Increasing desire to be locked up for her

Last week I came to terms with myself that I spend too much time masturbating when my girlfriend is out. Over a year ago I bought a CB-6000 since I found thought of chastity very appealing. I tried it a couple times and I got a bearable fit with the device. We have tried it for a couple single days and one time I pretty much asked her to keep me locked over night. She is very loving but does not quite understand what chastity does to me. Hell, I don't even know that myself for sure!

In order to work on that masturbation habit I locked myself in the device on the weekend. When she came home I hugged her and explained the situation and kinly asked her to hold the key to help me fight this urge; the urge that made me less attentive to her in the evenings. Usually she is in the mood for sex only once a week. My sex drive is much higher so we have found a good compromise by me masturbating while in her arm before we go to sleep. Since I have been masturbating every evening while I was single, this really helps me sleep.

She took the key and said that she would do that for me. On the first day she unlocked me in the evening and let me play with myself, it was an intensified orgasm. The day after it was also very good. Being unlocked for the night is nice as I am not convinced that prolonged wear will be harmless. Also I can shower in the morning as usual and keep up with the hygiene.

Yesterday I came home and did not feel really horny but also the chastity device did not have the magic appeal it sometimes has. Nevertheless I decided put it on as I could see myself becoming horny again and then starting to jack off in the afternoon. And if my girlfriend would text me that it could take longer, I'd perhaps jack off again. I locked it right when I came home and texted her that I locked up; in order to show come commitment. After I was locked and did some erands, I got horny and did want to jack off. Now I could not any more without breaking out the emergency key.

Once I was horny I started to look through my collection of Tumblr images and videos that I bookmarked. It was exciting to look at leather outfits but know that all my arousal will be redirected to my girlfriend. So although I wanted to break this habit, I ended up going through some stuff and enjoyed being able to watch some fifteen minutes of video without having already jacked off. I could even watch some chastity tease videos and the feeling of being locked up made them even more intense.

Also I looked at the product photos of various My-Steel, Neosteel and CS-100 metal belts. For some reason it takes just a few hours of me being locked up and then I have the strong desire to be locked up in a strict metal belt. Being locked up in the CB-6000 makes me really submissive after a short period, and I really would like to find out how it would feel like to wear such a belt for her. While I was horny at home and she on the go I send her a picture of a My-Steel belt and the CS-100 and told her that I desire to be locked up in one of them right now. She just said that it is my money to spend. I think she does not really see the appeal for her. Well, the CB-6000 only makes me more horny and I then demand more extensive playtime in the evening. Perhaps I need to give up the nagging.

Late at night my girlfriend came home. I was already on an emotional and hormonic rollercoaster by that time. I had made her nice dinner to make up for my slight misbehavior two days prior. There I was locked from noon as well. I was treated with spread-eagle bondage and she unlocked me and caressed me very romantically. It was very nice, I instantly got the conclusion that I have neglected foreplay on my side ever since. Usually I would kiss her body and eagerly lick to her the first orgasm. Then she usually is so wet that she want me inside her right away.

Anyway, while she was petting me like that I told her about the things that made me horny during that day. One of the things I her was the story by @scottishGent who described how he was locked in a CS-100 wearing a kilt flirting with a stranger at a bar. To me, the arousing thing about this story is that first the CS-100 has a magic spell on me and second his keyholder shows him how much he has given to the keyholder. Also the embarresment that somebody else finds out about the strict lockdown in steel turns me on. My girlfriend however interpreted this story with the focus on the other woman. So she was naturally now amused by this as she does not want to share me with anyone else. Therefore I was in for a bit of trouble.

Yesterday evening after dinner I was treated again with being tied down spread-eagle, but face down this time. She stroked by butt and the balls hanging out of the CB-6000. I then also got a bit of the paddle which I can't get enough of. She took a dildo and romantically fucked my ass with it. It was heaven. All the time I told her about my fantasy of being locked up really strict and the like. She was a bit disappointed that I did not focus on the treat she gave me anally and I tried to behave. She left me with a but plug for perhaps twenty minutes just laying there.

When she came back I asked her to cuddle next to me and listen to the things my fantasy cooked up while she was away. So I told her that if we had a CS-100 right now, I would be begging her to lock me up and keep the key as she like. Then I have remembered that somebody praised the CS-100 for being really smooth (contrary to the lock on the CB-6000) such that spooning would be nice for her. So I told her that I would massage her as long as she wanted and then slowly shifting into an erotic massage. Then I'd lick her to as many orgasms as she likes. Since she wants to cuddle after sex, we would spoon and the steel of the CS-100 right between her butt cheeks; no poking with my erection or the like. These thoughts have made me furious, she could not really understand my enthusiasms.

