.

After seven years of a practically sexless marriage and tons of masturbating, I became disillusioned with masturbation and became convinced that a married man shouldn’t masturbate.

Long story short, I found a website advocating the use of chastity devices to stop masturbation and I bought one. I confessed my masturbation habit to my wife and showed her the device (which I was wearing).

Her initial outward reaction was of concern that it might hurt me, but she later admitted that she thought I looked cute with it on and she found the idea of me not being able to get hard kind of exciting.

Shortly afterward she was having her period and I really wanted sex (since I hadn’t been able to masturbate, I was really desperate). She said no, since she was having her period, but said I could stay locked up and we could “do everything else).

That night changed our marriage. It was the night that my wife discovered that sex could be really enjoyable. It just meant that I couldn’t use my penis.

From there it progressed gradually with longer and longer lockups to where my wife finally admitted that her big wish is that I would be chaste permanently. We haven’t officially committed to permanent chastity, but it is certainly the norm now. I was allowed out twice in the last year (excluding washing), both times I was allowed intercourse but only one of the times I got to finish to orgasm.

I had made some comments to my wife last week while lovemaking about how badly I miss being inside of her. She stated very clearly that she really does not want me to penetrate her ever again. I knew deep down that was how she felt, but it did make me kind of sad to hear her say it. She basically wants to turn me into a “born again virgin” and keep me that way. I really want to give her what she wants, but I already miss orgasms and intercourse so bad. I can’t imagine years on end of knowing that is all over for me.

 

My journey into chastity began like this: I 21 and was dating this girl and we were having a good time together, nothing beyond what most people would say is a "normal" relationship. Typical stuff. One day out of nowhere one day when we're 69ing and she grabs my balls and starts to squeeze them and says something to the effect of "the better you do, the less I squeeze." Needless to say, I did about the best oral job I've ever done. so then nothing happens for like a week, we go out one Friday night and come back to the apartment kind of mess around, but shes like just wait until the morning, I have a surprise for you. Now, its important to note that I am a ridiculously heavy sleeper. So we head to bed, she stays the night, nothing out of ordinary...until...

I wake up and I'm locked in pink Holytrainer. My mind literally went to like a mush/panic/fervor all at the same time. I am like "What is this? Are you kidding me?" To which the reply was and I'll never forget it, "I want you to wear this for us." I didn't know what to say, I was more shocked by her verbiage again and something like "what? why? what is this?" She then calmly proceeded to explain, she had always wanted to try something like this, but was too afraid to ask. She also explained that, she trusted me, but wanted me to commit to her in a way that no one else had ever done before. I took a moment to collect my thoughts and realizing I really cared for her, asked her how long and she said we would start with the weekend. On Sunday she would take it off and we could decide what would happen next in the relationship...

Anyone want to take a guess what happened next? Part 2 to come soon, I need to mow the lawn before it rains.

 

Part 2.

Sunday comes and she’s like “tell me how you feel now?” So basically I explained that I was really horny all weekend and it was weird getting used to it, but glad it was over. She the says, “well, it’s only over if you want it to be over...but it would be really special to me if you WANTED to put it back on or better yet, left it until Friday...” I wasn’t sure what to say, but she started getting affectionate just rubbing my shoulders until her hands end up on the cage and she very nonchalantly says, “so what do you say?” I asked if I could get a key in case of an emergency and she said something like, “if it’s an emergency, the key won’t make a difference, they’re going to cut it off anyway.” I said, “ok.” Then we cuddled on the couch and watched a movie until she had to go.

We text back and forth all week and she doesn’t mention the cage one time. Then Friday comes and I’m about to have a breakdown, I felt so emotionally compromised it was crazy. So she comes over and I’m ready to get the cage off as fast as possible, but she keeps deflecting when I asked just telling me to wait until later. So again, we watch a movie and she basically keeps her hand on or near the cage the whole time. Movie ends and we start kissing, she straddles me and starts grinding on the cage. I stop and ask what’s going to happen now and she says, “do you trust me?” I say “yes,” and then she asks “how bad do you want out of the cage?” I said something like “really bad.” She goes to her purse and pulls out these handcuff things and say “I’ll only take it off if you put these on first.” My mind is going wild, my body was quivering, so we start to undress and we’re in our underwear kissing and then she Velcro’s my hands behind my back and pushes me on the bed. She disappears for a second and comes back with the key and unlocks me and just watches for second and says, “there, you’re unlocked, now what do I get?” Not knowing what was about to happen I say, “anything you want.” She then proceeds to sit and grind on my face and said something like “I’ll let you know when you can stop.” Well, every time I stopped, she would flick one of my balls. It never hurt, but was uncomfortable.

