Introductory Reading for FLR

Is this a book or article that you would like her to read?

 

The benefits of living in a FLR and me in chastity. I am more subservient. I am eager to serve her and i am more affectionate. Being in chastity and limited to 2-3 releases a year makes me putty in her hands and i will do just about anything to earn a a release. As for reading material, My wife read several of Marisa Rudder books and really liked them.

 

Melissa Rudder is ok.
Key Barrett is hands down the Champion of FLR/Chastity books.
I’ve read a bunch and none of the others are even close to what he has published.
His are the only books that I’ve come across that are designed for education and communication.
Others are fine but are mostly written for men who are looking for jerk-off material by Women who are writing simple books to make money. Nothing wrong with that either.
The best podcast is Kink Friendly with Mistress Alisa.

 

she said she liked "a womens guide to a female led relationship" by victoria west.
If you go to amazon and search "female led relationship books" there are a lot to choose from.

 

I’ve struggled with this. Most books either are thinly disguised porn or filled with kinks your wife may not appreciate.

You might look over Ms. Elle X podcasts. My wife has enjoyed some of those. The language used in so many of the podcasts is so foul even I get tired of it. It is too bad since the otherwise good content is marred by the language.

I have been perusing the “Evolving Your Man” website. Her content is pretty good and not scary. She is also a Hotwife. I might even suggest it to my wife. It is well organized and allows you to pick and choose topics.

Good luck and if you find something good, post about it.

 

I found a little discussed book, “Sex and Relationship Nirvana with a Submissive”. It is available on Kindle. If your wife is perplexed at why a guy wants to be locked up, or is submissive, the author does the best job discussing it that I have read. In fact, she is one of the few authors that addresses the “Why” question. She looses it at the end when she starts describing various kinks. If she had left out the last few chapters, it would be a much better book. It is still worth looking at.

 

Likewise for Kristine's FLR podcast. Great perspectives on FLR, especially one with a dominant man in many aspects of their life. They strike a good balance.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/krystines-flr-podcast/

Also +1 for Key Barrett on being realistic and pragmatic about it.

 

When I was recently looking for books, the most common problem I found, were authors that immediately jumped to the “How”, before addressing the “Why”. Most don’t even attempt to discuss why some men want chastity.

So why do I think this is important?

Frequently, women introduced to the concept of male chastity, will have the immediate reaction of “Don’t you want to have sex with me?”. Or, “Is there something wrong with me?” They almost always internalize it, and not in a positive way.

Giving her a book that starts with how to ruin an orgasm, just won’t work for her when she has so many questions about why he wants this and she is feeling inadequate.

She needs to be reassured she is not the problem. In fact, there is no problem. She needs reassurance that some men are just wired differently. They thrive on denial and teasing. They may also be submissive. They derive great pleasure from giving her pleasure without receiving in kind. She needs someone to explain why. She also needs help understanding that embracing chastity and perhaps a FLR can enrich the relationship.

The book I recommended, “Evolving Your Man”, is the only one that explains the “why” question. It is only when the author reached the third and subsequent sections where she discusses the “how”, that she weakened the entire book. None the less, the first two sections are gold.

If you are just starting out, and are looking at your first books and websites for her, if the content doesn’t start with “Why”, ask yourself if it is something that will help or hurt your desire to embrace chastity.

 

We love Key Barrett his book Locked in Love was instrumental in convincing my wife into the Chastity Lifestyle

 

My wife really gets off on the power transfer she is so aroused and loves teasing and denying me which I love

 

It's the journey not the destination. We've only started this month but we're both enjoying and it has enhanced our romantic relationship

 

Yes we are eventhough our age difference

 

Sex and relationship nirvana, sounds real good , need something like that for my princess to read. When I convinced her to lock me up .. there were many reasons, I was desperate for attention, and when I got horny she would tell me not now. Seemed like it was all the time, when I turned to porn for relieve it only made things worse. So it’s been five years since she has worn my key, seems to get better as I learn more ways to please her. She has been more and more receptive and I am getting more and more of her attention. She now requests my attention which is my desire to kiss her all over, she picks where I am to start and usually end with her offering me the key to unlock, she tells me she is ready for me and we have PIV sex, I have been practicing delaying ejaculation which we both agree I should avoid, I sometimes feel like I can orgasm without the E sometimes I can ruin it but really my attention is focused on pleasing her, it’s been working well for us so onward we go, at 75 I sure won’t complain.I hope this makes sense.

 

same as my madam!

 

That's great we did that too, the communication is very important and she really loves having control of my orgasms and we both love the teasing

 

Is she reluctant to take control? My wife is a soft Dome