My wife and I would like to hear of some examples of your “rules” in your female led relationship. We are new to this and thought some outside advice and experiences would help. Thank you.
Cage on unless authorised to take off, kitchen clean before bed, ask permission to go to bed. Obey!. Not too many as spontaneous dynamics work best for us
I’m currently locked. I don’t think it’s coming off anytime soon either, she’s liking the attention she’s been getting due to my state of constant arousal.
That all sounds like a good basis for you to channel your 'inner tortoise' (!) and take it very easy-you could possibly suggest in the future if there were any changes she would like to see (for example tidy house before bed etc) and that might become a 'rule'-I think 'principles' are also what you want-for example caged by default is a great one
There are many rules. One of them is "Take out trash if its (maximum) ¾ full," Another is "load and unload dishwasher (check when coming home & before leaving in the morning)."
Welcome. I am sur every KH has differt rules they want followed with no excuse. I myself have 3 major rules I follow. 1. Not allowed to talk about sex. 2. Dont stare at her nude body. 3. Not allowed to watch pron of any type. These 3 rules are punishable by extened days before a release. Minor rules. 1. Cage 24/7. 2. As others have stated. DO WHAT SHE TELLS YOU TO DO. lol It is really up to her what rules she will make for you. They will grow in number over time. Good luck and have fun
Thank you everybody. I will let her read this and probably buy a couple books for some night time bonding.
I researched FLRs extensively, interviewing real couples in the relationships and extrapolated some common themes. You can find my book on amazon if you search 'Surrender, Submit, Serve Her' (I can't post links on this forum. One big rule that was true of all of them was the concept of doing things 'Her way'. It's one thing to take on tasks like doing the laundry, or budgeting, but she has a way she does these things. Doing it your way might be more efficient, but it's not 'Her way'. If you don't do it her way, she will often have to do it again or just not enjoy the fact that you did it. This leads to resentment for both of you. Doing things her way means you listen to her instructions, value her way of doing things and show her that her leadership and knowledge is important.
It could be a lot of things, in fact you have to see her for what she likes and what she needs. Forget about you, you're not anymore the person who decide what chanel to watch tonight, in fact you may have chore to do instead. Thakes all the cliché of the maid woman who works at home while her lazy husband is in the sofa. Then reverse it as you as the maid and her has the husband. Now you go to makes all the house nice for her to be proud of you, and you to be proud to have pleased her with a clean and cosy house, hopping for some rewards that only her can give you. of course there are plenty level of FLR, some light and other more severs, not all women are demons. Just do the things for and around her and not for you. Concrete example? You want to by a new graphic card, she may needs this money for new shoes (or whatever) so don't buy it. Is the bed is cleaned; toilet cleaned; new paper roll put. All this things that men never do that are now yours to do. An in a FLR a women still love you as much as before. I guess you have to see with her the rules she likes. Not evident if she is vanilla.