Ok, recently the reality rubber hit the road. My kh was spending money on her very old and dying pet. I really dont have that kind of money. The financial situation was getting worrisome. I hjust have to protect our financial health, when it comes down to it (although I expect to be better financially later this year). So, I finally had to say something about it, and we argued. I revolted and used the emergency key to get my cage off, and we reverted to a vanilla, arguing couple. Of course, only a few days later the pet died. We both cried. It was pitiful, and so sad. Now I am having trouble convincing her I really would like her to be in a flr again . It really makes her happy. But it's hard to convince her to try again. She is very bitter about my going back on the flr. I have offered to be locked up after a severe beating. I have asked her to to take recognizable blackmail pictures of me after the beating showing the strap Mark's on my back, ass and legs. Also, I have asked her to take blackmail pictures of me in my cage in my chastity device. I have asked her to keep both keys to the cb, so no emergency key any more. And, I have asked her to lock up all of the Cialis. She would have complete control of of my penis in every way. I have offered that she should control the finances and put me on an allowance this time, even though I would still have my name on the account. I have reminded her that she is free to cuck me if she wants. Actually, I would love her to cuck me and have repeatedly told her that. Finally, I reminded her if I rebel again, she has her hairbrush, her paddle, her crop and her belt, and she should stop being afraid to use them. Still, she is on the fence. Is there anything else I can do or say to entice her back to where we were before? Any ideas? Or should I give it up?
Have you talked about why you did what you did with her? Everyone's dynamic is different. If your end goal is for her to have total control of your relationship then you shouldn't have acted out. If finances are a hard limit then you should sit down and have an honest discussion about your comfort level. Money is a tough subject no doubt. I would not label my marriage flr. But around the house what my wife says is what usually happens. We both have strengths and weaknesses. Her weakness is money management. Her strength is family planning. She makes the plans like family and trips, and other outings, we talk to make sure they fit in our budget. She holds the vision for our household. If there is a project that the house needs she's in charge of design and has the last say. E.g. home addition, patios, deck construction, etc. Then I make sure we can afford it and if not she adjust as needed. An aging pet is tough. We had a situation with a pet that needed serious medical help and the outcome didn't look all the Rosey. We talked, put our emotions aside and agreed it was best to put the pet down. Did you have a good sit down conversation about the pet? Communication is definitely key.
I am very sad to hear about your pet dying. I spect it was a dog or a cat and its very sad when that happens. I hope you dont get paddled.
Thanks. We did talk about money before and during this. She just seemed to become so desperate during this, and we ended up opposite sides on it. It was not a good situation. In the end, I just felt I couldn't let it go any longer. It was lose-lose.
You just have to except they are in control and there is nothing you can do unless it involves sheer financial recklesness with serious consequences.
You just have to except they are in control and there is nothing you can do unless it involves sheer financial recklesness with serious consequences.
Have you ever considered that her being on the fence is your punishment? It sounds like everything you are offering her is something you want. What does she want? Focus on that first. Also I do think it wise to sit down and discuss boundaries. Have a constructive way in the future to deal with a disagreement that doesn't involve your locked up state. Sort of the relationship equivalent of a safe word where you can step out of your roles and have a discussion about money or whatever else you need to. Also sorry for your loss, pets can become a part of the family and can leave a big void when they are gone.
Do you mean to be insulting to all people in this region of the country? Or, do you think the expression somehow reflects some lack of understanding? I am in the Southern U.S. I was born here, and I was raised here. I earned my college degree magna cum laude/ phi beta kappa in both chemistry and religions at the same time in the South. It took me only three and a half years to do that. I earned my medical degree and completed my post- doctoral work at training hospitals in this part of the South as well. We all know this region of the country hasn't always been on the right side of history. Slavery is and was horrid. Still, we try to overcome the judgements of our betters in the North as best we can. There are all sorts of people wherever you go.
I think you inferred a few things in my comment that I didn’t say. I said that the only people I’ve heard say that are in the south and as it turns out you live in the south! You’ve actually demonstrated that my comment was a valid observation. I never said anything about your education nor did I call out historical references about the region. I’ll restate my comment, I don’t like that phrase and the only people I’ve heard say that are from the south.
We use it, but then again Hawaii is the southern most state. Not sure I think of us as part of the south though.
Changeable: Here is my advice. As hard as it sounds, let go of the money. It's hers even when she is irresponsible with it. Tell her you had experienced going into new submission regarding finances and wasn't ready. But you learned from it and now you are. It is her money, even if she allows your name on the account, from now on. It was kind of like you got beaten harder than you could take and stopped the scene. But now you realize you indeed can take the harder beating and want to resume the scene. Only instead of a beating, it was money.