We have been exploring our sexuality on-and off during the last couple of years - and OMG, have we tried and learned a lot about our selves during this time.... We have been on a loooong break for the last 1½ year or so - not from eachother offcourse, but from playing with others, and our sex-life..... we just - no I needed - to just be ourselves again and just be toghether without any disturbing play or fantasies - just the two of us, and nothing else, It has been good, and bad. I defenitily needed that break from sex-plays - but my husbond have been aching during this time, and that have created a lot of sexual tension between us. For a couple of months ago we had a serious talk about our sex-life and, we decided, that it was time to do something again... It has took me a while to get my mind set up again - and I knew that I didn't wanna end up where we were last time - so I've been exploring my mind for the last couple of months or so. My husbond is a sub - and he's been aching for me to take control during this "time off" period - we have had house-slaves before, but at that time we were both dominant - but since then, he has discovered his own submissive side wich is quite strong. It's been difficult for me to dominate him - I'd didn't feel right - and i didn't know what to do with it, and where to take it. I learned about chastity - and I instantly became attracted.... but I've just played around with the fantasies in my own mind. My husbond loves the idea of me being a "Hotwife" - I do too - to some point, but I don't wanna do any harm to our marriage - and we have had some very bad experiences with this before (and some wonderful as well!!!) Yesterday morning I woke him up, and asked if he still wanted me to dominate him? He agreed off course - but looked kinda confused. I told him to go pee, and wash himself proberly - and then return to bed to learn how his life was gonna change from this day on.... When he returned, I told him that I was tired of feeling "ignored" and tired of him searching for sex and porn elsewhere - so therefore - from now on, if he would like to have an orgasm ect. he had to get it from me only!!!! He looked kinda like this: :blink: He mastubates a lot..... I explained that in the beginning of our relationship - he really wanted to have sex with me..... I was his main sex-interest, everything else was not interesting - so off-course he gave me a lot of attention and affection in order for me to be interested in him as well. Understandibly after the years has gone by - I'm not quite as interesting any more - and he can easily get a kick out of flirting with others and searching porn online and maturbating to more exciting fantasies with other new women. But when his only way to orgasms goes through me - I - once again - will become very important. And as his wife I should be "the one and only" - and should be he main sex-interest - why settle for less?!?! He agreed totally I told him that I would have to dicipline him - not because he should get a kick out of it, or because it should be sexually satisfying for him - since I know he doesn't like it at all - and it would be with a whip - then he really looked like this: :blink: But he needs to have concecvences for his behavior and mistakes - and this will have to be necessary in order for me to make a clear statement. He asked for me to involve cockolding in our life.... and I agreed to do this again. I'm gonna find a goodlooking lover, that I can attend whenever I feel like my husbond is necleting me .... this will hopefully keep him on the toes We still haven't got a chastity-device - but I told him to wear a cock-ring at all times, so he ( and the skin) can get use to wearing something all the time - and then, hopefully shortly, we will find the right device - I think we'll go for MM. But for now - he can get use to the idea of me being in total charge of his orgasms, and get his mind set on the idea before he's being locked up. I'm so excited - and he is too, hopefully it's gonna be a wonderful, fun and joyful journey we have now started. Miss Foxy
Thank you for being so open. It helps those of us who would like to advice you a lot. Please be careful about involving others in your relationship right now, unless this is something you both have discussed a lot before. In this case you should both be fully aware of what the other of you expects. And you should have a good long talk after the first time so you both know about how your partner feels about it. If any of you are unsure, you should not try it. Chastity is easier. But a promise not to masturbate is nothing like being unable to masturbate. First time I was locked up in a device for a woman, I was really surprised. I had never felt that submissive before, and I still feel very submissive when I am locked. So if you both feel like you described in your post, I think you should get a chastity device. In Denmark SM-Shop have some models in stock. Otherwise you can buy from Tickleberry in GB where I bought my current device.
Jabber43: thanks for your reply! We have played with other people before, for a couple of years - so we know that it's kindda like playing with fire We just took some time off, because I got sick and tired of the "problems" when dealing with other peolpe in our bedroom. And I wanted my husbond for myself for a while.... This time around things has changed a bit! I'll be a Hotwife.... and he knows that he can trust me completely - I'm so not the cheating type, I would/or have never cheated on any of my boyfriends - in any way!!!! This is going to be part of the game - and he have asked me to - please - do so for a long time now. He is extremely turned on by me being with other men. Miss Foxy
Update: It's now tuesday, the 3rd day of our "new life" Things are going extremely well Sunday night, he was allowed to cum in a "silicone-cunt" - since he was quite horny and really turned on by this whole new game. Monday night, he was struggeling, since he had been horny all day long, thinking about all af this, and feeling the ring around his cock. He was just to please me - but ended up cumming, when he had to penetrate me, while I had a dildo inside me - he just couldn't control himself, even though he tried very hard. No need to say - he was extremely humble afterwards - he usually doesn't have any problems with holding back........ tsk tsk (I wasn't very pleased - well I was, since it mean that he really like this - but he doesn't know this ) Off-course I used his cock to get my-self off afterwards - he almost couldn't take it Today tuesday, we where both at home this morning since he could work from here, and I had to meet late. He was told to take a break from work and come and satisfy me in the bedroom - when we where lying in bed, he was apologising for not wearing a cock-ring (as he's supposed to) - but he took it off because our daugther came in the bathroom as he was showering this morning - and he didn't want her to see - and wonder... and he forgot to put it back on Tsk tsk...... It's MY cock now, and I want it to look nice!!!!! so he was not allowed to cum or penetrate me at all. But I had a nice orgasm.. He was hard and horny as ever But to bad - he need to earn his orgasms by pleasing me in all aspects. He asked for a cock-cage, since he said, that with this new life, he would be extremely horny, and would be tempted to play with himself even more..... so we proberbly have to look more into that in the nearest future - but for now it's working out ok, with me just telling him to keep his hands off. So all in all - it seems like it's going to work out perfect - with both of us very pleased and having a good time. Miss Foxy
Wow that sounds great to me. I also give you a big thumbs up Miss Foxy your learning how to use your controll over him I think its just great!
