Hi all. 4 days ago my wife/kh let me out of the cage for an orgasm. We are completely new to chastity and I have a little struggle right now. I hope you can help me. before the orgasm I was 8 days inside the cage and had a constant feeling of butterflies in my stomach, more energy and show more affection to her. now I am 4 days in and have struggling to get that feeling back. She decided that I will be caged for nnn but I hope I get that warm feeling back very soon. is anyone experienced with this issue? big thanks for you’re help
Oh, my man. That's the drop after orgasm. That drop you are experiencing now is the reason why denial is so addicting. Is it better to feel crazy horny 24/7 or to feel a drop after 30 seconds of pleasure? Ultimately, we don't get to decide, but I have more than once asked not to cum, only to have my request denied.
It's normal, depending on how emptied you were, your age, drive, etc...More teasing if she is into it, and you'll be back in subspace soon. A lesson in patience.
As others have said that drop is a beast…gets worse the longer you go denied. After my longest run at 75 days earlier this year (ended about a month ago)she finally let me have a full orgasm and yes it was mindblowing, but the drop after was frankly horrible, and really makes you think twice about really wanting it again… don’t get me wrong, you WANT the orgasm, but when you remember how rough that drop is and that constant ache and euphoria from the denial, it’s easy to see how some get to a state where they’re not allowed to cum anymore. My wife is on a mission now…we’re in an “at least” 90 day period that will take us to the new year, and then she may let me have one to end the year. After that she wants to get me down to only 2x a year, so basically one ever 6mos. She’s considering letting me decide the when - as in I can pick anytime during the 6mos which is another mind fuck. Not sure about beyond next year if she’ll try to cut to one only (hope not)…but since my PA healed and in the GA, she’s VERY invested and serious about things.
I think everyone is different. For me, if I am denied 4-5 weeks, I don't experience the drop especially if I'm caged back up right afterwards. I've heard others share the same experience as me, and them others who have a similar experience as you. I think you need to experiment.
It takes 3 or 4 orgasms before I feel flat, after one I just feel grateful. If I have 3 or 4 then once I am locked up it can take a few days.
I don't know if it's the drop or the feeling of lost submission, but I've come to not want to cum in less than about 90-100 days, 2-4 times per year is more than enough. I'm at day 25 now and am just starting to feel back to normal. I'd appreciate an erection but pray she wouldn't make me spurt.
If there was a horrorfilm in chastity its name would be " The drop". Feels bad. One gets angry about everything and doesnt want to go bakc in chastity. My advice. 1. Get your cage back into cage! 2. Go to your woman. Give her a nice footmassage. Give her a nice cunilingus and let her squirt. 3. Let your cage on. 4. Repeat 2 and do other nice things for her. 5. Maybe ask her if she pegs you. 6. Repeat 2 and 4. 7. Leave your cage on and dont orgasm anymore. Only have ruined ones, get milked and if she gets to close by teasing you keep her back.
To minimize the drop: Some people report that it helps if their wife demands them to go down on them right after the PIV sex. (I've never done this but it's been discussed here.) It helps me when my wife tells me to lock back up, or is assertive in other ways very shortly after the sex when I cum. The more bossy and demanding, the better. Sometimes the drop is lessened if we go a little longer between sex. In our case, we have sex exactly when she wants it; never earlier or later. So our schedule has nothing to do with minimizing my drop. Over the next few days, the more she demand (e.g. a foot rub, some chore for her, whatever), the better at getting my head back into the proper spot. Or if she ever gets mad at me, it's instant "game over" and I'm immediately back in complete submission.
How did you process that one? My submissiveness drops off a cliff if she's mad, especially for no reason.
Mentally, when she gets angry, I know that I have to submit instantaneously. So when she gets angry, all the possibility of negotiating or discussing stuff just goes away immediately. In a way, it's as if I'm completely naked and exposed in front of her. I have zero defense, and I'm completely vulnerable. It's really a "hard reset". It's a sudden realization that no matter what actually happened, or what she thinks happened, or what I remember happening, the only thing in the universe that matters in that moment is what she perceives, and I have to scramble quickly to align with that. It's a weird and a bit disorienting of a feeling, and I can't ever experience it now without dropping straight into complete submission. I have no idea if that makes any sense. I'm not sure that it makes sense to me. I've only been experiencing this for a few years now, out of a couple decades married.