Got what I wished for: Today's Events

Good for you both. What I'd like to know is how you got from A to B?

 

Beat me to it.
How did you get everything you wished for?

I doubt it was matter of fact to her I imagine she walked out smiling as inside she was thinking “nailed it!”

 

@HusbandInTraining , first a congrats to you guys on your success and realizing, dreams do come true. They may look different than what we had in mind and that it's ok.

I can relate to your story and it gives me hope as a newer couple to chastity. It's great to not only hear of others success stories, but even better when some of the things they say resonate with you. It gives me hope that it can happen and live it as a lifestyle choice. Thank you for taking the time to post and share a glimpse into your journey.

 

Chastity? Boring? Noooo… there’s never a dull moment!

You do seem to be blessed with quite a sexually confident wife though, that works in your favour. Otherwise, it’s a success story with very little effort on your part. Success in this case being to curb your over active labido and replace it with fewer more quality moments. Sometimes, less is actually… more!

 

Great observation and never too late to start a journal, if it's something you want to document. Otherwise, like you said, sit back and enjoy it. Live in the moment, nothing wrong with that

 

That moment you stop topping from the bottom and just submit, is the BCWYAF moment starting...once you have demonstrated to your Dominant that you belong to them, and will always submit, that water in the pot starts to warm.

 

Love this, sounds perfect

I have to admit, I have been through similar things. While my current partner and I actually met based on our joint interest in chastity we have had several very long breaks from it, usually it is because I end up topping from the bottom, and it ends up being too hard for her.

SULKING= no more chastity.

The key is to let them find their own way.

There are some things it is ok for me to ask for though for example the paddle. lol

 

Congratulations!

 

I love how you thanked her for her orgasm. Nothing turns me on more than seeing my wife orgasm with a huge blushing smile after I've been railing her with a 8 inch x 1.75 inch dimater strap-on while my eger penis is begging barred below.

 

Yes events are very energizing I had one, the princess woke me thinking she heard a noise outside so I got up went outside to look around when I walked back inside, cage exposed, she said “what happens if you fell and I had to take you to the hospital how would I take that off??? I said practice with much enthusiasm, looking forward to it.

 

Any chance you mind sharing (personal message or reply here) with what “by her terms” ended up meaning? Does she keep an expectation list and punishments in hand?

 

Congratulations

 

Time and time again, if there's one thing that guys trip themselves up with, it's trying to force the pace. It's quite a revelation when you realise that you need to give her the space, the time and the freedom to grow into it.

 

And to add to that, sometimes she may take a step back before going 10 steps forward…

 

This is spot on advice. I’ve pushed too hard in the past on other bedroom related things and it was a mistake. Moving at her pace and letting her mold the journey is key to having it work for both people.

 

I made exactly this mistake. I think maybe men have to screw it up at least once to learn their lesson and let the woman take control the next time. I'm currently waiting for my wife/KH to bring up another round of chastity or "Husband Improvement Training Session" as we call it. When she wants, if she wants, on her terms, by her rules, no whining and complaining. These are hard lessons for a man to learn.

 

Ah ha! Here we are, 5 weeks later. And she's come around exactly as I thought she would. We had sex 3 times yesterday and I guess she had her fill of orgasms because throughout the day she started talking about putting me back in my cage. To "play the game." And was sort of asking me for my consent. But I told her exactly what I wrote here: if she wants, when she wants, how she wants, by her rules, for as long as she wants, and no contract. She thought about it for a little bit then smiled (we were in bed) and said, "I want you back in your cage, your training has lapsed and you need me in control." She must have been scheming and preparing this for some time because when she got to work this morning she copy-pasted a message to me which involved several tasks she wants me to work on, including learning a difficult foreign language with an explicit threat of extended days in chastity for every WORD I fail to memorize per day (this could actually turn into permanent chastity).

The message went:

As for the other thing...
Now that I have control over you, I would like to send you some tasks for the day and the week.

In order to please me this week, I will send you some things I wish to see happen.

Since it's still a regular working week, your training will be closely connected with everyday life.
...
[tasks]
...

For every word you don't know you might get an extra day of caging. Hope that gets you motivated.

Hope you have a good day my love and hope your training goes well.
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Happy and excited to be back in tbh.

 

Excellent post, and I enjoyed reading about your journey. I agree that patience is the key and learning not to top from the bottom is critical to a successful relationship in MC. I had a very similar journey as well.

