How do you all deal with the constant state of arousal? I'm finding after about 2 weeks of no orgasm, I want the whole thing to end. It is tough to focus on being denied as the end goal, and not pouting in the corner. I know if I ask for it, I'll be released and allowed to come, but most of the time I enjoy the game. The longest I've gone without orgasm has only been 20 days. Before chastity games, I'd masturbate every day. My KH is awesome, and will do whatever I want, so I'm cautious about topping from the bottom. Sorry for the rant, I guess I'm just looking for discussion about dealing with not coming whenever you want...
Time to start checking things off your list of (1) things you always wanted to learn, (2) projects you always wanted to do, (3) books you always wanted to read, (4) your honey-do list, (5) houses you always wanted to build, etc. I get a lot done sometimes when it's the only way to take my mind off of my preoccupation with sex.
This probably sounds counter-intuitive but my wife teases me for about 10 minutes every day or every other day before we get up in the morning. She brings me to the point of practically begging to be released. It usually takes a couple of minutes of holding her, being held, or giving her an orgasm for me to calm down. Somehow that helps me to manage the longer durations of denial. It must have something to do with hormones. Staying busy is also a huge help. Our life despite being only part-time employed doesn't allow for a lot of down time.
I used to get bratty when we first started chastity, but my madam soon put a stop to it as it drove her mad!
Brat here my wife always sleeps naked and yesterday she was stroking my balls and rubbing me uncaged. When I begged to go down on her she simply said No. Because I wasn't bring nice to her yesterday. She knows giving her oral pleasure is giving me the best pleasure. So when I pouted and turned around on my other side, she told me that I can cuddle her while being naked. I was putting my basering on and using babyoil to soften my skin. Then I turned around and she crawled into my groin, making me rockhard instantly, wanting her more and more. She simply said: be a good sweet boy and you can get what you want... Oh, I slept very good last night so I better be a good sweet boy then But yeah, I brat regularly
Sounds like me before chastity! Her refusal of sex was like a personal attack on me… Chastity eliminated this behaviour, the non-sexual evenings are now more rewarding in different ways.
I must say, this is very much true! She likes it when I crawl up to her and cuddle. Being denied seems to highten all my other senses!
And why is that? Can't a chaste man not brat around, hoping to trigger some sort of reaction from his KH/Wife/Domme/SO?
I hope nobody judges me for this. But I am a brat. My Domme enjoys it when I'm bratty because she gets to come up with "funishments" for me. As for dealing with arousal, I'm not sure how to help you deal with it other than to keep yourself busy. One of the biggest factors that caused my arousal other than teasing was watching porn. I had an awful porn addiction before my Domme locked me up. And watching it while being locked up only made it worse. Ever since I stopped watching it chastity has been much easier for me. I hope this helps
I don't think of a reason we would judge you we all have our own kinks/fetishes and/or some other interests Im a brat aswell, my wife and I had a very nice serieus talk yesterday about it. As long as I behave, my Orgasmdate is planned... and if not, well... it all can be delayed hahaha. Im looking forward to some bratting. She grabbed me by the balls today and told me i was a good boy... sjeesh, that made my day
Sounds like you’re in the toughest part still, allowing your wife to find her way of wanting to be in charge of your cock. It’s very difficult to actually let go of control, my wife would give in any time she thought I must really want to cum when we first started playing with a cage. Once we had what seemed about twenty talks about how I was really okay with being denied and okay with her making all the decisions on penis freedom and fun and orgasms, she slowly built up that confidence…..and then the switch flipped! And we both realized my wife was actually a very dominant woman lol, that guilt melted away and suddenly a few days of no cumming became a couple weeks, and then it was 20 days, then 30 and now I’ve had a 55 day stint lol. So maybe just keep doing things to build her confidence and control, without topping, keep letting her know it’s ok to push you further if that’s really what you want. Just remember that theme you’ve probably seen around these posts on here…. Be careful what you wish for! You may be a brat one day and get to cum, then be a brat a month or two from now and she’ll whip your ass and make you wait 3 months for release