Too much fantasy

well they cant tho if they locked up can they.

 

Maybe that’s why I don’t understand. I’ve had an eventful (sex) life and now have a rather accommodating wife… I think there’s very few (of my own) fantasies remaining that I haven’t experienced.

Still, if I had to write a fantasy story I doubt that chastity would be the route I would go down. I mean 95% of the time nothing happens so anyone claiming it does immediately smells of BS.

 

Chastity wouldn't be much of a fantasy if you are already living it

I feel the same, lol.

 

I think it is a step or two beyond those of us who wish our wives were true KH’s giving us real denial and teasing. (I may be just getting there). For some they may be single, some may be in a relationship where they are completely unsupported. Either way by writing a journal they get to “live” that life to a degree with actual interaction from other people. They get support, feedback, attention. For those of us in supportive relationships this may sound silly but it’s tough to understand not having what you already have. If you can east whenever you like you don’t know what true hunger is like. And it may not just be men, it could just as easily be a woman who wishes she could find a man to practice with or who is married and their husband is a dead no. And of course it could be a 15yr old, pretty smart, kid or a 50yr old guy living his fantasy of telling stories.

Deep down inside no one wants to be taken so the obvious threads are quickly called out and the well crafted ones carry on.

 

No sex ever?

 

No, not for almost 5 years. February 24, 2018 was the last time.

 

Sorry

 

The important question: Are you happy?

 

It's a complicated question to answer. It's not strictly yes or no.

 

Well, here's wishing you a happy new year to be somehow better than the previous 5.

 

Yeah I agree lots of made up BS.
Well my photos in my profile will show I'm not a fantasy , but I admit I do still have the occasional .fantasy . I'll include a photo of me in my jailbird cage tomorrow .

 

Real as can be . My BS meter dropped to zero. A tad short ,but 100% beliveable

 

I love chastity

 

Agreed! Here and everywhere else online. All you see is fantasy and porn. This is why I put off chastity for years when my wife deserved that control. It's difficult to find real people's experience and advice.

 

I agree that there is some fantasy on this site but I also agree you’ll probably find that everywhere. But I have also found a lot of useful info here. Discussions on chastity cages, how to keep things clean, how to deal with certain issues like ring burn, etc. I’m new to chastity and I have found this site very helpful. I’m currently on day 10 of being locked up and I will admit the first 5 days or so wasn’t 24 hour lockup - I had to remove the cage due to pain at times and to get things cleaned up. The first 5 days had me changing ring sizes and gap sizes a few times. But I think I have the fit dialed in now, I am on day 4 of being locked up 24 hours a day. I’m in the CB6000s which I think is a decent starter cage but I’m already looking at the Mature Metal Jailbird - one of these days. Anyway, I think there is a lot of good info on this site but yeah you do have to apply your BS filter from time to time.

 

@ObedientSubKC you be lots more comfy when you allow to have another cage on you. cos the cb6 is not very comfy i dint think.

 

I personally am here because my wife and I do really have an interest in my chastity. We have a mild interest insomuch that I work from home and it’s very easy to work upstairs but even easier to take 15-20 minutes off for me to crack one off by myself - so to speak - although this does sometimes become habitual and after a certain time I mention this to my wife and she tells me it’s time to cage him.
Which I will do and we will go around 50 days with him locked up. I do have a very good tongue apparently so my wife certainly doesn’t go without, while I do… while this is no Penthouse forum letter, I do think about sex every second my cock is locked so I am not like those who ‘forget they’re wearing it’… the metal cage weight is a constant reminder and I nearly constantly grope at the bloody thing… however. it feels nice, my ball feels huge (always a pointer for my wife who regularly tells me it’s not big enough yet to deserve a cum!), I feel kinda sexy wearing it… it looks good - which is weird since I’m not a jewellery or tattoo or metal wearing guy…
So… for me, currently on my latest stint… 20
days so far… wife had said she wants me to go for 70 days - will probably be less - we do this for fun AND to refocus me!! And it works!!

 

@jemima - I think you are probably right. My Mistress allowed me to take my CB6000s cage off last night (at the end of day 4). I found a lot of soreness and pain when I took the cage off. Mostly irritated skin but it has been a day now with no cage and im still waiting to heal. Some of that is probably because this is my first time in a cage - so my body is still getting used to it. But I think I will likely switch to a new cage sometime in the future. I have been looking at the Kink3d Cobra or the Mature Metal Jailbird.

