In FLR, the mistress will often use classic BDSM techniques: corporal punishments, caning, bondage, chastity etc..,. To me it's the superficial aspect of it and I don't hear often about psychological torture which can be far more cruel than inflicting physical pain. I'd love to hear examples of this kind of torture from you.
This might not qualify as psychological torture; but it's pschologically tough: my Wife sometimes asks me when I last cum last time I said 5 weeks. She said "Oh I thought it was just a week" like she couldn't care less about what I'm going through. Or she asks how my balls are feeling. If I tell her they feel like they are going to burst, she will say something like "good, good". Or My Wife tells me that tomorrow she will allow me to cum; but when the next day arrives she just says on another day, and so on. And she has completely banned me from pussy: I can only look at it. She knows I love oral.
For me the emotional or psychological side of things hurts me far worse than physical punishments, being treated like a thing not a human being, not being able to do anything right, it hurts after a while and makes me feel worthless when I'm trying my best. Theres always physicalpunishments and degradation on top but these I deal with better.
You are correct @eoniss ! The psychological issues and messing with my mind, thoughts, and feelings are far more effective and controlling than any CP the I've experienced. She can just make simple suggestion or comment and have me thinking about it and worrying about possible consequences for days! Thankfully, we have pretty open communications in our FLR, but there are some of Her torments that just drive me crazy - especially how She sometimes refers to my feminine side, how I dress and attempt to dress and act as Donna. She knows how I enjoy humiliation and uses that often to torment me. When I emerge from the shower in the morning, I adorn my cage and She is always there to insert a lock, click it shut and give it a tug. That tug, without a single word being spoken, has come to signify Her position of dominance over me - for both of us. It lasts all day, as I think about it.
For sure. My KH knows I like/need some order so she has promised me I will never kniw what is coming next (and living up to it). She sent me a Chastikey and said when I get the combination I could be free. One week later when I finally drew the green card, I offered her the choice and she revealed the combo. So I asked when I could be free? She txted back "silly boy... who makes the rules?". Thinking your that close and having it pulled away (with a clear reminder that you have no control) - that is pure torture for me.
Same here! My madam loves the physiologic aspects of Bdsm even more so than the physical, the other way madam will punish me is to ignore me, I will receive no communication from her all day, and when home will only answer me with yes or no, or ok.
Yes, @eoniss ! In fact, we both now consider me her sissy and, as far as our private relationship, my manhood is a thing of the past. It's been a long journey since She first began to feminize me.
A long time ago, it did, but we are both well past that now. I really don't think of my penis or manhood very much any more.
Well... anything that I would define as psychological torture has nothing to do with any kind of relationship let alone BDSM.....
I don't know about the "torture" aspect of it, but almost everything to do with a person's thoughts, feelings and behaviors has a psychological element to it. You reaction to a spoken word, an unspoken word, or an overt action, is usually psychological in nature. It's just part of our human makeup.
Bondage. Discipline. Sadism, Masochism. Where in the gray areas between these words did you think torture would not play a part? The words themselves fairly radiate a psychological head fuck and get the blood pumping faster wondering what my Domme has planned for me.
I even hesitated to use the word torture but then didn't find anything else that would refer to messing with somebody's head.
I also have limits put on how much I can communicate with my Wife: regularly I'm told to stop speaking or limit talking to her. Other words could have been used but they would have only been synonymous with torture like: mental anguish or screwing with the mind. So it doesn't really matter.
In your example you use the word "torture" in a metaphorical way only. And while I am no stickler for strict definitions - anytihng that might include the more common definition of "psychological torture" has in my opinion nothing to do with SSC, Rack or even Prick !
Strict definition, common definition, take your pick. Torture is a general term for suffering. ‘Psychological’ added to it specifies suffering of the mind. If you think there is no mind fucking that is going on in bdsm or even in an FLR D/s situation then you are doing it wrong. Getting inside their heads is perhaps one of the main goals and in order to do that...barriers, must be broken down inside the mind and psyche. This is not usually termed ‘pleasant’ by the recipient. The degree to which this unpleasantness was experienced would determine whether or not it was torture because the crux of the word, what sets it apart from plain old suffering or hurting, is severity. Some cases are tougher to crack than others and require a little more ‘work’. Either way, the relationship between pain and pleasure is a very intimate and integral part of training any human..or creature. The sub sees it as suffering for the greater good! He/she is being corrected or improved through conditioning. Most subs get off on this knowledge alone. Anyway I’m really not tying to be mean or contrary I just thought maybe you’re not on either side of that spectrum and that’s totally ok! But there are a lot of people who dig into this lifestyle, some deeper than others, and that’s ok too
If you want to call some simple mindfuck psychological torture... suit yourself... As we are not into roleplay that is simply not ours.
Oh the presumption continues. You add words. It changes the meaning. Simple was YOUR addition. At no time did I say simple. Granted ‘mindfuck’ is almost pejorative to torture but I prefer to think of it as more of a slang term for torturing someone’s mind and emotions. You could substitute mindfuck for psychological torture, I’m was using them interchangeably.
My mistress loves to question my manhood when I'm caged and she especially likes to remind me of my owned status. I only tend to be locked for 2-3 days at a time andwe are apart for most of that time She will either text or phone me - i own your penis and ncan do what I like with it - I've got total power over your manhood - who do you belong to - get back here in next 3 hours or else .... She's constantly showing her power over me and, given her insurance policy over me, I can't refuse her in anbpy way
My wife will have me tied down and be working on me with baby oil. I will be close and tell her that I am. She will say “You can go ahead and finish with a full one.” Then she will pull her hand away too soon and I will just have a ruined orgasm. Then the cage goes back on.
Have you tried not telling her about being close, to get your orgasm by suprise? Do you think she ruins it because she knows you actually like it,