Another thing I fantasized about was her leaving the key in the car or even leave it home on vacation. When we are traveling and have shower that is large enough for two, she would wank me in the shower until I come. With the CS-100 firmly in place, she should perhaps stroke my exposed balls and anus with her fingers but there would be no chance at all to be allowed to orgasm.

After she listened to that for quite a while and it was getting late, she turned me over and unlocked me. Then she stroked me and let me wank myself to orgasm. Right after orgasm the whole chastity thing just felt really strange to me, I did not want to wear the CB-6000 ever again and I would not want to buy a metal belt any more. At that point I could fully understand how my fantasies about strict lockup and teasing do not really appeal to her.

The next morning I was aroused enough to think about the metal belt again, how it would make me more submissive and attentive. How I could not nag anymore on every evening that I wanted to get off. And I would not date to put off massages because I want to get off right at that time.

It is really irritating that chastity has such a huge appeal to me when I am just slightly horny but is really alien once I have just come. Perhaps I spend the next couple afternoons in the CB-6000 and see what it does to me.

 

Thanks for the advice. I mean I have always told her what me feelings are because communication is important. But I fear you are correct that I do not listen as good as she does. I will definitely try to improve on that!

By the way, those images in combination make me really horny. I wish it was me in both pictures. Of course the cunnilingus would be while wearing the device!

 

Hmm, that does not sound very romantic or loving. I wish that you have found a better matching soulmate now that only treats you unequal where you want to be treated like that.

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Since about Wednesday, I have not really come. I looked at a bunch of stuff at Tumblr, read some threads here. I was really pumped with male chastity. So eventually I decided to get my CB 6000 out and lock myself in it. My girlfriend came home eventually and I told her that the cage made me horny. She wanted to do a couple other things and said that she would let me out at night.

She went to bed on short notice, I was still looking at my massive picture collection of turn-ons. When I realized that she was in bed, it was already too late to play, she would have to get up early. Being locked up and asking to be let out for the night would not really fit my desired role as her chaste boyfriend if I would go further and ask to have an orgasm after midnight. So I just cuddled up and slept.

The next morning my excitement with male chastity has worn off a bit, I remembered the impractical parts of it and decided to just get up without wanking. That day was spend quite normal. It got pretty late and we did not do anything on Thursday night either.

Yesterday, Friday, I have gotten up and locked myself back into my cage around noon. Then I started to read a great story on a German chastity forum again. It is about a girl who visits her aunt. Her female cousin (I don't know the exact word) has a full chastity belt, with bra, neck ring and thigh bands; the cousin is on vacation so the protagonist just stays in her room. The girl in the story is so excited to try it out that she takes out all the devices and puts them onto her. After an hour of struggling with her hornyness she decides to unlock herself. But then she finds that the little box with the label “keys” only contains some screws but not the keys. So then she tries to find the keys and a lesbian friend of her cousin has the keys but poses some challenges for her to go through in order to get the keys.

Reading that story while locked up was great. I have never managed to finish the like 200 pages of it because I would have jerked off in the middle and loose interest.

Somehow we managed to go to bed again without me insisting on an orgasm. At this time I started to get really submissive and layed on her hip/legs while she caressed and comforted me. I told her that I wanted to make this worthwhile and not being an additional factor of stress for her. She giggled because I appear to be one of the most demanding and annoying, topping-from-the-bottom kind of partners one could have.

When I took off the CB 6000, I noticed some discomfort in my balls. The strings that hold them was stretched over the day, I don't think that this is a good thing. So I decided not to wear that device any more.

Today, Saturday, I started by again looking into full belts. Over time I realized that wearing a belt has so many disadvantages:

- It's expensive.
- Hygiene is a mess. She would have to unlock me before taking a shower, which means less sleep for her as I usually shower first.
- Regular shaving is needed. My skin gets irritated pretty fast.
- Riding on a bicycle does not work with the CB 6000
- I wonder whether fertility can be diminished by prolonged wearing.
- Stories about shrinking and problems becoming hard also cast some doubts about wearing a device.
- I do some sports where occasionally the instructor will correct my movements or posture. If she/he would adjust my hip and feel the steel belt, it would certainly be an awkward situation.
- If I eventually have kids I would have to be extra careful not to let them sit on my lap or so. Either way it would be a thing that I would try to hide and that will probably make me act weird. I don't want that.
- Need to keep a safety key around. My girlfriend would have to inspect that key in order to see that I have not cheated.

And all that such that my orgasms will be more fulfilling.

So I came up with the following:

- I do not wear any chastity device.
- I only come with her permission.
- No wanking without supervision.
- She decides when I may come.
- I will stop nagging her for a handjob each evening.

