Not keen on dragging other people into fetish play. If they haven't consented to being involved, they shouldn't be.
The closest we have gotten to something like this was me needing to remove the device for daily cleaning and me having to ask her for the key in front of her friend that knows what we are doing. I don't think it was intended, but even if it was I'm ok with it.
My wife’s best friend has known about us for a while now and she actually moved in with us recently for a shortish stay (bad break up, long story). I often cook and prepare plates for them and then take them away when they are finished, not all the time but at least a few times a week. My wife also doesn’t mind bossing me around in front of her friend but it’s all very casual. More of a show of who really wears the pants in our relationship
The cooking thread reminded me that Mistress has sometimes had her girlfriends over and they all watched me in the kitchen as I cook for them and serve them. Even if it's not to be sexy I enjoy doing it. Plus if they're married it makes them jealous that their husbands won't do it Probably the closest we'll ever come to letting anyone in on it.
The friends don't know that we are in a FLR but when they are at home, I do the service, prepare tea, cakes and coocking while my whife is with the hosts. Of course I serve her and friends while she stay sitted with them.
My wife has a bdsm friendly friend who she has recently started to share more and more with. The dynamic is slowly building and some talk has come up of me being shared with her. Taking things very slowly though.
My wife has Girls night with friends over (or did Pre-Covid.) They are all Vanilla and unaware of our arrangement. Myself and my friend who's wife is there must serve the woman drinks and appetizers at their whim. Sometimes they ring a bell for service. They tend to get very demanding quickly and start taking advantage of the situation. There is no sexual overtone but my wife gets mad compliments on having her husband "well trained." I do love these evenings.
I’m not sure if it counts, but she brags about the stuff I do to others. “He rubs my feet every night, he does the cooking and cleaning, he always does the dishes, he starts my car and packs my lunch in the mornings” A few times while I had my buddies over hanging in our bar she has said something like “beer bitch I’m ready, he can get it he’s used to serving, he knows who’s in charge” stuff like that.
I serve my Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, and Her Female Friends with a tray when They are over and try to be useful, but that doesn't go beyond vanilla hosting service. She does have a special Girlfriend who is kink-friendly and knows of our FLR, and in front of Her, Mistress is more overt. Still nothing too crazy, but our power dynamic is certainly on display. asa
Yes, we have a small circle of friends that were introduced into the lifestyle over the years. All 4 husbands are caged, some are more serious than others. A fifth member of our group who we have not seen since the pandemic do strict compliance, she is a total dome. My wife enjoys the lifestyle and has assumed more of a leadership with the 3 other ladies and kind of sets the tone for activities. During the summer, we have friends over and not uncommon for the men to be naked only wearing the cage and the ladies wearing nothing to a one piece bathing suit. Our circle is closed and no one in our family knows of our kink, the same for the other couples. One couple only uses it for play, 2 are strict, and we are kind of middle of the road. I wear mine all the time but released weekly or every other week for great sex unless we agree on longer lockup times. All of us do abide to Locktober and this year more compliant then in years past. Before being locked up, all hair was removed and in years past a weekly removal for grooming. This year no release and starting to get the hair growth.
We have not shared with anyone else. I have been farmed out to perform full detail jobs on a few of her friends cars however. A full detail takes about eight hours to complete, so it is not a small task.
Well if your counting cooking cleaning dishes and the house laundry making the beds dusting and all of her friends know I do this they tell her how lucky she is to hsve me lol if they only really knew
Since I do all of the cooking, including family holiday feasts, I pretty much have been shown in this way. Wife will visit with her family while I get stuff ready, put it on table, and cleanup after. Even though, she's not my KH or Mistress, i feel compelled to serve in this way. Also, serve drinks or snacks if she had friends over too.
If you are asking if people know 'who wears the pants' it's obvious to everyone in our social circle who that is. However lots of people are in vanilla female led marriages. Only 2 people in our social circle (that I know of) are aware that it's a full blown BDSM D/s relationship. One is a female sub who may or may not enjoy my wife's services (don't think so, but it's kind of don't ask don't tell for us). The sub has seen my wife in the whole-on Domme gear with impact toys as she did a fetish photo scene with my wife. The other is a female switch who really wants to play with both of us, but for various reasons hasn't been able to. She's gives me naked massages every other week and knows I'm kept caged. There are a number of people in the BDSM/prodomme world that know of us, but not a lot, and honestly no one cares in that community- that's just normal life for us kinksters.
One of M'Lady's physical therapists is in the lifestyle and knows about us. Also, I recite a mantra each morning and I have had to recite it in front of others. Recently I wrote a set of house rules that Mistress approved. Rule number 2 states, "All Female guests will be afforded the same respect as given to the Mistress". At this point it hasn't really come up but a younger friend drops in to visit and usually stays for a few days. I'm sure I will be put to the test next visit. She knows I am caged and a little about our lifestyle. I'm hoping Mistress gives her permission to punish me if she feels I am not being respectful enough toward her.
Only in small ways, I always say "yes ma'am" and "no ma'am" in front of family and friends and I always open and close car doors for her in front of family and friends.
We do this with family and friends, we both share cooking but we each have our strengths, mine is the roast dinner.
We have a handful of close friends that know that Queen J dominants me and they all know I do all the domestic chores, and when ever her friends come over I am to give up my seat and get on the floor if there is no spare seats and make the drinks. We know they know it goes further than just queen J being the bossy one in our relationship and she does order me to vanilla chores in front of them a lot and they all joke about queen J being the dominant boss and make jokes about her controlling me and whipping me and things like that. Queen J has said a few things about controlling me and "joked" that I kiss her feet and she spanks me in front of them and a few little things like that but we dont drag any of them into it the kink side or put it in their faces. I do have one friend who knows for sure we do take it further than just a bit of bossing me about. He knows I serve Queen J 24/7 but doesn't know we use chastity. Posted by slave.