Did you meet them through a fetish site? Were they already into it when you first met them? Did they "convert" you, or did you convert them?
We were both into it when we meet through a sex site not really a fetishes site. So we found that both of us was into it over emails and we meet. The thing with us we were into switching . When we would meet up and we would switch from dom to sub every other date. It was very exciting, but over time I found myself liking the role of the sub more and more . I have been with her 7 years now ,and overy those 7 years I have converted into her loving husband and submissive . I guess I can say that all three questions apply for us. Note: Just want to take the time to thank you and your staff for doing a great job with Chastity Mansion .
We met on line, not on any fetish site though. But even before meeting in real life we were chatting about common fetishes. At first we didn't have dom/sub relationship. But as we kept dating and things got more serious she discovered her dominant side and I just followed the developement of our relationship.
I have met all my play partners online, most of them on fetish sites. One day, i used a site for selling or buying old stuff. It had a small part for searching for relationship or sexual partners. There i posted an ad, saying i search for a women who loves to be licked a lot, who hates sperm and only want to cum herself while keeping me in permanent chastity. Noone answered to it and i forgot about that ad. A half year later, i got an email from a woman, asking if my tongue is still available. I was totally suprised! Luckily i started being chaste just 1 week earlier. So i was in a submissive and horny state. She loved that and asked me to not cum anymore as long as i keep talking with her. We met, we watched Jurassic World in cinema, she kept edging me in cinema, we met again 2 days later, i licked her for the first time. We fell in love and she made me wait 16 month until i was allowed my very first ruined orgasm since i knew her its 4 years ago that she mailed me. We are married now. She never saw my sperm in 4 years. I just made a small ad, searching for my perfect woman, and she found me
We met in a vanilla context until she let me read some of her fiction...….after that she introduced me to the submissive role...….first in the bedroom and then FLR
I married her. Not knowing how much I was interested in FLR or chastity at the time. But she has a authoritative personality that comes out when she wants something done . That was one of the many reasons I asked her to be my wife. Over w decade into our marriage, we finally breached the kink topic and are making progress with implementing it all to fit our relationship as she sees fit.
We were in a relationship already, and we were both kinky but nether of us admitted it for a few months, as soon as we did it went from there!
I just started by asking my wife to control my orgasms, then she noticed how submissive I became, and how I started doing more and more housework. She's fully on board and loves to tell family and friends about all the housework I do.
When first dating and the first couple of years of our marriage we never really put any importance on “who’s the leader” in our relationship, generally we were always on equal terms. My wife has always had a natural ability to lead and has earned the respect by those she leads and had led in the past. I asked her to try flr with chastity well over 4 years ago when we first started and she was unsure about the FLR part of it, seemed weird to her at the time. Little did we both know how naturally it would come to her over the following 4 years after I planted that seed. Now obviously any couple in a loving relationship with good communication are both going to discuss their plans with each other to make sure their plans don’t conflict and they can plan accordingly. That is how we used to discuss things and make our separate plans. Now it’s more like I’m a child asking a parent for permission to do what I’d like to do and that’s literally how I feel when addressing her, sometimes I even get a little nervous before asking. I’m not even exactly sure when that happened or when she felt that confident to assume that much control over me but she’s very strict but loving with me in that regard. I have to get permission from her to do just about anything and a lot of times she “needs to think about it” if I’d like to go out. She doesn’t say no often but still has to think about it. I’m sure those of you in a similar situation know what I’m talking about. It’s not like she’s just a mega bitch and doesn’t let me do what I want, there’s a whole lot more respect there and I really do feel like I’m addressing my superior when asking her for permission. Like I said I couldn’t tell you when it switched from just “play” to our reality. It certainly doesn’t upset me that I have to ask permission to do anything it’s just very different from how we use to agree on our plans 4 plus years ago. It’s just weird being a 35 year old man yet she can make me feel like a 9 year old boy in terms of control.
She was a famous foot model. but what She wss saying, thinking, sharing, how She was behaving, acting were hugely arousing my deep nature. i audaciously wrote Her, and ... not only She read me, but, charmed by what i wrote, She replied. however, little i knew about my destiny at that time! She weaved all the path to servitude and chastity. but netherless to say i am embracing all of Her World in which i am living now!
Whow. Lots of amazing and cool stories here. Mine is more a slow default into FLR. My wife and I have been married 34 years and we got into the swing lifestyle about 20 years ago. That was about the time I moved from a career job into a small business that I sold when my wife got a series of huge pay raises and we agreed that I would become a househusband. She has really enjoyed me as a househusband, taking care of many of the household chores, travel planning and entertainment. I take care of her in every way possible. ;-) She will snap her fingers for service -- another cup of coffee, perhaps? She is still uncomfortable with being associated with the term "dominant." So OK. So ... let's say she's a "princess" who loves to be the center of attention and have men do what she says and wants.
We'd been together for about 10 years before we started. Prior to that, I was very adventurous and my wife was the definition of vanilla. She trusted me though and opened up to new things over the years. When I first brought up chastity (I can't recall why I wanted to try) she was mortified. That was a few years back. Things slowly changed and by illustration, this morning, she had me stand in the corner with my back to her as she pleased herself with the wand. After she recovered, she dressed for work and then approached me with her riding crop and trashed my backside. She dropped the crop, whispered in my ear 'have a great day honey' and walked out the door. This woman had never owned a vibrator before we met. I'd never explored chastity before though I clearly led the way. Neither of us would go back.
First Mistress online through Alt.com, she made me jump through a few hoops to check I was genuine including measuring my erect penis before she would consent to meet me LOL, lots of questions Fetish and lifestyle etc. I was with her for 11 years. She converted me although I was curious for many years previously I had always been in a vanilla relationship, she was far more experienced than me being both ProDomme and Lifestyle BDSM.
She was the main mistress of a fetish event in Paris, I was admiring her... we didn't see each other for 7 years, and then she contacted me back on fetlife last year, and now I'm her toy
Tinder. And we both are very kinky, hyper sexual people. We knew she was Domme and I was sub when we met the first time.
Loving your questions @L-u-c-y College. My study partner turned out to be a mistress. She asked if I was willing to be 'tutored' to become a well mannered & disciplined male. I was willing & over the next few years she converted me to believing in this lifestyle. I brought the concept to my future relationships.
I approached my wife of almost 45 years at the time about chastity to stop my porn/masturbation habit. That was a year ago and the FLR has evolved slowly from that time. She has gone from a vanilla key holder to being more dominate with me. She doesn't consider herself a dominatrix and doesn't like to be called Ma'am or Mistress. She has me address her as m'Lady most of the time and I also refer to her that way when speaking or writing about her.