My Terms For Chastity Enforcement

I love this, strict, harsh and no mental masturbation even for him. Just shut the hell up and deal with it without annoying her.

 

I think this is just how it has to be. I, and some others, have tried to play it differently with rules, contracts, safe words, all that, and it just becomes a burden on the woman. I think your rules are the right rules and how it has to be done, even though most men are scared to accept that.....at first.

 

I do disagree with item number 1. There should be a process to find the right device. The wrong device can be outright dangerous and harmful to the male's body.

 

I took it to mean that she was the one in charge of picking the device, and in theory, she would take fit and safety into consideration.

 

As male fantasies go I think the chastities perkins series is one of the best.

He should write more.

 

Even though my wife and I are a long distance down the path of chastity I’m going to show her your terms. I’ll do anything to make sure it’s her way and works for her
Thankyou for sharing

 

Well there is this other site, this "guide" out there where the person who wrote it (who claims to be a woman and may be) advocates for smaller and smaller cages. I mean SPH is a thing and smaller cages are actually more comfortable and all that but there is a point at which you go too small. If a dude has a big meaty dick and you're cramming it into something too small it's going to cause problems. If the cage is tight enough I have trouble urinating at all because the urethra is being squeezes. Tighter than that and you've got blood flow issues etc.

 

I would but I'm currently locked and it would violate rule 3:

3. There will be absolutely no discussions about hubby’s chastity unless I bring it up. If hubby brings it up in any way he will accept a punishment of my choosing. No exceptions.

So if/when this chastity husband training session ends I'll bring it up during the debrief.

 

At some point, you either trust her or you don't. Obviously if she's not trustworthy, you don't get this deep into things. And "trustworthy" is more than just honest or even caring. It implies you can trust her to make good decisions, like knowing the difference between fantasy and reality. That last part is pretty important in this particular kink.

 

The best definition I have found for "trust" in this context and especially dynamic is:

"her capitalizing on what is in your best interest".

Meaning creating a win:win scenario where she gets her needs and desires met while you do as well. That takes a lot of honest communication to articulate what you want and need. Strive towards truly understanding each other and what makes you both tick.

 

Maybe I’m missing the meaning, what I got out of it was …I’ll play your game, but will make it so miserable, you’ll want to quit playing.

We BOTH have fun and enjoy enforced chastity. We joke, tease, laugh, and yes sometimes pout about it.

If it were something she doesn’t want to do, I would just ask for the keys back and understand that this isn’t her thing.

 

https://medium.com/@chastityperkins

 

https://medium.com/@chastityperkins

 

Very similar structure to the rules my wife used, except extended to cover a complete FLR. No negotiation about the rules ever and no safewords. The one place she was a little easier was that I was allowed to ask for permission to talk about the rules. But of course she would usually say no.

Her view was similar - she wanted it to be about real power exchange between a male and a female, and not a sex game.

 

Interesting that no lady has expressed her thoughts on this yet.

 

This is like scary and exciting all at the same time

 

It is. I know that feeling. I think that's the attraction to all this isn't it?

 

I wouldn’t have made it past her choosing the device lol! When we first started she saw some on sale “why don’t you just get something like this, it’s a lot cheaper!” It was a plastic knockoff of a cb6000, was about 3 inches too long, and had more corners and sharp edges than a stop sign.

People without a penis don’t always understand them.

 

It's a big clue to whether it's a fantasy or not.

 

Not necessarily. She doesn’t say anything about choosing the device without input - just that she makes the choice. My wife had final say on literally everything I did, but usually she’d expect me to do a lot of research and present options.

 

Yep. I make suggestions about sex toys, she makes decisions.