I don’t know how long it went on, but she seemed satisfied and climbs off me and said, “now I’ve kept my end of the deal by unlocking you, but if you want to cum, you have a choice.” Now I’m about to explode I’m so excited, but I’m trying to hold back when she says, “I’m giving you two options: 1) I can put you back into the cage until Sunday or 2) I can get you off, but you have to eat it...

If you want to hear Part 3, just let me know!

 

Definitely continue onto part 3.

 

Part 3.

I’m totally shocked, I didn’t even know what I was about to say, but I said something like, “I don’t want to eat it.” Little did I know that as the words left my mouth she started to squeeze my balls a bit and start putting me in the cage. “Good, I’m glad you see it my way. It makes this so much more special.” Back into the cage I go, she locks it without hesitation and then goes and puts the key back in her purse and then comes back and uncuffs me and says, “wasn’t that fun? Don’t you realize how special this is? It’s our own special secret.” I don’t remember my response, but for some reason we ended up going for ice cream.

So I don’t see her again until Sunday, but when she’s supposed to come over she calls and says she can’t tonight, but will see me tomorrow (Monday.) I’m about to have a nervous breakdown, but I now know that it was an overload of hormones. Monday evening comes and she gets stuck at work, Tuesday comes and I get stuck at work. So I reach out to her Wednesday and she’s like “let’s wait until Friday and I’ll make it worth your while.” So I agree because I’m about ready to agree to a punch in the face at this point.

Friday comes and she comes over and wears low rise jeans and a halter top. Looks amazing. We hug and kiss and she says she’s happy to see me. I’m going through scenarios in my head about what’s going to happen next and figure if I ask about the cage, she deflect, so I ask her about dinner instead. Fast forward an hour later after going for pizza, she says something like, “are you ready?” I tell her “I’m so ready!” And she says, “Are you mine?” I say “yes.” “You want me to take it off?” Being more care I said “yes and I want cum so badly.” So she says, “the only way I’’m taking it off is if you wear the handcuffs. You said you’re mine, that means this is mine too.” As she grabs the cage through my pants. I acquiesce to her request and let her bind me again after she tells me to strip. She leaves to get the key and comes back with something in her hand. She gets to the edge of the bed and puts whatever was in her hand out of site and says “don’t worry about.” Off comes the cage and she so so so slowly teases me with her hand. This goes on for what felt like forever, then out of no where she takes off her jeans and straddles my face again and says “eat it.” I do my best, but the angle was definitely difficult, but as she does she she starts to stroke faster and faster saying “is it good?” “Do you like it?” “Are you mine?” I’m about ready to explode, I could barely go 2 days without cumming before and now it’s been 2 weeks. I tell her I’m close and she says, “you can have a nice orgasm and eat it or I’m going to ruin it and you don’t.” So desperate, I tell her I want a nice one. She plunged her mouth onto me and I instantly feel myself starting to cum. I basically cried out “I’m cumming.” She removes her mouth on me and I feel her finish me with her hand. My body goes limp, like all energy has been drained, but not before she spins about and dumps a 1/2 a shot glass worth of cum in my mouth and then puts her hand over my mouth and says, “swallow it for me.” I did. I felt helpless to any other answer, but before I know it I can feel her putting me back into the cage. I ask “why?” And she says, “because now I know you’re mine and that you’ll do anything for me.”

That was my first time with a cage. It was amazingto completely lose control, it was both terrifying and thrilling all at once. She was the person who introduced me to the chastity and Femdom lifestyle.

I have other stories about my time with her I can tell if anyone is interested?

 

My journey began the moment I found @L-u-c-y

 

My moment started when I was looking at new ways to masturbate, or have fun not masturbating. Bought it watch porn and not be able to touch myself.