This evening was a blast. I am still full of energy and it just feels right and great. So I asked her kindly whether she would fuck my ass tonight. She then asked whether I wanted any extras; of course I asked for spread-eagle bondage, ass up. I prepared everything, as usually she only had to attach my second wrist restraint to the carbine hook. Then she lubed up the amazing Cavalier (see link below) and gave it to me in a loving, careful, but yet unyielding way. After a while I could not take it any more.

https://www.funfactory.com/de/anal-toys/cavalier/

She opened one carbine hook and let me flip over. Then I attached myself to the bed posts again. From there she caressed by body. Since it is quite unusual for me to go several days without an orgasm, I was very sensitive. Of course the ass fucking from just before did not leave me cold. Hmmm . Anyway, she started giving me a handjob with digressions to my balls, the spot between balls and anus and my inner thighs. She knows that I liked to be edged a lot of times before cumming.

Asking me what I wanted, I was really not sure. The edging made me so aroused and I could not think straight. So much has built up during the last days, I read so much male chastity posts, memes, and watched some tease-and-denial porn videos. I did not want to cum! I wanted her to just edge me and then let me cool off again.

I told her that I would like to try male chastity without the device but with the benefits for her and the tease-and-denial. She was not really sure what I really wanted. Then one edge went quicker than I thought, I could not say “pause” early enough. I felt that semen came out, but it did not feel too pleasurable. I told her that I did not want to come, I told her that this one was probably just a ruined one. Then I begged her to edge me some more but not let me come. She edged me and I was careful to say “pause” early enough.

In one of the breaks she gave me, she said: “The next one will be the last one. So you can decide whether you want to come now. If you tell me to give you a break, it will be over.” Wow! I liked that a lot. I asserted that I did not want to come and stay on this state a bit longer. A couple days ago I told her about a “six weeks to become a perfect chaste slave” video that I have seen. It basically increases the chastity device wearing duration on week from 4h/day, 8h/day, 14h/day, some nights, most nights, and all nights. And the thing that really gets me aroused is that the domme describing this male chastity training program said that it would be best not to come because that would make it so much harder to get back into the cage. My girlfriend thinks that this a bit too cruel. She told me to be careful what I wish for because if I did not want to come with this edge, I would not come today.

I got close to orgasm very fast and I said “pause”, I really wanted to be denied the orgasm. Then she stopped and smilingly noted that it would have been better to stay “stop” as that is what is going to happen.

Now it is a couple hours later, I am still really horny. So the orgasm that I had must have been a ruined one (or I am just super sexed up right now). Either way I promised her not to come without her permission. She knows me really well (we are together for years now) and I cannot convincingly lie to her. This means that we do not really need a chastity device. If she asks me whether I have been chaste for her, she would directly notice if I was not honest. So this feels even more fulfilling than wearing a device, it is like mental chastity, is that a good term?

From here I hope to get edged a couple more times during the next days. We still have to think of some deterrent to jerking off which is a deterrent but not really cruel. Whipping with the paddle does not count, that turns me on. Something like a cane would be too hard for her because she really does not like hurting me. Perhaps one of you has an idea there? I don't want to attach such a negative connotation to something that she enjoys. So taking her out for dinner is not really something I would use as a deterrent. Perhaps giving her EUR 20 for every time that I disobey my chastity promise is a good deterrent? Although I don't want to have money on that level in my relationship.

So even without a device I will now try it out. And I really hope to get tied to the bed again. Then she will hopefully dressed up as a mean policewoman (leather police cap, leather top, leather shorts, fishnet stockings, leather gloves, black leather lace-up ankle boots) and interrogate me on my behavior while edging. I doubt that I could convincingly lie while being edged by my leather mistress. And she knows that too and therefore I will now be careful not to play with myself --- exactly what I want :-D.

 

I am not into feminization at all. So although this does sound as a punishment, I am not really inclined to go into that direction. Being deprived of touching her would be a punishment indeed!

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So I have continued on the honor system and started to watch more porn again this week. The feel of arousal I get from that is just nice. As my girlfriend works full-time, she does not have much time and energy to cater to my sexual wishes every evening. Sometimes I fear a chastity belt with a lock would a “set and forget” thing and that it would turn down my sex drive. Being allowed to edge but not cum while she is at work is a nice thing.

Yesterday I watched so much chastity porn while trying my best to behave and edge only. Twice I went a little bit too far and stopped stimulation directly. A little cum leaked out but without any pressure. I still felt horny after that, so I hope that those were just ruined orgasms. Here I have to learn to better control myself and not cause any ruined orgasms during edging. Anyway, when she came home I gave her a kiss that clearly signaled that I was really aroused and wanted to fuck her. She let me kiss her and passionately kissed back. But she wanted to have some dinner first.

