Pleasant chastity. How to involve sexually addicted wife?

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    #1 viciv, Feb 7, 2020
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    You maybe say "It's a curious!", but I found my feelings after a week of sexual abstinence very pleasant. I must underline, that I wasn't locked up for this week, so nothing prevented my night and morning erections. That was pure, healthy, pleasant week in chastity, without any sex and masturbation.

    But during this week I was sexually harrased by my wife. It coused some times! In result, I thought that my wife is sexually-addicted person. Really, I tried to remember what was a longest period of time, whet we were without sex. I found it was just 3 days. Also, she permanently says me that she wouldn't like control my sexuality, because she need sex more than my submission.

    If I right, and my wife is reallly sexual-addicted, I think that will be very hard to involve her in chastened lifestyle...

    But maybe you can suggest me how to solve this problem? Which advantages of chastity I can 'advertise' and 'sell' her?
     
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    More unrequited oral worship?-then leave the room and go and make her a drink
     
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    It's Idea, but she prefers vanilla sex with penetration.
     
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    Suggestions:
    Don’t touch yourself. Do honor system. Perhaps ask her to stay hard and orgasm free. Pull out and have perfect ruins and fuck again. But listen to her. Fuck and orgasm whenever she wants. Give in. Let go of your drive to maintain control.

    let her control sex. Not you.

    maybe ask her not to orgasm during sex
    If she says no. Then you must listen. No complaints. This was a dynamic a couple on Tumblr maintained. It was hot. She loved having the control.

    My wife doesn’t appreciate constraints. So locking myself up and taking away her power was not what she wanted. She also loved having me easy to make cum. She didn’t want my stamina. She wanted to feel sexy and powerful by making me cum quickly.

    Though in 2015 I was able to go 7 weeks of frequent fucking without a single orgasm. It was a lot of fun. I was on top. She was impressed at the time. Eventually I’ve found myself more denied and in chastity.

    But don’t push her.
    There’s no problem statement! It sounds like you have a wonderful sex life.
     
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    This is pretty simple explain to her that she can have sex as much as she likes but she has to give you permission to cum. If she withholds your orgasms then you are likely to want to give her even more orgasms.

    Chastity means that you cant cheat when she is not around so you will be even more inclined to be at her pleasure and give her pleasure
     
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    Try a strap on! Aside from you still being caged while wearing it, it usually means the penetration will probably last much longer than normal.
     
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    I was going to suggest this. Indeed, there are some strap-on harnesses that are designed to accommodate a chastity device - they seem to ride higher on the pelvis.
     
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    just get a sleeve for your penis.
    it requires removing the cage, but the thrusting and feel are as good if not better. my wife loves it. she was intimidated by the added girth, but based on her reactions, it hits just the right spots.
     
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    If you want to add another dimension to this, you can also get lidocaine cream for your penis as well. Which will numb you up pretty fierce.
     
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    There's a thread here that describes a bunch of options: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/strapon-for-him-to-use-on-her.3479/

    The one I have is a great leather one I found on Etsy (the link is in the above thread). It includes a cut-out for your caged dick, where the dildo sits just above it. Very comfortable to use. Major mind fuck for me. And my wife loves its, now that I found the perfect dildo for it for her (Tantus dual-density silicone).
     
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    So many vanilla men would like to be in your shoes.

    Maybe you are just mismatched.
     
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    Have you considered cuckolding?
     
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    Great idea, does lidocaine cream prevent orgasm? What about erection with it?
     
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    It's my secret dream
     
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    I don't think it can fully prevent an orgasm, though every person is different. Its just topical numbing cream. So if you use enough of it in the right spots, the head of your penis, and especially the tender underside don't feel very much (if anything at all).

    For me, the couple times I've used it, I don't need anything to help maintain the erection, the wee bit of sensation I do get seems to do enough. But to be transparent, I was also wearing the ring to my cage, so that naturally has some cock-ring-like effects.
     
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    Don't be afraid to share your secrets, you may discover it is also her dream.
     
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    I suggested her find a lover many times :)
     
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    I’ve used the Trojan duration spray a few times and I’ve been able to keep an erection. I barely get any sensation (quite a head trip) and have given her multiple Os before she said “that’s enough”. One time I managed an O but it felt more like a ruined O due to the lack of sensation.
     
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