What’s your “settle” time frame?

Excellent question.

For me, PREVIOUS experience allows me to settle in faster to a new session. That is, my skin already conditioned, used to being shaved, etc.

So starting a new session is tough for about five days. My erection attempts subside as yours do. The morning desire to stretch is just like a long airline flight. It’s not so much horny as just wanting to stretch. That’s even what I ask my wife for—a stretch. Not an orgasm, just an erection.

 

That is my yearning too. Just getting unlocked to have a proper erection is heavenly, even though my wrists are always restrained. If she gives me some oral just to remind me of what I'm missing, that is a real mind f**k.

But to the original question, I don't know because 3 weeks seems to be our limit til she gives me an orgasm. She is very aware of this, and I think I'm in for a much longer cycle this time.

 

I am occasionally granted a few days to a week off from chastity every few months. It only takes about 4 days for me to get back to feeling completely content and feeling that the cage is my natural state again. I’ve only gone past 3-4 weeks of orgasm denial a handful of times, and usually I hit that chastity “high” around two weeks or so.
But my body is very used to the cage, maybe the first night after a week of freedom will the morning wood wake me up, after that it knows it’s a futile attempt.
We’re nearing the end of our third year of using a cage, and it’s become more and more serious as we’ve gone, but my Wife does enjoy granting quite a few orgasms. So I’m pretty lucky…..we’ll see how year 4 goes lol

 

I recently changed my cage. It’s taken a week but last night I only woke up once through night (once being my standard, caged or otherwise).
However, I didn’t have any sort of break from caged life so that may be a shorter time frame than otherwise it would have been.

 

4-5 days if I'm lucky, 7-8 if not.

 

I do not have such a timeframe.
Mght be due to the fact that i am unlocked quite often (flights, sports, cleaning, sex etc.), but after that i am always back into my cage again quite fast. The last time I remember without my cage foor several days was about 3 years ago when we visited some muslimic states where it might have been unwise to have some sextoys with you.

 

Background: I am six months in chastity. I have PIV sex with the wife pretty often considering in the chastity world.

My settle in time comes about three weeks into strick chastity.

After PIV sex with only an erection the clock starts. If I have a ruined orgasm it adds a few days more.

The first couple days in the cage I can still get excited. That stops completely for just about the whole three weeks. Try as I might, no stimulation, no matter what!
It is a strange and unnerving. Look, touch through the cage, sound, fantasize, porn, try as I might, no reaction. Somewhere around the three week mark it just fires up all on its own. I walk around with what feels like a grapefruit sized ball of sexual energy between my legs. I remain in this state albeit not as intense until I once again have an erection outside of the cage. This is the feeling I chase and why I am in chastity.

Herein lies my dilemma, a true catch-22. If I have an erection outside of the cage (sex) it resets my clock. If I stay caged I don't get to enjoy the feeling of the rock hard erection my wife gives me.

She is vanilla and won't let me use a strap-on. She enjoys oral but wants my cock in her when she cums.

So there you have it.

 

Yeah I do agree that after a certain time chaste, I get ANXIOUS that the cock doesn't work (properly ) anymore...as the non chaste sexual stimulation doesn’t seem to work...just my wife's but she has low libido...

 

Oh yeah...I forget what the FEELING of orgasm is, like the ropes shooting out of the urethra....but I do like to give myself an erection when I deep clean the cock every 4-5 days and that's SO satisfying.

 

I changed my cage about 2 years ago, and it took me weeks to get accustomed to my new one, and I also had no break in between ether. It was a good reminder how difficult it can be getting used to being caged.

 

You’re probably right. In the past changing cages has taken longer.
When I say this was a new one, it was exactly the same as my last but with a slight bit of extra room. I didn’t even change the base ring.

 

I totally get this. It seems the best way to stop having erections......is to stop having erections!

I, along with buddy Rectrix, both feel that it’s the control of the erection that matters most in the chastity realm. I can far more easily give up cumming than I can the erection.

Yet, keep me locked for about five days with zero removal? And I swear I can no longer get hard. The precum still works, but without a hint of erection.

 

But then does your good lady's body make it hard again?

 

Days out doesn't equal days back in but it can be days to a week before I get back into the rhythm of being caged. Better to remain caged but when I'm let out for fun, we now have a rule that I go right back into the cage with no delays.

It just works so much better.

 

It's takes about 4 days after the last touch to stop fighting it but comes back after about 4 weeks when the desperation to orgasm starts to really build.

 

Yes. But only when unlocked. After a week or so of uninterrupted wear, that thing is staying soft in the cage.

 

i spose it really difrent with a lot of men cos someones get great big hard willys and they must be difrent .

 

It really depends. If I only have one orgasm then I can be pretty horny and desperate after just a few days, if I have more of an empty it can take a week to be that desperate. The more frustrating the better it is right? The horny without getting hard thing is a bit strange. Lovely but weird. I feel more needy for teasing before subspace kicks in, though I'm learning to see that as my problem when she is too busy or preoccupied, and try not to put that on her.

 

It varies, but there's definitely a marked change in feeling/attitude when it happens.
It can be anything from just under a week, to nearly three weeks.

 

Being in chastity 24x7 with removal for cleaning, shaving or a rare orgasm has suppressed spontaneous morning wood. However, I do strain for an erection any time I'm teased, when I think for awhile about my amazing wife, or when I read threads like this one about being denied (haha). Unlike my friend @Lazlo Toth , my little guy still strains to get bigger even after 5 days or more, probably because of feelings of inadequacy.

I read an article somewhere that men are at their peak sexually in the predawn hours of 4-6 p.m.. I've found this to be completely true for me. Most of my erections occur during this time when awake or after my wife wakes up and we cuddle and she teases me. As I've settled in to a tighter fitting cage, precum doesn't leak as much even with intense teasing when only a little slips out.

The first few days after release and an orgasm are the toughest. The last couple of times have been in the evenings when my wife wants to make it an "event". The worst is about 6 hours after O and my little guy desperately wants another "go". I don't get much sleep those nights. If I'm not back in my cage, I'm deploying "counter-measures" to avoid touching myself or I get up to put the cage back on fighting to get soft enough. I usually have to refit the cage after a few days to find the sweet spot with my anti-pullout and alignment of the pee hole. I think I would be better off relocking immediately rather than trying to "enjoy" a night of freedom because that's become torment.

 

I can't believe I didn't figure that out on my own?! It IS the erection that is most craved, not the orgasm! I do want to enjoy an orgasm, but what I really really want is an erection! A super hard and sustained hard-on! Thank you @Lazlo Toth for your insight!

 

It's always taken just over a month for me to stop getting "morning wood".
It takes much longer for the frustrations to subside to the point where you can just enjoy being horny without being able to relieve it.
I'm used to not having orgasms but never got used to having no erections. I miss that.

 

It's up to her whether or how often I'm allowed to become erect or spurt, but for me if she makes me spurt, it really takes 20-30 days to get back to that sweet spot where I really miss my erection and start to feel really beta and submissive.

 

We only went to about 3 weeks only one time but lockup last about a week typically . That being said it feels like 5 days is a beginning of settling in for me