About 100...

One simple question. What’s more important your masturbating or her happiness? 100 days of giving love to your Wife/Kh should only be the start.

 

realistically, you're going to find it very difficult to jump in straight at 100 days. Work up to it.

 

I like the sound of 100 days. "The Century Club".

 

I find it interesting how you call your self a “professional wanker”. I’m sure here in Canada that’s not something you can base your career or livelihood on. Maybe in France things are different.

What do you think would happen if you directed all that sexual energy towards the Love of your life. If nothing else it would be an interesting experiment for maybe 100 days. Good Luck

 

You may have managed everything in life well, but what Mistresses ideas are should be
your most important. Just think about her and not yourself, you may be surprised at what
you might learn about yourself.

See what it is like when you change your focus, you will see things you never saw before. Enjoy
the experiment.

 

There seems to be three distinct stages of chastity that people progress through.

First there are the "weekenders", using chastity just as a toy in sexual games, but everything goes back to normal to go to work on Mondays. Device sizing and comfort isn't a big issue as it soon comes off and cleaning is not compromised.

Then there are the "seriously playing" people who get through the fear of wearing their device to work, family events or when out with friends, and go for weeks at a time, wearing their device everywhere and anywhere. Sex is still important, and keyholders often let them out both for their own needs, and for the mistaken assumption they're 'being kind' to the chastee. During this stage they seek out better fitting devices as comfort and hygine become more important. Sometimes there are enforced breaks due to medical or comfort issues. (or even broken devices!) This is the stage during which both the wearer and the keyholder adjust mentally, it changes from being a game to a serious lifestyle with benefits.

The final stage is the "long termer". The physical and mental barriers to long term chastity have been dealt with, the wearer having tried many devices, often getting a custom made one, and are now comfortable with their final choice which they can wear almost indefinitly. They live in chastity 24/7 and for them it's their normal state, so much so they miss the security of the device if they're unlocked for any length of time. But only if their keyholder permits it, that is.

 

Very well said @bondinchas . I agree with you completely. Moving from one stage to the other isn’t a perfectly clear path. When we think we’ve arrived at the final stage we may still find our selves slipping back into the second. The moving of your Chastity from between your legs to be between your ears is an incredibly exciting journey that I’m not sure We’ll ever achieve perfectly but it’s a journey that well also never stop. Thanks for your excellent post

 

And thank YOU for a similarly excellent post Mash. Brilliant insight of chastity moving from "between legs" to between ears. VERY useful to consider.

 

It's difficult to explain that "eureka moment" to someone who hasn't had it, but when you do, nothing will ever be the same again.

I can only speak as a chastee, but I suspect the same thing happens with initially "reluctant" keyholders. Which is why when asking a loved one to be your keyholder, it's often a cause of frustration that they seem unwilling but you have to change first, only then will they "get it".

 

This

. I think this is a common journey. For me, the 'eureka moment' was about a year in with an initially reluctant wife who one day said, 'I don't ever want to go back'. It warmed my sub side immensely and gave her the freedom I think she always wanted.