Congratulations on your new life. This sounds so much like how we started our "new " life together. I am now a femmed cuck and housewife for my wife and her lover. It is so satisfiying.
Miss foxy you are verrrrrry cute!!!!i hope this works for you as well. for the meen time the honor system might work?. i would get his cock in a cage pronto. masterbation is habbit forming for most males that have a libito and its possible to turn him in to a lier using the honor system. remember us guys are mede to spill the seed as much as possible> go forth and procreate.so the urge for orgasm is very strong.im like your person i was used to an orgasm at least twice a day and some times more since i was about fifteen.if you do the math i have filled more than a fifty five gallon drum with come in my life. masterbation is very distructive in a merriage i know ive been merried twice and i know that it hurt my merriages bad. after i masterbated and had an orgasm i didnt need her for a little while so i wouldnt treet her like i should have, because i didnt depend on her for my sexual reliese. i would never volenteer that i was masterbating, or even admit it either, and would even lie about it. Loris chastity has sone stuff on that very thing i suggest you read it it hit home with me. personally i believe every guy is masterbating on his wife or signifficant other way more than than they think.
Scotty1: I believe that you are right in many ways. He does masturbate a lot - that's not a secret....... and it's not the masturbation wich is the problem for me - it's the fact that he then "looses interest" in me and forget to "worship" me. Like you mention, it's a lot of work to make me feel desired and loved, in order for me to give him his orgasms - it's a whole lot easier to just take matter in his own right hand. He has asked for a cock-cage again this morning - so off course its not gonna be long before we get one. But for me, it's ok that we just start out by playng the phycological game - with the "honor-system" and me telling him to keep his hands off. In that whay, I hope to tempt him to want more of this CB-play (and it looks like its working) I told him, that it's going to be a MM-model, and he has to get in contact with the guy who makes them - and talk to him about the right fitting. Miss Foxy
Miss Foxy You should use the "there is no such thing as a free lunch" appraoch. Since he suggested you get a devise then you should make him "earn" it. Of course you want him in one but if you make him do something else for you then you'll both get what you want but you will get more and he'll think it's his idea. That worked on me and (giggle) still does.
Hi Miss Foxy He is one lucky guy. I love your updates. If you can afford it i would go for a steel belt then there really is no turning back ;-) best of luck!!!! keep us posted X
Ms. Foxy, we always need to remember the worship and care for our Mistress/Domme/lover. It's a constant reminder. Whether it's a wonderful massage or bath given - it needs to be constant and then we are allowed our gift as allowed by Mistress. You understand this and Your reminder to Your submissive hub will only assist him to learn and know how lucky he is. All the best
Well things are still going the right way..... and we're having so much fun He's off-course struggling a whole lot, since he's horny as ever - but I'm finding my own way, and enjoying my new discovered control. But during a golden shower he was getting himself way too excited and did cum, even though he was told not to - bad boy So I have now found a well-hung man, that I met with yesterday, to see if we had an connection. We did - So now I have a playfriend whenever my husbond fails his tasks, or is misbehaiving. I guess that will keep him on the toes, and in doing his best to please me So he is told - that whenever I feel that he isn't doing a good enough efford - I'll go elsewhere to get the satisfaction. The other day, he was told that I would let the dices decdide wether or not he could cum - then it was actually in his own hands. He just loved the idea, and was like a little child waiting for christmas, during that day - since he had to wait untill the evening before he could role the dices. He did cum that night - and was estatic about his luck. Last night he was so horny, because I've been on a "date" with that new guy.... He begged to cum - but I had actually said no, because of his insidence the night before with the golden shower. He asked for the dices once again. He was told that he could cum tomorrow - if he was just to wait, as I told him. And with the dices he might have to wait for 5 more days, if he was unlucky He was lucky once again..... as he said - dices are his new favourite game..... We've agreed - or I have told him, that when he reaches his ideal weight, he will be allowed to participate in my play with my new lover, and he will be pierced in both nipples as well. If this lifestyle works out for us in the long run, he will be pierced in his foreskin as well - then he can just get a lock directly thru his foreskin when he has to travel for more than a couple of days. But that won't be untill in another year or two. We're in the process of measuring for a CD from MM, but we just have to make some final decision before we order - almost can't wait It's so unbelivably nice to have an attentional husbond...... Miss Foxy
We use a combination of honour and devices. We have a birdlock, which when done on one hole is too tight and an the other a bit loose and the plastic strap came off. We also have a cb2k which causes problems at the hinge. So he wears them for a while then is out for a while. We have had time off, but usually both get bad tempered and want it back! MB
