Hi there everyone. I am new to chastity only discovering it properly in the last month and this site has been fantastic for me to find tons of information. How I got interested in chastity is as follows: I have been with my wonderful girlfriend for nearly 4 years but we have never actually moved in together. I live about a mile from her house and stay over 3-4 times a week. However, recently (in the last 2-3 months I've noticed my sex drive has been higher than hers and found myself masterbating to porn more and more and as a result we were having sex less and less. She did not like that I watched a lot of porn but alone at night in my house that is what I did. I actually can't remember how I stumbled into chastity but after finding it, I suggested it to her about 6 weeks ago and she half jokingly agreed I needed to be locked up. So about 2 weeks ago I very nervously bought one of these and wore it over to her house and gave her the box with the keys in it. I was terrified she would either find it completely ridiculous or hate it but (did I say she is amazing?) she laughed and was interested to see it and said anything to keep me from wanking my self to porn was a good thing. So for that first week it was an incredible turn on to me that she controlled my cock and I was locked up during the days and nights I was not with her. I did keep one key with me in my car for emergencies and just in case I couldn't handle it. I don't know what made me hornier - the fact that my cock was locked up for her or I had what felt like a metal hand squeezing my cock all time which in turn would constantly remind me I was locked up for her. Kind of a chicken and egg thing. Anyway, two things then happened. The first is I found the device is completely useless for securely locking my cock because I could easily slip out in the bath with soapy water. The second thing that happened because I'm fairly good with DIY I decided I could bend it to make it more secure. Well I soon learned it was not made from steel as advertised but more like a cast Zinc which cracked immediately. Very disappointed I filed it down and sanded it smooth and locked it back on but resolved to buy another better one. During this time I also jacked off to porn and confessed to my girlfriend so she now has all the keys. She appears to be embracing this whole chastity thing and I dream of being permanently locked by her and only let out for sex/release. Our sex life has (I know it's early days yet) gotten so much better and she is always asking how my cock is feeling and what a brilliant idea chastity is and today said all wives/girlfriends should have their men locked up. Even if the amount of sex we are having now dropped to levels previously I am fantasizing that having a cock cage on is a good substitute. How weird is that? I'm gonna try to post pictures of the first useless cage I bought (I do not recommend anyone waste their money on this) and the second ringed cage that I hope will be arriving soon.
Good morning from Canada, Welcome to a very exciting lifestyle. You have noticed some of the many benefits of being locked. There are many. And you will discover more as you explore and lengthen your lockups. Have fun with this, it is meant to be fun. Too often we buy a device, spend good money, then buy the one we should have bought in the first place. Over the years i have worn a variety of devices and have discovered that some are better than others. I have also learned that you get what you pay for. This has included plastic, steel and silicone. And they have ranged from ball trap to full metal belts. Presentlly i am locked in a Mature Metal Queens Keep which is a custom made stainless steel device from the US. It is well constructed very secure and easy to keep clean. Since it is on for weeks and months at a time comfort and cleamliness are essential. I am very happy with the device, as is my Lady who also likes the esthic of it too. Their customer service is impeccable. Neosteel in Germany also makes a great full belt. Theirs is the Rolls Royce of belts although to be fair there are other great manufacturers out there (Tollyboy for one). The Neo is expensive but worth the money. I went to Germany to be measured for my full belt. Incidently this one was her favourite. Sarah Jameson, also from Ireland, has written the definative guide book. Well worth the read. It is called, "Be Careful What You Wish For" And she has a blog of note. She would say, and I would agree, that there is lots of misinformation out there meant to titilate, and it does, but it the reality we are after. Hers is good for that. Enjoy the journey you two have begun. Have fun, cherish each other and the sacrifices that you both will make. In the end this is a way to enhance an already great relationship based on communication, trust and the desire to please each other.