To penetrate or not to penetrate, that is the question?

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    Without going into great detail, my wife and I have gone longer than either of us can remember, without any penetrive sex. Perhaps 35 years or so. Circumstances have recently changed and it is now a one time only option for me at the end of my current chastity period. My wife is not a big penis and semen fan, so although she will enjoy it if we do it, she will not miss it, if we don't.

    Despite my strong urges for intercourse since starting chastity, I have gone this long and sort of feel if I give in now, I have wasted years of dealing with accepting denial and sexual domination by my wife and her g/f. The best way I can describe my feelings is to compare it to someone in long term chastity who does not want to ruin his years of denial by having an orgasm in a moment of weakness.

    I will also admit that I am anxious at the thought of intercourse after so long. I just know that I will be so nervous that I will have problems with getting an erection, even with Viagra. I want to and I don't, but this is going to be my one and only chance to have intercourse again and I have had a very strong desire for it. I long for intercourse with every fiber of my being but also enjoy the feeling of denial. The short answer as to why now, is that I spent 7 weeks as a caregiver to my wife and performed better than she thought I would. It is thank you intercourse and that makes it a little less desirable as it is not because she desires it.

    Any thoughts? I am leaning towards no intercourse. It is like being given the opportunity to have an orgasm when you are mentally prepared to wait, but your little head takes control of your thinking.
     
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    Update: I told my wife that our no intercourse thing is the only remaining D/s thing from our past and I appreciated the offer but I am fine as is. So I got thank you oral tonight as a surprise. Still 4 more weeks until my next release though. Nice surprise and I feel well thanked.
     
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    sounds like you made the right decision ;)
     
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    Yeah I agree you made the right choice well done I don't know if I could have been as strong as you were making that decision :)
     
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    35 years without and it now becomes an option !!

    Wow.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    What started out as a domination thing turned into a medical issue thing a few years ago so when we moved away from my wife's girlfriend,
    Did not want to make my post too long but it started out as a D/s thing with my wife and her girlfriend and much later became a medical problem for my wife so even when we moved away from her g/f, my wife was not physically able to without difficulty. She had corrective surgery last month and although it will take almost a year before she is fully functional, she is allowed limited intercourse now. It involves only a few positions that neither of us likes or can do at our age. She will have to take something for pain before we do it and have to use pillows and rolled up towels to position herself comfortably. Since I got used to not having intercourse and the discomfort it would still cause her, it was not a difficult decision after thinking about it some more. .

    As to how I endured the lack of intercourse for so long, it was a trade off for being able to have two female lovers who are best friends and enjoyed exploring sexual fetishes with me.
     
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    I should have mentioned that the operation was not so she could have intercourse again. It was for a problem that affected other areas of her life a lot more. Would never risk major surgery and long recovery time just for intercourse. Maybe a year from now she will put it on the table again. I think she made it a one time deal now because she still has limitations. Perhaps in a year things will change.
     
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