Firstly hope this isn't a topic that there are rules against posting about, can't see why, some members post about having their dicks amputated and all sorts of mad shit. Anyway I'm a gay male and have been with my husband for 18 years. We were college sweethearts. We've always been strictly monogamous and are very much in love. Our sex life has always been on the more vanilla side but over the last few months we've become much more open about our kinks and desires. Chastity has been the catalyst for this change as it's massively increased our mutual intimacy, honesty, openness and trust. For his 40th birthday we're planning on going to Bangkok. When we've talked about the trip, he has on a number of occasions 'joked' about fucking a Thai boy when we go there ('boy' here meaning a slim athletic boyish adult male just so we're clear). I'm not sure if he's genuinely just joking to tease me or if he's 'joking' as a way of testing the water. I'm not entirely sure how I feel about this hypothetical proposition and if he is genuinely just joking/innocently teasing me and I bring it up as a serious idea, then it's a whole unnecessary can of worms being opened right there. What are your thoughts people?
Maybe it's just a fantasy he has, in which case, all quite harmless. Maybe it's a fantasy that he'd like to make reality while you're in Bangkok. The only way you'll know is to ask him. Perhaps you should also think about whether you'd enjoy that scene yourself and work out how important fidelity is to you. I don't think anyone here can really answer the question for you.
This only applys to me but, your life only once. And from what I heard, some outside Adventures can rekindle your Relationsship pretty nicely.
Certainly no need for rekindling, the fire is plenty ablaze. I think maybe I would be okay for him to top but not bottom, thats cuckold territory and a bit too much of a headfuck for me. It's well over 12 months away yet so I think i'll keep my powder dry for now.
For me, as long as your both comfortable with the situation and your both involved in some way I’d say it’s all good. I’d hate to think of you alone for the evening while on holiday thinking about what he’s doing. If it was me in this situation i think I’d like to be there too. I will say I’m not a fan of prostitution. I find it a little sad that someone is in that position. If you speak to him and find out it is something he wants can’t to find someone willing, rather than someone who had to be paid?
You dont necressarily have to. Prostitution is criminalized in a lot of Regions, and the worth of a Woman are often reduced to there Sexuality, or lack of, but at its core its just work. (in this case a male Prostitute, but most People think of Woman if there think of Sexwork) And People can choose for themselfe if there fine whit it. Depending on individual Feelings, it can be as much "selling your Body" as using your Body to build a House for someone. Other People do suffer from mental Stress doing this, and it is absolutely nothing for them. Many Streetworkers are genuinly fine whit the work itselfe, but try to get out of it, because of the social Stigma. Its also not decriminalized, that means even if its legal, the Police finds ways to harass them. Charging a Taxi Driver as Pimp, because knowingly Transporting them to work, for payment is classified that way. Better Social Security, Job Options, and Systhemic Changes to decriminalize this kind of work, is the way to go. So People arent harassed or blamed for this Job, and illegal Trafficing is less profitable and easier to dismantle.
Yes I would certainly want to be present. Regarding your 2nd point I'm ambivalent myself but I think it a little misguided to blanket feel sorry for all sex workers. There's obviously a world of difference between an addict or exploited person and someone making a positive considered choice to engage in that line of work. Do you also feel sorry for anyone creating adult content on onlyfans etc?
No, I don’t feel sorry for all sex workers in that sense. I think onlyfans, porn, glamour models etc to an extent make a choice to do those things. As with all sex workers it’s a choice. I think however these types of sex workers come with more privilege. The ability to work in a safer environment. When I say I feel sad for sex workers I was more encapsulating the feelings towards the image in my head. That of a Thai boy walking the streets, battling for the attention. Not particularly safe. Well paid. Or in a working role that promotes a steady life for a more typical relationship at home. I think the sadness is more a regards to the reflection that they are not in a position to have a comfortable, stable, warm relationship that we are more accustomed to.
you definitely need to discuss this with them before you actually go out there, or else it's going to affect the whole holiday. You need to find out if he's serious or not. He's probably trying to find out if you're horrified or not. You need to talk it through. Good luck
If this is something you want to do, make sure you both discuss this thoroughly and at length. This is not something that should be taken lightly. For once the "genies out of the bottle" it's not going back in and you will both have to live with the aftermath of it. Iso.