I turn 72 today and my wife 71. We both have medical issues and my wife is handicapped. I am recovering from two surgeries after losing 90 lbs. One reason for our decision is that when I was grossly overweight my wife as no longer sexually attracted to me. Now that I am in shape again she is once again sexually attracted to me. She wants to make me orgasm. It turns her on and makes her orgasm when I do. As for me, my body can no longer take the S&M play it used to. I do not heal fast anymore and even a shallow scratch leaves a scar on my skin. Plus I no longer get horny all the time like I used to and my desire to masturbate is very low as my orgasms are not nearly as good or long as they used to be. I hardly discharge any semen as my orgasms are retrograde at this point after so many years. I never get hard anymore an barely hard with 100mg of Viagra which gives me a headache so not worth it. I still like to offer advice to newcomers because I know that I bought into all the hype and bullshit posted online about chastity as if there are official rules, a foolproof orgasm prevention and benefits your key holder supposedly gets if they react as you wish to everything you do. I never met a woman, even though all of mine have been serxualy dominant, who enjoyed dominating me outside the bedroom. I am a very strong alpha male and I always attracted the type of woman who are attracted to alpha males. Yes, they still exist and in large numbers despite how porn presents it. We have successfully lived in a poly triad for 30 or our 50+ years of marriage, wife swapped, swung and lots of soft swinging too at parties I threw either in my pool or dance room which was setup with all the lighting and lasers you find in dance clubs from the disco area. I even DJ'd my parties and we had a steady group of people attend. Out soft swinging was basically foreplay with someone other than your spouse but the main event is only with your spouse. A typical example is a variation of musical chairs where the wives circled the men seated in chairs and when the music stopped they sat on the lap of the man in front of them and made out with the for a minute or two before starting over again. Our pool parties meant no bathing suits in the pool and often someone would hide our clothes so we were naked most of the night. We also did sex in public, limos, beaches (no good) and in lots of other places where we either could not be seen or only seen by adults at vacation spots with nude beaches. We did every fetish you can find on Fetlife and more. In other words, we had a very good run sexually and the money to do as we wished. Our sex partners were all upscale like doctors, business owners, chemists, lawyers, etc. It was a great life and now we are retired and having been there (21 countries and 26 States) and done that, we are home bodies now mostly playing my 24 guitars or making videos and recording music in my home A/V studio. I also am a ham radio operator so I spent time talking to people all over the world using a piece of wire for an antenna. Now is it time to retire for good and just sleep in, hit the pool and eat out. The other problem I had was that the cage made me feel like peeing all the time and as an old man I already pee too much so that was an issue too. So we now take it easy and still have sex once a week and still some light BDSM stuff but the kind that does not leave marks. Kind of kinky not being locked. I amy still drop in from time to time to answer questions because there is little that we have not done at least once. Nice knowing all the guys over the last decade into my fetishes and hope your sex life is as exciting and diverse as mine was.
All the best with the next stage of your joint adventure. Glad you enjoyed the chastity experience while you could and I hope you enjoy what comes next. Best wishes both
There is a time for everything, and the body tells us what we must do. I still enjoy dressing, but sex is much less important as I age. All the best for you.
@Vinnfl, First of all, Happy Belated Birthday! It sounds like you and your lovely Wife have a wonderful marriage and quite the envious relationship over the years. Congratulations on that! The long-term marriage, keeping sexually active throughout all of those years and always keeping the focus on each other while sharing with others in a variety of ways. Wow. A very impressive feat in this day and age. Well done!!!! I'm sorry to hear about your medical issues slowing things down for both you and your Wife, but alas, tis a fate which awaits all of us...if we're lucky enough to GET old. My Wife and I are about a decade younger than you and your wife, but I'm already thinking about various aspects of our lives and wondering "How much longer will we be able to enjoy these things?" One non-kink area we enjoy is travelling in our motorhome, but another big one is how much longer my lovely KeyHolding Wife and I will be able to enjoy our sexual relationship, especially chastity & FLR. It has changed dramatically over the 40+ years we've been together. And over 3 years ago it took a dramatic turn when we started doing chastity 24/7/365 and introducing FLR aspects to our marriage. We REALLY enjoy where we are now, and in some ways, it's a better emotional relationship than we had when we were in our 20's, though no where near as physical. Things change. I wasn't thinking that we'd ever have to give up on the chastity wearing aspect, but your comments make sense and I can see where that could be a very real possibility ahead of us....but hopefully we'll have at least another decade or so. I hope you stick around on the forums here and offer advice to those with so much less experience than you and your Wife have. By and large, this is a great community of people, and most of us are always willing to listen to the experiences of others. Thanks for sharing your story and Good Luck to you both! ~subrick
It’s sorry to see you leaving our group. You have inspired both me and my Goddess wife for years. We have never experienced such a life like yours, but did get much inspiration from you. Getting involved with other femdom couples and the whole kink community in our area. My Goddess wife has taken me to a whole new level of D’s and femdom over the years also. We wish you the best in life and health. Cumslave and Ms. Shauna
My best wishes for your further life and for your open post here. I live hiw yku easily clarify about the difference in kink and chastity in real life. Real FemDoms exist and women that enjoy having beta males. Women that dont want alpha males or want to own alpha males. I know some of them. But you are so right with your view, that all this porn stuff is completely off reality.
I wish you well for the coming years - sounds like you had a greeeaaaattt run for many years, so many exciting memories for you both - wonderful. We too are now in our 70s: we came to chastity play late in life - nobody even talked about such a thing until this century - so we all missed so much fun, dammit. It added some fun and teasing from time to time. We have now been fighting my wife's cancer/chemo, and more for a couple of years. PIV is almost off the table, but to make us feel still close to normal my wife still likes to give me delicious hand jobs from time to time, [ sometimes helped by viagra ] and I give her a slow sensual massage when she needs a pick me up. Sooooo - never say never/do what helps you through the next low time - never give up, of course. all the best to you both.
We are 2 years behind you, but close enough. For what it's worth, I offer you some advice of a lifestyle change that could improve both of your health. We came by the information the hard way. Loss of our only child, and resultant cancer for her. SAD, the standard American Diet, the chem trails, pesticides, herbicides, chemicals in our food, seed oils, high fructose corn syrup, EMF's virtually everywhere, are destroying all of our health. It's difficult, and more expensive, but you can take your health back., if you are willing to change. 2 books. Bob Wright "Killing Cancer, not People", and Dr. Jerry Tennant "Healing is Voltage'". Bob his a great guy who really helped us. I've bought 2 cases of his books, and given them to anyone who seemed interested. Gotten at least that many people to buy his book. We have flow to TX to see Dr. Tennant , aged 83, for her cancer and my hyperthyroidism . He's provably the best holistic Dr on the planet. He has done wonders for me, and helped her. The man is curing ALS patients. Nobody does that. i have seen them in his office. If you are open to change, this is what our journey over the past 2 years has taught us. We didn't just give up kink play for 4 years , we 100 % lost ALL sex drive. Now we have our sex drive back, AND kink play. That's what these 2 men, and the many others who have helped us on our journey have done for us. It is possible . We are living examples. For your consideration.