 

it started for my wife and i when i pulled the CB6000 knockoff out of my private toybox(that was at the time kept hidden from her out of fear)
why i got it out and started wearing it for a few days i dont really know. I think it was because i was working a odd shift where i was alone at home as well as at work, so the probability of masturbating once or twice a day was 100%. I chat with her often when on these shifts. I was browsing pintrest and tumblr about chastity and found a few that were not pornographic but depicted the benefits of chastity for the keyholder.
that turned into a game of sending one another suggestive texts/meme's regarding chastity, FLR, female domination of husbands, or general kink/bondage. I used it as a way to test the waters on a few kinks i had that i was too terrified to bring up with her. This lead to me finally coming clean about my interest in her taking the reigns in the bedroom, as i found it incredibly attractive. she was worried that i would turn into a beta outside the bedroom to which i explained that would never happen, i explained that my desire to serve her and please her is why i view a woman in charge as one of the most attractive things ever. her personality has always been domineering in many ways, which is one of the things that captivated my attention when we first met.
fast forward a few days, i bought her a few books regarding FLR chastity, and teasing and denying. I said she is free to take this as far as she is comfortable or shelf the idea completely if its not for her, but to just approach it with a open mind at first. after she read the books she was again concerned about my true interests so i suggested we fill out one of those all encompassing kink checklist. basically everything under the sun is on there. i filled it out 100% honestly, as well as wrote a explanation next to each activity i really had a interest in. I was shocked that we had about 80% similar results for the moderate to extreme interest in. I left the lists with her and again reiterated that anything on there and even things not on ther,e she is free to introduce into our relationship. if it fits for her/us, keep it. if not forget about it and move on.

that was 6 months ago and so far so good.we finally have a custom device(lori 2A) and now my chastity is 100% real as i am unable to escape this device, it is much shorter and i cant even masturbate myself over the device, not to mention the base ring is much tighter so if i try to masturbate it will cut off the blood flow enough to eventually become painful and kill the appeal to misbehave.(yes i am a brat at times and test my bonds or in this case, the integrity of my cage)
my wife has told me that i have a 3-6 month lockup in store for me soon.

numbing cream is now in the toy chest along with a penis extension to allow her PIV sex all the while keeping me orgasm free. between rattan canes, ball gag(she had expressed no interest in them before all this, but that was when she assumed she would be wearing it, now that im the intended recipient she loves using that when caning or spanking me) we have dabbled with rimming and she really seems to like that. I am hoping some day she will bring out the strapon(was discussed and something she is open to trying some day) as well as creampie cleanup. based on what i have read of others experiences, i feel like i hit the key holding wife lottery. being relatively young, i can only imagine what fun is in store for my wife and i in the coming decades.


wow thats a long winded post i just typed. but thats how we got into all this.
so far i would do it all over again the exact same way as it seems to be going perfectly. im incredibly grateful to be able to be where we are today and can say i am incredibly excited for what the future has in store.

 

Part 3 - definitely.

 

It allowed me to put the penis out of the equation. Sex to me was always coming with anxiety: do I get it up? can I last long enough? am I big enough? I had problems in all those areas and from the look of my girlfriend's face I could tell she was not very satisfied. So I suggested chastity after reading about int online, we started and it was fun. I had no anxiety because the penis was not in demand afterwards. We're not together anymore, but chastity is still with me.

I haven't had sex in 3 years and I hope I can make it to 4.

 

my journey....umm just say to my wife...i often play with my hand....
and yes she angry and mad at me....then i introduce her to chastity belt,at first she just say its weird, then i going even worse at masturbate...then she realized..."honey we need to buy a chastity belt for you"...and please give me that chastity for my birthday present...

and now..im locked for 12 hour a day(after work)...at first she just locked me when she get period...but after her period...she just asking me to keep locked...i asked her,when i got my release?,she just say,"until i want, just keep locked,btw i love the sound of your padlocked chastity when you are walked,that means you are still locked and mine thats make me horny"
well at last my fate has sealed

 

I’m brand new, I found this by accident. I was looking for wand attachments for my wife since she likes focused power rather than diffuse power from the plain wand head. While there, I popped in the men’s section for a browse and saw the cages. I did a quick bit of research and added a cage to the order.

My intention is to masturbate less in order to have more fulfilling orgasms. Willpower is enough for me to resist for a few days before sex so that my masturbation doesn’t lessen her pleasure, but when I’m feeling horny now, a better orgasm later is a tough sell. Giving her the keys will ensure I can’t give in to temptation.