My Wife, who is also my KH and I have been involved in MC for the past 2.5 years with varying degrees of success. However, for the past 1.5 years, I have been locked 24/7. Early on, it was a struggle for both of us, and a big part of that was me pushing too hard too fast.

Recently, my Wife sat me down and she informed me that MC would no longer be a fun game that we played, but rather be a full time part of our life going forward. She had come to the realization that she wants me caged and that I need to be caged. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I could hear "BCWYWF" echoing. She joined the Mansion as member this week and told me that there would also be some new activities that she would be implementing into our weekly routine that I would be required to comply with.

Last night she came home from work after a very long day, and I could she that she was worn out. On Monday nights, she administers my weekly maintenance spankings, and I thought that maybe she might be too tired to give them to me. As I walked into the living room, she gave me the signal and had my lay across her lap where she proceeded to spank me. Later on, we went to bed to watch a show and she had me give her a 30 minute back rub. After her much needed massage, she grabbed my head and pushed it down between her thighs and I licked her to orgasm. I held her until she rolled over and fell asleep leaving me lying there leaking though my cage.

Like HusbandInTraining mentioned earlier in his post. Not every night is exciting in MC, but the journey there is worth it.

 

Ah the dream and the nightmare. I have mixed feelings. I guess right now I wouldn't want that, but let's see where my wife takes me to mentally after a couple years of male chastity training sessions...

 

Well said. This is exactly where we recently ended up, after trying a few different alternatives. It just makes sense, and everything is just so much simpler.

 

The potential, when a woman gains control, can be head spinning.

I woke up early on a weekend, around 5am. My wife, is often awake and gets out of bed about that time. I guess her leaving the bed stirred me awake. I tried to nod off, but it wasn’t going to happen.

I have found that inserting my Aneros Helix can help me sleep. The warm tingles just put me out. So I slipped it in and sure enough, I slept soundly for a couple more hours.

I was starting to awaken when I sensed her beside me in the bed. She gave me a light, sexy kiss. She then gently pulled back the covers. Then, she began to lick my nipples. Since starting with the Aneros, they have become extremely sensitive. She knows this, and teases me endlessly while locked - which is full time.

My eyes were closed and I felt something tickling my chest and nipples. I opened my eyes and she had her necklace with the key to my chastity cage. She circled my chest with it, twirling it around each nipple. She then guided it down my stomach to my groin. Next, I felt the key tinkling over the stainless steel bars of the chastity cage she locked on me weeks ago. It’s been so long I really don’t know how many. Don’t get me wrong here. We have a lot of sex, But, on her terms. She likes me desperate and frustrated.

She inserted the key into the little brass padlock. She pretended to be having a difficult time with it and tells me, “It won’t come off!” Of course I’m getting hard, well as hard as I can in a steel cage. She wiggled it and tugged on it, and eventually the lock released. She grasped the cage, and began to pull and rotate it, trying to pull it off my erection. Eventually, with great flourish, she pulled it off. Each bar of the cage caught briefly on my cock head. Strangely, she left the ring on, although I don’t think it would have come off at that point.

She had a bottle of lube with her. She pumped it a couple of times, and began to spread the cool gel over my hardness. When I am locked, I don’t feel much sensation from clothing or otherwise. As a result, the feeling of her slippery hands is overwhelming.

She played with my shaft and slipped a hand down to my perineum. She knows that rubbing it in time with stroking my shaft drives me wild. It didn’t take but a minute before she found the tail of the Helix. “What do we have here?”, she said.

She began to wiggle the handle while stroking me. Then she started to nibble and suck on my nipples. The combination was excruciating after being denied for weeks. She sensed me getting close, then backed off a little. The sensation on my prostate was insanely intense.

She continued for a least thirty minutes. Edging me close, backing off, taking me back to the edge, and pulling back. Every cell, in my body, wanted to finish in a massive explosion.

One more trip to the edge, and she said, “Not this time.” She stopped the stimulation, and snuggled me until she could get the cage back on. Securely locked, I gave her at least four very powerful climaxes.

She enjoys the reaction she gets from playing with the Aneros. The combination of wiggling it, and playing with my nipples, is great fun for her. Although I am sexually frustrated, I love the attention and the constant attraction I feel for her.

She is the same woman as before, but in control.