As I posted elsewhere, my wife had major surgery about two weeks ago and will not fully recover for 3-6 months. I was not sure what her chastity plans were for me. She has no problem with me watching porn but considers masturbation as cheating. So what to do. I mean I can always lay down next to her and she can use her hand but it is not going to be sensual at all. At first she wanted me to go without an orgasm for her duration. Then the other day she said that she wanted me to lock up but hinted that she was not going to be checking on me, wink, wink. Today she asked me why I was not locked up. I told her that I could not go three months locked up with no regular teasing sessions like we normally have. We finally agreed that I will be locked up for a month and if needed, she would give me an orgasm whichever way she was physically able to do. I can live with that. I tried to convince our girlfriend to fly down, my treat, to take care of the both of us but she has her own problems right now. I usually get real antsy after two weeks so I have no idea how I will go a month but my wife wants it that way and I have not masturbated since last November when we started chastity so I really do not want to go back to that again. Any tips or tricks to keep my sanity and not feel as horny as I usually do? Just being my wife's caretaker while trying to work has kept the thought of sex out of my mind but I am not starting to feel horny again which is why I wanted to clarify things with my wife. I will lock up as soon as I post this and hopefully I can get some support from this forum to keep me from cheating.
I'm not sure if you are into this. but when I am locked and feeling horny I sometimes use a dildo on myself or wear a plug for a few hours. Beyond that, it is just a question of commitment.
Hey there.... I'm sorry, but I don't really understand your post... It seems to be all about you, you, you...... You say your wife has had major surgery, but you are imposing the fact that you want release on he in her invalid state.... What are your chastity objectives...? You seem to me to be wanting your cake and to eat it too...? If your wife says no.... it is no! Not no, but I can't do it.... No. So.... I hate to be critical, but in all honesty, you can't have your cake and eat it too.... If SHE considers masturbation as cheating.... it is! When my wife was pregnant, she obviously had to stop alcohol. So I did too. For the entire time. If your wife is recovering and she is in control of your chastity, then maybe... just maybe... you should 'go without' too until SHE is ready.... To somehow impose that she gives you an orgasm whilst she is recovering seems downright selfish...... I may seem antagonistic, but, if you have chosen to give your wife control, then she has that control. Don't top her from the bottom.... With he absolute kindest regards. J.
Seriously though, I am no one's lap dog. My wife also believes in ghost and I do not act on that belief either. A marriage should be that of equals. You both will each have your own beliefs and opinions and if you cannot compromise as we often do, you either become her submissive husband or get divorced. I am all for the saying, a happy wife is a happy life but I will not let a man or woman make me do something that I do not want to do. In our current particular situation, it is all about me. My wife is not getting her usual pleasure of teasing me. She is not even interesting in sex. Did giving up alcohol do anything for your baby or was it because you thought that your wife was too weak to not drink unless you did too? Why did you feel the need to suppor her by doing something that really was just a gesture at most. My wife would have not liked me to give up someone as s symbolic gesture. We seem to have too different kinds of wives. Mine does not want to be treated as a fragile thing. She does not want me to make her feel that she cannot do something on her own, without me also doing it. She wants me to be a strong opinionated man. When she wants something else, she invites her girlfriend over and spends the night making love to her, then comes back into my bed. Your life seems to be different. Not worst, just different. With all due respect and warmest regards,