Wives/partners aware of CM?

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    I'm not sure if this has been asked; if so, I have yet to come across such a thread. I am curious to know from all of those who are currently practicing chastity within a relationship, is your Wife/KH aware of Chastity Mansion? For me the answer is no, at least not that Im aware of. Half of me really wants to introduce her to CM and give her this incredible resource, and the other half is scared of opening Pandora's box. (I'm not looking for suggestions; I'm sure we would all unanimously agree that another verified female would be a beautiful thing.) Just wondering about awareness. If so, did you introduce it to your KH? How has that improved or otherwise affected your situation?
     
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    No my wife doesn't know i'm on here
     
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    lockedUp24byKH Yes Dear...Right away.

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    Yes, She did or does have a profile but she doesn't log in.
    I will often read posts and replys from here to her while we settle for bed and she enjoys this relaxing time.
     
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    My wife is happy to allow all chastity related things to be my own. If she ever wants research on anything (ruins, oxytocin, safety) she just asks me. So she’ll never be on here, she does just fine without.

    She definitely doesn’t know I’m on. I really come on as I’m banned from talking about it too much at home and I need to be able to get it out there. I think she underestimates just how big a part of life this becomes.
     
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    Many, many years ago Mrs Edge went to some of the online places to have a look. What she saw freaked her out so much that she had no interest in ever going back.

    But who could blame her? I've seen new keyholders join a group to ask questions and right away they get PMs from guys like "Here's a picture of my dick would you hold my keys?" I've seen innocent questions like "How long should I keep him locked?" with replies like "Solder his lock then find a big black bull and make him watch."

    To be fair I've seen at least one question from a newbie guy here about how to approach his wife answered with several replies about him being cucked.

    My point is that a significant portion of the "chastity community" often is so wrapped up in their own kinks and fantasies that they make it unpleasant for the vanilla wives or partners to participate.
     
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    She knows I'm on but is not interested
     
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    She knows I'm here and posts, and has absolutely no interest in joining
     
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    She does not know. She would have no interest, and would be and is concerned about outside influences that she would see as negative. I helped create this concern by over emphasizing my fantasies in our first experience with chastity. We are monogamous vanilla couple and, as Tom Allen pointed out, too many in this and other groups are totally wrapped up in their own kinks without any sense of self awareness or manners. I am here to learn, be helped, and maybe even help. I find this forum to be very valuable, along with anything from Tom Allen here or elsewhere.
     
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    No, my Wife does not know. She would consider it pornographic.

    Similarly, She does not know about loftier.

    She accepts my need to be in chastity and to have my orgasms denied when She desires sex, but it's not her cup of tea.
     
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    Yes my Wife knows and has checked out some things here, made a profile but hasn’t been verified as of yet. She knows I’m on here fairly often, but probably figures it helps keep me from overwhelming her with chastity talk lol
    When we first bought a cheap cage and started chastity play, she read some keyholder books and stuff online we found, and as most of you probably know, it’s basically a lot of jerkoff fantasy material.
    We’ve just been going at our own pace and trying different things over the last few years, figuring out how she wants to use chastity to enhance her sex life.
    I don’t know if she’ll ever decide to get verified and visit here much at all really, I don’t push it on her, just occasionally mention things I read here.
     
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    I fully agree with@Tom Allen above. The verified females make a fantastic contribution to the site and we are lucky to have them.

    Chastity is the common denominator in a very wide range of kinks discussed in the threads on CM. A vanilla woman browsing these pages for the first time may simply assume that their man not only wants chastity, but also feminisation, pegging, cuckolding, etc., etc. which could result in them being completely overwhelmed.

    It's obvious from some posts on here that many women have absolutely no tolerance for kink whatsoever, so I count myself very fortunate to have a girlfriend that indulges me with a bit of domination and chastity every so often, although admittedly, not as often as I'd like.

    She has no idea at all why I want her to lock-up my wedding tackle and take away the key. I have tried to explain, but she doesn't really get it. All the same, she's kind enough to accept that I'm just a bit weird and is happy to oblige me. I'm pretty sure that she'd dump me if she thought I wanted every kink, so best that I don't push my luck by asking her to have a look.
     
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    Not here specifically, no. Honestly, all the sissification talk would probably put her off. And I have to imagine verified female keyholders get all kinds of DMs.

    She uses other resources.
     
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    Yes, she knows that I use a couple of chastity related sites but has not expressed any objections. This place wouldn't be her cup of tea, she's shown no interest in browsing for herself.
     
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    I'm the wife. I introduced husband to chastity. He knows about CM and has read posts from me and others. I've asked him about things I've read here, too. So far, he hasn't wanted to post on any sites I visit.
     
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    Thank you all for pointing out things I overlooked (such as the barrage of DMs Goddess would be likely to receive if She were to join, etc.) If I do introduce Her to CM, I'll be sure to tread lightly, maybe just show Her an individual thread that might peak Her interest, leave it up to Her if She wants to explore further, and brace Her for the explicit material and personalities She will encounter here. But again that's only a big 'if'
     
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    Madame has full access to my CM account. She looks at her discretion. She reviews and preapproves any postings in my journal.

    She doesn't want a separate account at this time. She remarks often about some things are beyond her liking but also finds interesting.

    I have permission to post responses but I must inform her . She decides if she wants to have me read them back to her.
     
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    My keyholder knows I am here. I needed her permission to join. But she doesn't come her, as far as I know.
     
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    My Wife/Mistress/KH knows of CM, but doesn't want to join in.

    She knows that I visit frequently and chat to Mistress and other caged guys. We even talk about some of you and occasionally she'll ask how someone is or what they've been up to.

    A
     
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    My wife is a verified female here, but rarely logs on.
     
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    My wofe knows what I am doing. She enjoys the captions I take a look here and which I post.

    She also enjoys to hear about practises of other couples.
     
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    My wife is aware that I am on the site and she actually has an account here too, @QueenBumbleBee

    I believe she has used the site a couple of times to see if a chastity device will hurt our chances of having another kid, but outside that, I don't think she has investigated my post. I think she just looks at it as something I do in my free time to find other people in similar situations that might be able to give advice or need help with things.
     
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    you should make this a poll
     
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    I mentioned that I researched it for awhile before buying my cage, including checking various boards without mentioning CM specifically. That was intentional. I am way, way kinkier than my wife, and there's plenty of content here that occasionally squiks me out.
     
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    My wife / KH knows I'm on CM, but she has no interest in joining. I wish she did -- partly because I wish she was more actively interested in engaging in chastity and other kink in general, and partly because I think she would get ideas and might be turned on by what what she read. But her interest in chastity is pretty modest -- she supports me, and controls my orgasms (and keeps me locked 24/7 except for <10 releases for PIV a year) -- I'm lucky compared to many, but she doesn't crave learning or engaging more.

    She has expressed no concern that I participate here, and we talk about it sometimes.
     
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