And so it begins ...!

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    I'm so excited! I raised the topic of chastity with my 'vanilla' wife this morning and handed over the keys to my cock cage (The Vice) after she seemed receptive. I showed her my caged cock and she giggled reassuringly. We're off! I went out to a meeting for much of the days and we discussed how we both felt about chastity when I got back. I showed her my cock straining to escape the cah=ge and she kindly offered to re-lube the ring and cage for me. I was sooo embarrassed by the unbelievable amount of pre-cum emanating from my dick as she examined 'the prisoner'! I lickerdf it off my fingers because (although i love eating my own cum) I didn't know what else to do with it and I've never done that in front of her before!

    I have supplied her with a couple of books to read and explained how she should ideally keep one key on her at all times( I probably need to buy her an ankle chain) and one in safe but secret place at home. I think I'll buy a combination lock storage case for home.

    I can't quite believe that we've started the journey together. It's been a secret fantasy of mine for so long but here are!! So exciting :)

    I'm not sure if I'll sleep in it tonight. I've explained that challenges that it might bring so we'll see what she decides. We don't have a contract. Do you think one is necessary / advisable? I don't want to freak her out.

    Does anyone have any tips or advice for the early days of the journey with a vanilla wife? Some links to ideas, discussions or games we can play for example?

    If you've been avoiding or delaying sharing the idea of chastity with your partner, my advice is to just do it! 'm so happy that I did and I hope you will be too.
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    Great start!

    2 questions:
    1. What did you tell her was your reason for trying this out?
    2. When flaccid, how much room do you have in the tip of the cage?
    The tighter the fit, the better you'll handle sleeping in it.
     
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    We don't have sex very often, partly because she can't have penetrative vaginal sex these days, but mainly because we don't talk about sexual needs and wants as much as we should. Consequently, I've become more 'self sufficient' and masturbate too much. She tried to initiate sex the other day and I had to tell her that I had masturbated not long before.

    She (wrongly but understandably) feels guilty that ew don't have vaginal sex, so I then told (again) that this is only a small part of a healthy sex life and not certainly not a critical one for me. I told her that I love her and that I'd give lots of thought about how to improve our sex life. I suggested chastity would be a great way to stop me masturbating and would a fun game for us to play. To my surprise and delight, she loved the idea!

    My dick is longish when flaccid (4 inches or so) so it's close to the end much of the time but I'm hoping when I get used to it (ie: I'm less excited from wearing the cage) it will shrink back a little. I find the the main problems with the vice are;

    1. the metal hinge digs into my skin behind my balls (especially when sitting for long periods of time)
    2. My foreskin bulges out of the two small holes at the front of the device and I'm concerned I might get an oedema. I'll need to keep an eye on that.

    I might try a Holy Trainer (less holes) if I have issues but i find them less attractive to look at.

    I'm not sure if I'm going to sleep in it on the first day yet. I might need to build up to that. We'll see. Anyway, she has both keys so ....
     
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    Holy trainer v4 is a good cage, if you can wait get the full range of sizes to try from china and save a packet, though I've now moved to a metal mamba/cobra style cage and love it
     
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    My wife decided that I should try to sleep wearing the device (The Vice - Standard) last night. I suggested that she might want to leave the key out somewhere so that, if I was too uncomfortable in the night, I would be able to release myself. She said no to that suggestion and that she’d prefer to be woken to manage the unlocking. I have to say that I wasn’t expecting her to be quite so strict with the key but I was very happy and pleasantly surprised that she took that approach!

    I have tried to sleep in the device once before when she was away and unaware of my interest in chastity but I wasn’t able to go the the whole night without unlocking it. However, although I was slightly nervous, I was also resigned to the fact that I no longer had control. That felt strangely comforting and reassuring. I didn’t want to fail so I embraced the feeling. Unfortunately, she decided she wanted a kiss and cuddle before we went to sleep and this resulted in discomfort and made think that I might not get through the night. She found it very amusing which I found to be a big turn on. Ouch!

    I found that I could lie in my usual sleeping positions without too much discomfort and the feeling of my cock in the cage was actually pleasant! I had mad maybe three periods where I woke with an erection but a trip to the bathroom and the addition of some more lube eased the problem.

    I am pleased to report that I managed to make it through the night fully locked and when my wife cuddled me this morning as we awoke I had a wonderful feeling of accomplishment. She seemed to appreciate the effort I made and she is definitely embracing her key holding role.

    When I have played with solo chastity previously, I enjoyed watching porn wearing a metal cage to experience the pain and pleasure. However, the vice is much more enclosed and more painful with erections so when my wife leaves today (I’ll be home alone most of the day) I really don’t think that I will be reverting to my old porn-watching / masturbating habit! This feels very liberating :)

    We haven’t established any rules or a contract yet but I am looking forward to some teasing and denial activity hopefully some time soon. Mainly, I am just enjoying sharing this experience with the woman I love.

    Again, if you haven’t told your wife or partner about your desire for chastity play yet, I can’t recommend it highly enough. Be brave, you may be surprised. I was!
     
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    You are a very lucky man!

    My wife can't have vaginal sex without a lot of discomfort. So manual or oral sex is her only outlet now. And she's not into vibrators (yet). You might find that you start to engage in sexual activity more frequently now because of the new dynamic especially if the two of you get comfortable with not removing the cage every time you engage with one another.

    Although I'm circumcised which may be a bit different, the fit of my cage is similar to yours I believe. You don't want too much extra space otherwise the cage won't prevent erections from getting started and then you'd have a lot more discomfort. You will have a lot more attempted erections the first few weeks in the cage because you'll be thinking about it constantly. That may lead to irritations particularly with the anti pullout. And that may require a few breaks. But once you settle in, even with increased sexual activity, the right sized tube should make you more comfortable in the long run.

    Hopefully, those kiss & cuddle sessions will start happening every morning & evening and she'll leave you desperate for more!
     
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    Day3: I am still somewhat in disbelief that my wife agrees to go along with this and even embrace the idea. Our biggest problem has been that we didn’t communicate enough about sex. I’ve always felt like a pervert because I wanted to try new things and she seemed to be very vanilla. Anyway, this morning we had another deep and intimate discussion about our sex leg Life in general are libido and ability to orgasm, and of course my chastity. She told me that she hasn’t been able to achieve an orgasm two years due to the drugs, she’s taking explain that orgasm didn’t need to be an objective and that she’s in denial she’s exactly that. Avoiding orgasm. I told her
     
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