I asked whether I could be tied to the bed while she was cooking. Then she could come to the bedroom and give me a couple strokes and go back into the kitchen. Sounded like a really nice teasing for myself without being too much work for her. She declined. During cooking she noticed that something was missing. I offered to hurry to the store and got the missing ingredient 10 minutes before closing time. She was really thankful for that.

When we were in bed and I thought it was time to sleep, she asked whether she could do anything for me. I asked her to be edged a couple times, keeping my arms obediently at the headrest. While she touched me ever so lightly I told her what things I edged to in the afternoon. She told me that if I did not want to orgasm, I would have to ask her to stop. I told her that I think the other way around would make more sense. Then she replied that it would be more humiliating for me to beg for denial. Wow, that was unexpected and exciting! She stopped and let me cool off. I spooned with her and firmly gripped her ass. The heightend state of arousal is really awesome to be in! Chastity alone cannot do this, there has to be a fair amount of tease & denial for it to unleash the effect.

Today I will meet her some place, she will then leave for a short trip. So I only see her in public today. Tonight I think I am going to edge a couple more times. I really hope that when she returns on the weekend, I will be treated with bondage and perhaps a blowjob with her dressed in leather? Of course no orgasm. I think it will drive me very wild to have her give me a blowjob while wearing the leather officer cap.

 

I have not sticked to the honor system that much. Mostly, because I had the feeling that my girlfriend lost interest in it. Then I felt neglected and just started doing it myself again.

Last weekend I had another sudden interest in chastity. I took out the CB-6000 from the drawer and put it on. She still has the key on her keychain. From there I have been wearing over night till Sunday, and then only during the time that I have been home, trusting me not to play with myself before leaving for work or after coming home from work.

I try harder this time to focus more on her feelings about it than my desire to have extensive tease & denial sessions every evening. This time I think I have sparked a little bit of interest in her.

There are two things that keep me from wearing the device full time: Riding a bike and sleeping at night. At night, it is not really that much of a problem because I can take it off because I am supervised by her presence. Also that gives my body the chance to have nocturnal errections which are probably healthy.

Regarding the bike, I figured that the Birdlocked Classic or Neo would be an improvement over the CB-6000. There I have no idea which model would be more comfortable, currently I lean towards the Neo because it looks more comfortable.

On Aliexpress I saw that one can get stainless steel cuffs for like 20 EUR. The steel devices have the great advantage that cleaning is much easier. But riding on a bike is probably as bad as with the CB-6000. Do you think it will hurt to get a metal one to try it out for that price? Comparable models cost at around 100 EUR.

Sadly the only legitamate looking Birdlocked ones on Aliexpress or Dhgate are the pico models with spikes. Either does not sound attractive, in combination I will probably have a bad time.

Also I brought up playing with the locks.club website. One ultimate reward would be to have her all dressed in leather give me a blowjob and let me have a full orgasm. I guess that would have to be targeted at like 100.000 points or so. All in all we really liked the idea of having a long term goal to save up points for.

 

In the meantime I have ordered a stainless steel cuff from AliExpress. At first it seemed to be too small. Then I realized that I can pull out pretty easily, rendering the device useless. Then I tried the CB-6000 with my last setup again, I could pull out also. At that point I tried smaller rings, but those gave me an uneasy feeling about circulation. Therefore I just put the two cuff devices into a box in the back of the shelf.

For years I have been fascinated with the CS-100 design. The cost is pretty high, so I would need some confidence that I would wear the device quite often. I have showed my girlfriend this device and she always says that I can buy whatever I want. A couple of months ago we came up with something interesting: If I manage to stay chaste for a week, I would get a leather clad blowjob. And a few weeks ago we got to “If I manage to stay chaste for a week, I'd be allowed to order a hip-belt”.

I did not cum for a week, and was rewarded with said blowjobs. I get blowjobs very rarely, there were a few tries in the beginning of the relationship, but I like handjobs more because I get very sensitive. However, the one she gave me yesterday was so soft and slow, it was heaven. She took an hour to bring me to orgasm. It was fantastic!

Then I have ordered a cheap belt from AliExpress, it will arrive in a month or so. Until then I am again free to play with myself.

It is clear that another leather clad blowjob will cost a week of chastity. So I asked her whether a normal blobjob would also cost something. She suggested that blowjobs would cost four days, leather would cost three days. In fact, why not make each item of leather cost a day? At the thought of having to stay chaste for leather, my head got a bit scared (I really like to play with leather), but an erection started. So clearly this is heading into an interesting direction!

I'll give an update when the device has arrived.