I have a very understanding and loving wife, she has come from a vanilla background and has accepted my chastity kink and embraced it - to a point. We have a CB and we play every now and then when I bring it up after a long break (I don't pester her every week - far from it). For instance recently she said she wasn't in the mood for sex and would I mind if she got an early night, I said of course not but would she maybe lock me up, to which she nicely replied "why not pretend you're locked up", the CB is under the bed and I said its not really the same pretending so would she mind if I put it on - with a small bit of coaxing she said yeah sure. Each time I put it on I offer her to snap the lock shut but she always she ah you just do it, I feel like I'm pedalling my own fantasy and really want her to become more involved. She doesn't really tease me when I'm locked, maybe just before play she might brush against me, but thats more than enough for now I do more than my fair share around the house, but when I am locked I give an extra effort alot more around the house and I treat her like a princess (massages etc etc.)to see if she'll see the benefits and how much more focused I am on her needs when I'm chaste. But she still hasn't been bitten by the bug that its win win for both of us if I'm kept locked up more often - any ideas how I can up the ante so to speak and get her more interested.
I can tell you from experience it won't work if you force it on her. Your topping from the bottom. Trying to get her to do what you ultimately want her to. I was as guilty as anyone doing that. I like you married a fairly straight laced woman. Although my ultimate goal was to make her happy I also was trying to force my own kink onto her. The best advice I can give u is sit and talk to her. Ask her what she wants and you have to be honest with her about everthing you would like. Like the website says thought be careful what u wish for cause you may get it. I am now a sissy maid cuck who spends more time cleaning than anything while my wife is looking for a boyfriend. Ask her if she wld b open to reading about the lifestyle online. Thats what turned my wifes light on. Once she got it there was no looking back.
There are a lot of captions out there with pics, stories to be read, videos to watch. Look through some caption sites and find things that you like, that she will also like, i.e. may point out how this will be a benefit that she really hasn't thought of. Go slow, but every now and then, shoot some to her phone for her to read before she comes home or while she is at lunch. Pass along multiple types to find what she likes and mix in things that will work for both of you. After you find some captions that may help make your case, might be interesting to her, and maybe a few vids and stories, ask her to sit on you while she looks through them. Once she figures out what benefits she can get from this, don't be surprised if you read the heading for the site and wonder a bit about how it really is true. Take your time and try to find ideas that will remind her of what you would like to do, but also allow for time to just be your normal selves. You have a lifetime to explore each other, speed is not your most pressing issue, and trying to force almost always backfires... Might also try to work some kink into your nights out together. Either through wearing something chastity like and letter her know so she can enjoy tormenting you, finding a remote control toy to wear and give her the controller, others... The scariest thing you can do is hand over control of your body to a woman who has had a few drinks. It is also, on of the most pleasurable, trusting, and least threatening of the ways to bring things into your life. Last note, to find out what things she may be interested in doing or just watching, you might want to spend some time finding sites that you both like, or get a membership somewhere that has vids that both of you like, then check them out together.
Good advice so far, not sure about vids, porn and captions, but that's personal preference! The main thing is to figure out what SHE wants, and that's impossible without good communication. It seems like you have that, so keep at it slow and steady. At this point I'm tempted to recommend Lucy Fairbourne, Male Chastity because it's a well written "soflty, softly" approach. But if you do buy it, just give it to her and leave her be, don't always be "did you read it yet...?" As for being slow, it speeds up. Rapidly. 4 years ago I became a Mistress to please my partner, now I own a website, am about to become hostess to a BDSM/swingers club, spend at least one night a week in a club dungeon somewhere torturing some poor soul, and am looking at a future with my partner AND my paingimp... and hopefully a sissy girl. Good luck, and keep us informed.