Why I have not had PIV and been in chastity for over 20 years.

My wife is bi and prefers girls. She does not find a penis arousing or aesthetically pleasing. She thinks semen is disgusting and hates the whole ejaculation thing. Add to that the fact that I am sterile thereby negating her reason to marry a man. She initially liked that my penis was only 1.5" since she is small and did not want sex to hurt. Then I got ED that even Viagra no longer could fix. That was the last straw so she invited her recently divorced and best girlfriend, also bi, to move in with us so she could have steady sex the way she likes it.

Lucky for me that her girlfriend is sexually dominant and actually enjoys sexually torturing men. Due to my shortcomings I welcomed the punishment they gave me for not being able to satisfy women or give my wife the babies she wanted. At first I got a handful of pity fucks but mostly went limp and fell out of them. Soon they limited me to just oral but after a year of that they felt I was not as good as girls were doing that so they stopped that. I was put on the honor system because back in the old days there were no internet so I did not even know chastity cage existed and even if they did they were expensive custom made jobs and none were small enough to fit me anyway.

I was limited to supervised masturbation while they slapped, punched, choked, ball busted and nipple tortured me, increasing the pain until I came. They wanted me to cum fast to get it over with so they amped up the pain knowing it made me cum fast. It was not too bad because I got to kiss and touch them during or nightly threesomes for over 20 years. They usually let me cum once a week which was fine with me because I was on medication that made it difficult to orgasm. There was one drug I was on that allowed me to get hard but not cum. They laughed as I tried and tried until I was sore but could not cum.

Then we moved far away from our girlfriend who was supposed to move with us but in the end circumstances prevented it. So it was just me and my wife and she made it clear that she had no sexual desire for me and we went two years without any sex between us. I eventually discovered chastity and cages so I talked to my wife and she was hesitant at first because I described it as her becoming a cruel Mistress ordering me around and punishing me for any infractions. She does not like that kind of stuff so we morphed into just locking my penis up and being unlocked to jerk off a few times a year. That was OK but boring for me and an unwelcome chore for her.

She even told me that if my cock was much bigger she would let me have PIV but no way it was going to go from 1.5" to 6". Our chastity is simple. Sex is for my wife's pleasure. I get either just played with, a ruined orgasm or a full one. I am not allowed to play with myself and if I do it means I stay locked up for sex for the next time she feels like having it. Normally we have sex once every 2-3 weeks but often it is a month due to health issues. She is not my Mistress nor am I submissive to her outside the bedroom although my actions often determine if I get a full orgasm or not during sex.

Sex starts out with her paddling me. If just a routine paddling she will stop when my ass glows red/pink. If it is a punishment paddling she will bruise my ass until I plead with her to stop. I also must insert a butt plug prior to the paddling. She is not fond of the sight of a penis so a gapping asshole is not something she wants to see so I plug it with a jeweled plug. After the paddling I put on nipple clips and I have very painful ones. She needs to moan in pain to cum fast and so she does CBT and nipple torture. If I am not moaning enough she rubs Tiger Balm on my balls and that gets me yelping.

Sex ends when she cums whether I came or not and whether her intentions were to make me cum or not. Sex ends for me with her orgasm or if she cannot get me to cum or get hard in 5-10 minutes. She does not enjoy playing with my penis so she will stop if I am not quick. Says I am obviously not aroused enough or horny enough for her and maybe next time.

That is it. No cuckolding or feminization. Just chastity with BDSM during sex. When sex is over she makes sure I lock up and that is it until she feels bad enough to have sex with me again when she says it is so much better when she just masturbates alone. Less fuss and no cum shooting all over the place. This has worked very well for us as we live a normal marriage and only play in the bedroom. Once you start other things, chastity is no longer the main fetish and we have explored a lot of fetishes and chastity is the only one my wife will do now so we make the most of it.

 

Update: Today is the first time we had sex after I lost 100 lbs and are now close to my ideal body weight and good looking again. Penis still has not grown so I doubt it will. The sex was great. No pain involved and my wife, after seeing me naked, was so turned on that she told me not to touch her pussy out of fear she would come too fast. She does cum fast. The sex was brief but we both enjoyed it saying it was the best we had in a decade. To be honest my wife's new found love of sex could be due to being tested for lung cancer as they found something growing on her lung. I think she realizes that I am all she has. She has no family, at least none that ever talk to her, and I am it.

In any event, things are now good sexually. Still locked up and orgasms are iffy but she did not insist on nipple clips nor need me to moan in pain in order to orgasm. I had to remind her not to cum fast as she was ready in a minute, because that is when sex ends. She did not want me to cum but got carried away and I ended up with a ruined orgasm that ended just as I was ready to reach the top of the orgasms. Sort of worked me up to the top and then stopped before I fell over the edge. I did get some pleasure but it was the kind that leads up to the orgasm and not the full orgasm experience. It is a start and hopefully my work at losing weight to please her has worked.

This just goes to show that you need to be flexible and don't cling to porn fantasies and try to duplicate them. Also we have no written rules so her decision not to cause me sexual pain broke no rules and was a welcome relief to me. She goes for a biopsy in two weeks and we are bracing for the results. It could change our lives dramatically, especially for my wife. Until then, we carry on the best we can and love each other, even though it is expressed non traditonally.