well it's been a while since I've posted anything here.... still reading up almost daily, but hav'nt really had anything interesting to tell. I'ts been going up and down here - and unfortunately, we kind of let, the otherwise good thing, that we had going on, fall to the ground a bit - so we havnt really been active for the last couple of weeks. We've both been extremely busy, so we've just worked and forgot to play One thing that I've found a bit challenging, is when we (me, him og both) are in some sort of a bad mood.... it destroys the fun in playing!!! What do you guys do? I guess we have to be better in communicating whenever one of us seems to be moody.... or probably I have to be better at it, since I tend to withdraw and ignore him. I told him to take measures and order a CD a couple of weeks ago - but unfortunately he hasn't come around to that just yet..... and I'm worried that he might just hate the the thought of being locked up. I asked him about it last night, and again he said that he has been too busy ect. well hope I can post someting positive again quite soon. Miss foxy
Wow Miss Foxy, it sounds like you both lead a pretty fun life. It sounds like your hubby wants to be a total sub but there is another side to him that doesn't want to give up total control forever, such as stalling on getting the cb. One thing to do is get rid of that unsure side of him with discipline. If he doesn't accept it then you need to tell him that you aren't going to go any further with it because he is either into it or he is out, so he needs to make up his mind. If he is in, then he needs to do everything you say and you must own your responsibility as the dominate one and do it, just like when you are promoted to a high position, such as the boss. You just do it. There are mistakes and there will be learning, but one thing you gotta own and that is you will be boss. No ifs. Tell him if your boss tells you to do something, you don't sit around wondering if you should do as told or not. You just suck it up and do it. If he doesn't then discipline will be administered. You own him. When you own someone, you don't second guess yourself if you own him. So do as you please and bring him into complete submission, which it seems deep down in his heart he really wants. To me, it sounds like he loves you very much and for him to have that trust in you that you are seeing another man, not many men can do that, so you are lucky in that. But with it comes a big responsibility to not break his heart. If that should happen in the future, then it is time to move on because he deserves trust because that is what he is giving you. Have fun Miss Foxy!
There is no point in playing if you are not in the mood for it. But of course it is important to communicate if you are in a bad mood and why. Both so he knows if it was something he caused, and so he knows if he can do something to help. It might be good for you both to get your man locked in a device. For me being locked up was what really brought my submissive side out. Not just as "this is an interesting challenge" or "this is fun to try", but as a deep feeling of wanting and needing to submit. And the interesting thing about chastity is that you do not have to play with it if you do not feel in the mood, or are too busy with work. You can just keep him locked, and you will both know that at some future time when you both feel like it there will be some play time. And believe me: If he has been locked for a week or two with no release, he will do his best to entice you to want to have some play time. But if you have no prior experience with chastity devices, I would not recommend that you start out with one of the relatively expensive metal devices. Problem is that getting the right fit can be quite hard, and even if you get the right fit at start, it can change after having worn the device for some time. For example, I had to go down one ring size in the CB-3000 I started out with after 2-3 weeks. So it might be better to first start out with one of the lower cost devices like CB-6000 and experimenting with the different sizes of rings and spacers that come with it. This way there is less of a chance that you end up with an expensive device that fits poorly.
well, things suddently went from "Not so good" to "Absolute awry".... and then on to "it looks like we on the right way" ?!?! :blink: Don't want to go into specific details, but we had a turn for the worse this weekend - and had to go over some quite big issues, which was kind of toxic for both of us, and made me feel like, wanting to turn my back on all of this and never look back ever again. I think, I really felt like taking a break from FLR for a while, even though we really havn't gotten in too any routines yet. But my husbond didn't agree on this at all. After we had some serious talking, he was quite determined to continue with this FLR - and even more so... he wanted me to become even more dominating and become a full-blown Domina. Last night he came and told me, that he had now measured for a CD - and he would be pleased, if I would help him placing the order :blink: (WHAT.... didn't see that one coming - never know what a good augument can bring). So now we're waiting for a device from Mature Metal.... but since we live in Europe, it will take a while Let's just see how things are going to turn out..... but it seems like he is acting quite submissive. Maybye things are going the right way from here - one can only hope so! Keeping my fingers crossed Jabber43: You're absolutely right, I don't like to play at all, if I'm not in the right mood. About the right fit - well we just go for MM in the first place, and if it then needs some adjusting after a while, then we take it from there. I do believe that when it comes to being a submissive - my husbond is in quite a fickle...... he really wants to be a sub, but on the other hand, he does make a lot of bottom-up controlling - which is fine for now - but eventually he has to let that go, and that will probably be quite challenging for him. Miss Foxy