New Appreciation of No Orgasm Future

I totally get your feelings. I experience a drop in my submissive feelings after orgasm, especially if mine is weak or occurs quickly. It doesn't seem worth it at the time. But that is just part of the process, at least for me. Restricted or limited orgasms certainly resolve that issue. Just remember if you wife wants PIV or to see you orgasm or have a ruined one, then you should do what is needed to please her. I don't see anything selfish in what you described, as long as both of you are satisfied.

 

You are not alone brother. While it's been a long time since I was allowed inside of my wife's vagina, I still know that an orgasm--however attained--dramatically decreases my affection for her for far too long.

 

Yes that what happen when i had them and im glad that i dont have them like that now.

 

Also sounds like the fact that your wife gave you some "lingerie" that feminization may be in your future.

 

It would be quite interesting to read about the "chemicals" behind the orgasm. Interesting to read is @Lyriseitia post about Mood swings of sub as where @filltee supported us with the "chemical theory" of men's brains in conjunction with our orgasms and excitement.

During sexual arousal - and on our way to an orgasm - our levels of dopamine and oxytocin raise significantly, but at the "release" they drop "of a cliff" downwards. Right at this drop, the level of prolactin raises and so suppressing restoring the levels the first two. The first two works as neurotransmitters and are responsible for conversion of signals and feelings in / to / from our brains. Dopamine gives the satisfying (reward) "experience", whilst oxytocin responds in e.g. "cuddling" during a short period after our orgasm. The third one, prolactin, is keeping our levels of dopamine and oxytocin low after orgasm. This lasts for at least 1-2 weeks after such full release. In the early days of evolution, this must have men allowed to recover, and time to "hunt their next opportunity". So, reading your story, be happy, your body works completely as it was designed....

My releases are fully regulated by my Love. However, as she dislike my "drop after", she decided to implement the following "remedy's": (1) put the cage back on immediately after my release and keep this 24/7 for 10-14 days at least; (2) become an expert in ruining my O's i.s.o. FO's, which will bring even more frustration, exitement and submissiveness to me and keep treating her as Queen; (3) Introduced recently "the one who polute should clean". In particular this restores my feelings much quicker after an eventual release....

All the best!

 

ive decided that im not going to orgasm again at least thats how im thinking at the mo . i enjoy the constant arousel ive got moor enegy and feel much happyer in myself .feeling horny is a real feelgood state to be in .
the only self pleshure i get is nipple play and becouse im always horny is a daily activerty sometimes several times a day . orgasym just spoils that
i find im always ready to give someone else pleashure and i realy get great satisfaction from that .so im hoping i can stick with it and never orgasm again . so far its been about 80 days since i or anyone eles touch my penis

 

I totally get this. Im better in this way. Cumming rarelly or in ruined way keeps me focused better and i stay in right mood. I dont even desire PIV anymore.

 

But, what if your Queen insist on a release?

At least I will not decide myself anymore to have or have not an O or any sexual release, only if my Love requires me to do so. In other words, I do not decide anything myself about O anymore, it is only there for her pleasure.

Furthermore, feelings and emotions are much more pleasurable indeed when orgasms are reduced or skipped. I guess I can perfectly live with that. However, teasing & denial goes hand in hand with that. No orgasm, no T&D will also not bring the right feelings I guess?

 

well i gess if i was orderd to cum then id have to but im hoping ill never cum again theres just so much pleashure and constant arousil from a zero orgasm life . and the fact you never have to have a complete comedown after a O if there was something i could do to prevent ever having another O id do it without hesitation

 

I think the problem is that most don't orgasm enough. I know that if my wife and I stay connected and orgasm /have sex on a regular basis, the relationship is fine. Problem is that she goes thru stages where she doesn't want sex and at that point it becomes a problem and I lose my connection and desire. Tried the cage at her request and that didn't work, just got pissed off and ended up ignoring her. She was a fire and forget girl, no T&D etc so I figured if she couldn't be bothered to make it interesting then why bother.

 

Look into tease & denial. That's really what it sounds like what you're looking for.

Also, there is never an excuse not to pay attention to your Mistress after an orgasm. Even if you don't fee like it, or it's biological, it doesn't matter. Just make a conscious effort and do it.

 

thats a realy good point both parties have to be comited to chstity if shes not interested it wont work

 

My Madame Vanilla luuvvs Piv, from time to time. She feels validated when she empties me inside her. It feels wonderful when she gets on top of me and takes my stuff. From time to time. And its up to me to get her in the mood.

I too drop big time. 3 or 4 days before Im up again. But the memory of her making my toes curl then groan and grunt then scream is so strong that even if my chemistry is altered I have appreciation and utmost respect for this woman...and I feel that for weeks after a screamer.

She doesn’t spontaneously t&d as shes so vanilla...but I can provoke her to t&d me by showing her how much I WANT HER.

 

@Stevejames732006 , your experience is totally normal, many of us share the same post-orgasm drop. It's up to her whether you shall experience this or not. Have you talked to her about this?