 

]@jemima[/USER] - I think you are probably right. My Mistress allowed me to take my CB6000s cage off last night (at the end of day 4). I found a lot of soreness and pain when I took the cage off. Mostly irritated skin but it has been a day now with no cage and im still waiting to heal. Some of that is probably because this is my first time in a cage - so my body is still getting used to it. But I think I will likely switch to a new cage sometime in the future. I have been looking at the Kink3d Cobra or the Mature Metal Jailbird.[/QUOTE]

Where did you have soreness and pain exactly with a CB-6000s? I have been wearing CB cages for years. I am down to a mr stubb

 

well the first thing is cos it is plastic and if you locked up for a long time it has to keep coming off for clean cos it smelly after a bit. and the ring bit is round but the plastic in the ring is not round, its a bit squary and that hurts when it been on a long time. my cage now am metal ones so they can stop on me a long time and as well the rings are all round and there no squary bits on them. my day cage is a plate and a tube and no cage and it just push my little willy inside me and it dont hurt at all and its lovely to wear. cos it push everthing inside me Mistress lets me have another cage on me at nite that is like a teeny bowl and that lets me out into the little bowl at nite time.

 

Where did you have soreness and pain exactly with a CB-6000s? I have been wearing CB cages for years. I am down to a mr stubb[/QUOTE]
My pain is on the skin of my scrotum, primarily right under where the cage was. My scrotum is red, inflamed and very sensitive in that area. So I think that plastic cage rubbed my scrotum raw. I don’t know if bacteria got in there and made the situation worse or not. I’m still healing, I think I’m getting better but it is slow.

@subspider - you said you have used CB cages for a while now, have you ever had anything like this? Any suggestions on how to avoid this problem in the future? I’m thinking more use of lube and/or using Vaseline or Aquaphor on that area of my scrotum where the cage rests.

 

In my teens I was an avid reader of the letters in Penthouse, Mayfair, and particularly Forum. Then, I thought most were invented.

Then in my late 30s I really got into the BDSM lifestyle, organising kink events, back in 1987, (Muir Academy, with Miss Prim). I've been very active ever since, with wide and deep experience in person and through correspondence.

I very soon realised that many of the letters that I had assumed were fictional, are actually the cleaned-up, sanitised, fit for publication version.

I have 200 titles on Lulu publishing currently, a few are fantasies where I think they'll sell, (I needed the money for my family then!), but I tried to specialise in stories from folk who've been there, done that and are basically writing thinly veiled autobiography.

Yes, don't believe all you read: but if it is physically possible, it probably happens, somewhere.

My test is whether they give the kind of nitty-gritty apparently inconsequential detail that says, "yes, I really was there!"

 

I completely agree that Chastity Mansion seems overrun with fantasy vs real-life chastity. I joined Chastity Mansion 2+ years ago to gain more knowledge of true male chastity lifestyle. My Wife who is also my KH is a member of Chastity Mansion as well and has noted this site has too much make believe and not enough reality. She would love to connect with other KH's as she is still pretty new to all of this.

In truth, day to day chastity can be vanilla and is not the way it is depicted in multiple forums here. We have our weekly routine, which I love, but we also want to network with other couples that are into male chastity so we get new ideas or fun things to try.

Currently:

1. I am kept locked 24/7 and only let out once a week to shower and shave or when she wants to play with her toy.
2. I am required to keep my chest and pubic area shaved.
3. I am not allowed to wear any clothes to bed.
4. My Wife gives me weekly maintenance spankings. Punishment spankings are administered if I break one of our rules, but this rarely happens, thankfully.
5. She is allowed as many orgasms as she pleases, and we only have sex when she says so.
6. We are not into sissy play or cuckolding.

Would love to chat with those of you in similar situations and are involved in true male chastity and not fantasy or unrealistic stories.

 

1. Sounds great.
2. Why? Are you especially hairy? Doesn't the stuble result in irritation and doesn't it require daily attention?
3. Who wears clothes in bed? I have slept naked since I was 15, and that was a few decades ago.
   
4. Why? You are a grown man, presumably.
   
5. As it should be.
6. Us neither, and she loves my hair and we don't do spankings or crossdressing, or foot worship or pegging, or... you get the idea.

 

Same. Though now the addition of the cage makes things novel.