I’m not at all interested in being a sub or a sissy. Not because I’m too macho (I’m not macho at all), but because it just doesn’t appeal to me as something I’d want to do. I already do most of the housework and child care responsibilities because my job allows me to work from home and my wife works 80-hour weeks. I’d have to be a complete ass to insist on a patriarchical division of labor and expect her to also keep our home and care for our daughter.

I do enjoy reading about the breadth of interests and applications around something as seemingly simple as male chastity. It’s fascinating to see how different people express their love for each other; just because I’m not interested in pursuing that lifestyle doesn’t mean there isn’t anything I can learn from them. At the very least it helps to further open my mind and help me to see how diverse people are in so many aspects of their lives, yet there are always others who can be counted upon for understanding when no one else does.

 

I was on Instagram looking at a sex toy shop and saw a picture of a tiny steel cage. My heart flipped when I saw it. Before that moment chastity had never been a thought in my head. Since then I have been researching and contemplating buying a device. About a month ago while doing a search I came across a site selling discounted devices and on a whim purchased one. It arrived a week ago Tuesday. I have been locked just about the entire time since. I have ordered a smaller cage that should fit better. It’s due to arrive today.

 

I had seen an erotic story and it mentioned a chastity device. It was hot, and I experimented with making one (lol I thought how hard can it be, just cover it and lock it!). Since that didn’t work I looked online and found some contraptions that looked like torture devices like the cb2000. I ended up buying a 50 dollar cheap cage they was too long and gap was too wide. Worked when excited but I could slip through when flacid. I thought about sharing this idea with my wife, but decided that she would love the idea just to be mean...I didn’t trust her.

I kept going here (under a different name than I use currently) that was in 09. I also kept reading blogs about it and researched sizing and devices just in case I ever got one. Fast forward to 2015, divorced and started seeing someone. I decided I would start things off by being honest right away. After a few months of dating I told her that I had some hidden feminine tendencies, and preferred not being in control sexually. That went fine, she was very open minded. I decided to buy a custom device and see if that was something she wanted to try.

While texting back and forth kinda dirty, she opened up that she ordered a sex swing(the kind you hang on a door), I asked if it was for you or me lol! I then said I had also purchased something...something that would let her control my sexual activity at all times. She was curious, but once I explained it, she said she didn’t want that kind of responsibility. Later she told me that she thought it was weird and she would have bolted if she didn’t already like me so much so gave it a whirl.

I had already gotten the device and worn it a few weeks and then gave her a key. The first night was odd, she unlocked me we played, she said I guess I’m on top from now on. She didn’t really get into denying me for a month or two. I then mentioned getting pierced so it was inescapable. She was actually on board for that, and was with me when I had it done. While I healed was when she had really got into what she wanted.

She read up online about submissive desires, we talked and texted about our fantasies, and she decided if we were doing this, we were doing it her way all the way. All or nothing. She instituted discipline, only let me out when she felt I earned an orgasm, teasing and casual play went mostly to the wayside, and she expected to be pleasured exactly how she wanted.

During the next two years she has implemented certain activities, rituals, and expectations that either turn her on or designed to keep me in subbie mode.

Now here we are, a few days from our wedding, she has both keys, I haven’t touched myself in years, and went from over 300 orgasms a year to roughly 10-12. She enjoys weekly maid service where I pamper her, I do pretty much all the domestic chores around the home, am disciplined when I displease her, if I am allowed to actually finish I am usually told to clean up, and now lock back up immediately after.

We are certainly no where near anyplace I thought we would be a few years ago, but I wouldn’t change a thing, she loves this and I love her.

 

This would be a much more interesting thread without the made-up stories being passed off as "real".

 

I hope you weren’t referring to my post, I have been sharing this on and off for awhile now.

 

I can’t speak to the others, but I assure you, my story is true.

 

Readers Digest condensed version. Birthday for Her 2012, wanted to show Her that She would
always be the only one. Gave Her the key and we had fun. Fast forward August 2017. She decided
that She would make sure that She was the only one. Full belt and no key. I had no idea what
happened, but I'm glad it did. She came up with Her own plan and I have been following since
then. I love that woman!

 

No, I'm not referring to either of you. Your posts ring true.

I think it's rather obvious which one is baloney.