Deep breath. And... relax. Here goes

Hi all, thanks for the kind messages of concern. We are fine, but sadly about a week ago, his father tripped on the tiniest step, fell awkwardly, broke his hip and now has various other complications. He's still in hospital. My Pete has been staying with his mum for the past week and I've been staying over there quite a bit too.

Obviously the chastity project is put to one side for the moment. I logged in once or twice intending to leave a post saying what had happened, but didn't really know how, or even whether, to deal with the recent messages here. I felt upset, but on reflection I think that was mainly because of the stress of dealing with hospitals, lack of sleep, distressed mother-in-law, distressed partner etc etc, rather than because of the comments people have written here.

I've found the support and encouragement on this site just wonderful - life-changing, in fact. I don't want to lose that. Verification would be easy enough, but everything gets hacked in the end and confidentiality is very important to us.

I'll post again in a few days. In the meantime, please be kind to each other (and to me!)

Sal.

 

Hi everyone,
Thank you for all the lovely, kind messages. The past couple of weeks haven't been much fun. My Pete's been staying mostly with his mum and communting to work from there. I've been staying there a bit too, but mostly kicking around here on my own, or with friends. Our chastity project has been the last thing on our minds, and nice hugs are the most physical that we've been.
Things are looking up a bit now. His dad is home and has some spark again and, good old NHS, there's some care organised and his mum seems to be coping well. Looks like being a long haul though. But My Pete is back here at home and I can see normality returning. I doubt there'll be much to report here though, for another week or two.
Thanks also for the comments about the odd negative post. I don't usually care about that kind of thing. I once worked as a moderator on an online board so I know what people are like and that everyone's different in how they want to let off steam in their own lives. I did get a bit upset this time because I had all the other stuff to worry about, but that only lasted 1/2 an hour or so.
Thanks again for the support! I hope to check in again in a few days.
Sal

 

This morning we had a shower together and I wore my necklace with the key. I didn't say anything or draw attention to it but I should think it was pretty obvious. As we were drying off, it got (ever so slightly) caught in my hair and I asked him to disentangle it. While he was doing it, I noticed he'd got excited. I asked him if he'd palyed with himself these last few stressful weeks. He said yes. I said that in the circumstances I thought that was fine but "shall we just pop the cage on now?" He just said ok, but I could tell he was very excited indeed. The shower attachment on 'cold' did the trick and he wrangled himself into it. I felt a lovely rush when I locked him - I'd missed that feeling, and I said so. He said he'd missed it too! And that was that - he went off to work.

He rang me about an hour later saying his hair was pulling and chafing - of course we hadn't shaved him this morning. I told him to use the emergency key and we'd sort him out later. He seemed incredibly grateful.

Two steps forward, one step back!

Sal.

 

Thank you! The past two weeks have been so odd for us that I think I'd have forgiven him anything! Sal.

 

Last night, I got home late. I knew that he'd removed the cage using his spare key because his hair was getting caught and chafing. I mentioned that we had a hot date with the shower and the shaver, but My Pete had already beaten me to it and shaved under the ring. He seemed so eager - too eager really - so I asked him if he'd played with himself when he'd got home. (I looked him in the eye like a naughty child.) And, of course, yes, he had. I thanked him for admitting it. I asked him to get back in the shower and shave himself completely (it's not something he likes). While he was in there, I took his spare key and wrapped it again so he couldn't use it without me knowing. I handed him the cage and asked him to tell me when he was ready to be locked. He came out, presenting himself and ready. I had mixed feelings - disappointed that he'd played with himself but quite pleased that I'd get to assert myself and honestly not that annoyed, given what he'd been going through. I tried to look stern though, and said that obviously there would need to be some punishment. I told him the first part of that was missing out on the attention I would have given it, had he not been so lacking in self-control.
All this time, I had my hand on the cage, just holding it together ready to be locked. I made sure to look him in the eye again when I turned the key.
He complained a bit about me asking him to shave and I ust said it was part of the punishment - he'll be reminded about his misdemeanour. I said I expected it would itch a bit...
Suddenly all the excitement of this 'project' seems to be coming back in a rush. We've both missed it.
Sal

 

We managed about a month recently but in hindsight it was too long - we were both getting a bit tetchy. Given what's been going on, I think locktober isn't for us, but maybe I can find some way to mark it! Sal